RANT: Catcalling

Let’s start with the obvious which is, “what exactly is catcalling?”

For those of you that don’t know and/or maybe have just not heard the term, catcalling is making a whistle sound, shouting or generally making a comment of a sexual nature to a woman passing  by. So ultimately, when you’re being harassed in the street by a guy or group of guys….

You may be thinking, why are you writing an entire blog post on something like this? And the answer is pretty simple actually, it’s because in the day and age that we live in, it’s something that needs to be brought to light and spoken about more then what it actually is.

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For those of you that don’t know, I’m from the South Bronx, born and raised, where things like catcalling occur on a regular day to day basis. Obviously I know that this is something that happens universally, but I can and will only speak based off of my own personal experiences, which is what I’m doing right now.

This is a topic I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. It’s one that I’ve gone back and forth about writing for a while because it’s another one of those controversial topics. The only difference is, I’ve actually been a victim of this myself, for many, many years…since I was about 13-14 years old….I’m 23 about to be 24 in a few months….

How crazy is that to think about?

Granted, it’s not something that I’ve had to deal with every single day of my life, and obviously there are some girls/women that probably have it MUCH worse then me and others, but nonetheless I think it’s something that needs to get addressed more.

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Now to some, it may just look or seem as if a girl is ONLY getting complimented by a guy, right? And for some guys/men that IS actually all that is, but for others, it’s so much more…For others, it’s more along the lines of sexual harassment then anything else.

I can remember being MUCH younger, maybe early teens, having grown ass men whistle at me, etc. and my mom simply telling me to ignore it and brush it off. Now, I’m not at all blaming her for anything, because in hindsight, I can understand why she told me to do that, but to the same extent, I could never understand how grown ass men like that, who were old enough to be an uncle of mine, or even my FATHER, was trying to hit on me like that??? I mean I was ultimately a little girl compared to them.

And Lord knows things like that have really only gotten worse with time unfortunately. Some girls (including myself) can’t even walk down certain streets without having to worry about whether or not that’s going to happen and whether or not it’s even going to be one or several guys. ON TOP of worrying about to what extent exactly they’ll take it to.

This kind of harassment has gotten to a certain point for some girls/women that not only will the guys curse them out for getting ignored or rejected, but some of them actually take it to the extreme of actually getting violent with these poor girls, and either  beating, or even worse, killing them.

Thank God it has never gotten to that extent for me or anyone that I know, but it does STILL happen and it’s DISGUSTING. It’s ridiculous that girls/women have to not only watch their backs in the streets nowadays, but also have to be ‘extra’ careful in the things they wear for fear that it may draw too much attention to them??? And not even really watch what they wear because it’s to the point that girls can look bummy as hell and it still happens to them.

Women should be able to wear (to some extent) whatever the hell they want that makes them feel pretty, sexy and/or confident without having to worry about whether or not they’re going to get harassed because of it. It’s honestly disgusting and sad that that’s the kind of would we’re living in at this point.

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I’ve realized that I’ve become such an aggressive person because of things like that now, which isn’t necessarily good, but it is what it is I guess at this point.

Like, instead of simply ignoring it the way that a lot of people suggest for me to do, I end up feeding into it and them in a sense, by flipping them off in the streets when they try to talk to me, or cursing them out for staring so hard and/or trying anything, etc.

And I’m not at all suggesting for anyone reading this to do that, but that’s just where I’m at with this kind of situation, personally, from how “normal”, annoying and frustrating it’s become….

I suppose there’s no one real ‘purpose’ for this post other than me wanting to be able to rant about this thing weighing on my mind heavy lately, and the final 2 thoughts that pop into my head:

  1. Ladies…be careful out there. You’re all beautiful, and as much as we want to be treated as equals and be as free as possible, unfortunately in the day and age that we live in, we’ve got to be extra careful and safe out there in the world. So, stay pretty and please stay safe.
  2. Men….ya’ll gotta do better (not all men, but the dirtbags out there preying on little girls and grown women). Learn how to treat a woman, and learn how to respect them and their decisions if they’re not interested and/or decide to ignore you.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I haven’t done a rant/random rambles sort of post in SUCH a long time, so it felt pretty good to finally get one out there again haha.

Let me know in the comments below and/or through social media your guys’ thoughts on cat-calling. Have you experienced it before? How did you deal with it? etc. I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on it.

As always, thank you guys so much for reading. Please like, follow, share and comment and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

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PS: I really am sorry about being so M.I.A. lately on the blog. Although it’s happened a few times in recent months, you guys have no idea how much I hate doing that and making (what feels like) excuses to you guys about why I’m not posting. There’s just been a lot going on, and that’s no excuse, but I’m doing my best to get back on track and keep pushing through to continue to be as consistent as possible with you guys.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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The Road To Success

In light of the new year just (for the most part) beginning and everyone creating vision boards for their goals, making new resolutions for the year, etc., I’ve been thinking a lot about the road to success.

What exactly is the Road to Success and how do you get to it? Does it always work? Is it the same for everybody? Will what works for me, work for you as well? What exactly is the key to success and achieving all of these goals for the year that you’re setting for yourself?

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Robert Frost once said, ” Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” In other words, do what you don’t see others doing. Be different. Be bold. Be unique. Do what feels best for yourself.

So, to answer my earlier questions, I think the way that you get it and/or find it is completely up to you. I think if something works for you, then you should continue to do that thing until you are shown otherwise. And I do not think the same tactics you use for yourself to succeed will work on everyone else.

With that being said, everybody works differently, does things differently in general, etc., so what works for me, MAY work for you, but there’s also a big chance that it may not, and that goes for everything. And even if it DOES work for you, chances are, somehow or another, you tweaked it in some way, shape or form to your own liking (which is okay!).

