This is a topic that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. More often than not recently when I’ve been having conversations with people, at some point in the conversation they end up expressing how fed up they are about something, whether that be a job, a person, etc.
I feel like this is such an under-rated topic, which is odd considering how many people in this generation tend to complain about it. I’m speaking very generally about this, because it really can pertain to a number of different things.
Whether it is at work, in a relationship, or with family, everyone has their limit/breaking point and some people can only take so much. So when is it ‘okay’ to say enough is enough and walk away?
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I don’t think there’s any specific time to say/feel this (although others may feel otherwise depending on the situation), only you can truly be the judge of this. Only you would be able to determine how much is “too much” that you can and choose to take. This is definitely one of those ‘easier said than done’ things, because if you’re anything like me, you’re WAY too nice and tend to give people way too many chances.
Personally, in recent years my patience has grown incredibly thin. Actually, that’s not completely true, I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ve lost A LOT of patience over the past year, but I’ve also gained just as much patience if not more. Does that make sense? Probably not, but in my head it does.
Let’s back track a little…I’m the type of person that I put up with A LOT of crap from people, EVERYONE. I’m not necessarily a push-over, because I will speak my mind, but nowhere near as much as I should. I tend to say the gist of what I’m thinking to people, but not the full thing, which causes me to bottle a lot of what I’m thinking/feeling up.
The moral of me bringing that up is to make the point that lately I’ve had enough. I’ve reached my breaking point with a lot of people and things, which is what’s prompted me to cut a lot of those things out of my life and cut out all of that negativity. To a lot of people it’s probably felt sudden, but to me, it’s been building up for a LONG time.
I don’t think it’s bad for us as humans to do this. As humans, we’re constantly growing and figuring new things out; what works for us, what doesn’t, etc. It’s natural. I’ve learned that there are some things in life that are totally out of our control, but other things like this that even if it may suck or hurt in the moment to do, we have COMPLETE control over.
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Sometimes, saying enough is enough and walking away from certain people/things is necessary in order to better yourself or your future, no matter if it is a friend, family member or job. Don’t be afraid to let go of or put certain people/things in their place just because they’re familiar and/or a certain sense of comfort to you. Those things that you’re holding on to would probably end up being the same things that will hold you back later on in life (as I’ve come to the harsh realization about).
You literally are not obligated to put up with anyone or anything’s crap; of course be smart about it and weigh out the pros and cons of cutting certain things out of your life and its possible repercussions, but sometimes you kinda just gotta wing it and hope for the best. It’s your life, do what makes you happy. Even if it may seem a little iffy. I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I just don’t care what anyone says or thinks. I’m worrying about myself, my future and making myself happy. And if it ends up being that you were one of the things that I’ve cut out (which includes friends AND family), you’ll need to figure out what you did to make me do that because it honestly takes a LOT for me to make that kind of decision.
You don’t need to take crap from the people at your job. You’ll find a better job. You don’t need to take crap in a relationship (if they’re making you feel shitty and any less than you deserve), because there will be people out there to treat you like the King/Queen that you are. You don’t need to take crap from your “friends”, friends come and go, and true friends would not bring you down to begin with. And you certainly don’t need to take crap from your family, especially if you know you are doing everything you can at the moment to make your future life better. As long as YOU know you’re putting in the effort and work that is ALL that will truly matter and no one can judge you for that.
Value the people and things in your life that are not only going to benefit you (not in a selfish way), but also the things that will always lift you up and make you happy/feel good about yourself. Not the things that sometimes make you happy and other times bring you down and upset you or make you feel like crap. Screw that. Life is too short to NOT make yourself happy and live with people and things that aren’t going to benefit you and your future, especially if you’re at or around the age that I am (22 about to be 23).
Food for thought 🤷🏻♀️
-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