I could very easily tell you what I consider to be the Road to Success, or what I think it is anyway, but it would just solely be based off of my own personal experiences, preferences, etc. so there’s really no right or wrong answer for what it actually is.

I do, however, WANT to tell you guys what I think are steps to getting to the Road to Success because it may inspire you to follow those steps but have a different and even better outcome then my own, or even just create your own steps for how to get there.

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Ultimately, I think the Road to Success is what you make of it for yourself. It’s whatever makes you feel right inside and happy.

So, personally, these are a few of the things I’ve done to make sure that within myself, I’ve succeeded at what I’m doing, or at the very least, am on my way to reaching success…

  1. Find what it is that you’re most passionate about.
  2. Once you’ve found that thing, just do it….A LOT.
  3. Read about it, learn about it in different aspects, and learn ways to perfect it.
  4. Actually try to perfect it.
  5. Do not let the thoughts or opinions of others bring you down for what you’re trying to do (it’s easy to be intimated by people’s opinions, but it’s always going to be a learning process, and no one can judge you for that and/or take that away from you).
  6. Take criticism with a grain of salt. Constructive criticism is always welcomed (or should be), but some people like to criticize without actually having any real insight on what it is you’re saying/doing. So, hear them out, take what they’re saying and try to use it in a positive way to better yourself.
  7. Always focus on the goal(s), that which ultimately is to succeed in whatever it is that you want to do, and don’t let anything get in the way of that.

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Those are a few of my steps to finding and achieving the Road to Success, to some degree. I’m sure there are PLENTY of others, but at the moment, those are the only ones that I can think of.

But, one of the most important things I think that there is to truly keep in mind about the Road to Success, is that it’s always under construction and will be a work in progress.

There’s always going to be something you can do to make what you’re passionate about, better. It also doesn’t happen overnight, and does NOT come easily. But that’s okay, because nothing worth having comes easy.

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Just something to keep in mind/think about amid the start of the new year.

I hope that this post inspired you in some way, shape or form and motivated you to want to start your journey of seeking the Road to Success. I also hope that one day, whether soon or in the future, you actually make it there and that I have the pleasure of being able to read about it.

Leave a comment down below what you guys think the Road to Success is and/or your steps for getting there. I always love hearing from you guys.

Please follow, like, share and comment and I’ll see you guys in the next one. ❤

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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Reading List For 2019

*This one is for my fellow book lovers! ❤ *

A new year, a new list of books to try reading before the end of this year.

Last year I had made it a goal of mine to try and read 30 books before the end of 2018, unfortunately with everything that was going on in my life, I wasn’t able to complete/achieve that goal and I had sort of put any sort of reading in the back burner.

I LOVE reading and getting to buy new books, but I suppose that just goes to show how much crap I was going through at the time that distracted me from actually doing the reading.

HOWEVER, I would really like to try and get back to it because I have a TON of books backed up since last year that I really need to get to and am excited to read.

With that being said, I am making it a goal of mine (again), that by the end of 2019, I will have read (and documented that I did so) 30 books or more.  We’re still in January, and I’ve got plenty of time, so I really think I can accomplish this goal if I start ASAP.

So, because of this goal, I wanted to share with you guys a few of the books that were on my reading list at the moment, which is the main purpose of this post today.

Let’s make a challenge out of it, if you’re interested, do what I’m trying to do, and by the end of the year or even throughout the year, tag me in all of the books you end up reading. I’d LOVE to hear from you guys about it, and who knows, we’ll probably even end up recommending a few to to each other along the way to make the list grow longer/faster! 🙂

Scroll down to see the list of all the books I plan on reading throughout the year thus far….

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In no particular order:

  1. Through The Looking Glass And What Alice Found There, by: Lewis Carroll
  2. Harry Potter And The Cursed Child, by: J.K. Rowling
  3. Unrivaled, by: Alyson Noel
  4. Stay With Me, by: Mile Gray
  5. Every Breath, by: Nicholas Sparks
  6. You Are A Badass Everyday, by: Jen Sincero
  7. The Little Book of Writer’s Wisdom, by: Steven D. Price
  8. Inspiration And Motivation For Writers, by: Chloe Henderson
  9. A Christmas Carol, by: Charles Dickens
  10. Hocus Pocus & The All-New Sequel, by: A.W. Jantha
  11. Written In The Stars: Constellations, Facts and Folklore, by: Alison Davies
  12. Spirit Healing: How To Make Your Life Work, by: Mary Dean Atwood
  13. Be Your Own Astrologer: Unlock The Secrets Of The Signs & Planets, by: Joanna Watters
  14. The Summer List, by: Amy Mason Doan
  15. The Girl You Thought I Was, by: Rebecca Phillips
  16. The Super-villian And Me, by: Danielle Banas
  17. The Dutch Wife, by: Ellen Keith
  18. Sadie, by: Courtney Summers
  19. The Dream Sourcebook,: A Guide To The Theory And Interpretation Of Dreams by: Phyllis Koch-Sheras, PH.D. & Amy Lemley
  20. The Kiss Quotient, by: Helen Hoang
  21. Mindfulness: A Practical Guide, by: Tessa Watt
  22. Blog Inc., by: Joy Deangdeelert Cho
  23. The Little Book oF Answers, by: Doug Lennox
  24. The Four Agreements, by: Don Miguel Ruiz

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Well guys, at the moment, those are all of the books that I have lined up to read throughout this year, and I’m sure that at some point or another, I’m going to attempt to add a ton more to it (I CANNOT be trusted in Barnes & Noble alone haha).

I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that you end up accepting my little challenge and keeping me updated throughout the next few months of where you’re at with your reading. I’d love to hear from you guys about this! 😀

Please like, share, follow and comment and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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