6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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My Word Of The Year & Why?

Hey guys,

I’ve been thinking a lot about this recently, ever since I started putting together the materials for my 2020 vision board at the end of December; and as I was putting everything together, I realized that a KEY TERM that I kept using throughout the board was consistency.

Super important and obvious to making anything happen and/or successful, right? Yes, but is it just that easy? No.

Let me take a few steps back and talk to you guys a little bit about my 2020 vision board first and foremost, then I want to speak about why the word ‘consistency’ is so important and going to be my word of the year.

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My 2020 Vision Board

Pictured below is the board, let me know what you guys think about it this year, compared to my 2019 one (I’ll leave my 2019 blog post about it linked here)! 😅 I was, and still am, SUPER proud of it.

*Also just so that you guys know, I did an entire video on my YouTube channel showing how exactly I put it all together, so if you haven’t checked it out yet, I’ll leave it linked here for you guys to see! 😊*

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If it may be a little bit difficult to see, I broke my goals up this year into Personal, Relationship and Business goals. Obviously ALL of the goals on the board are super important to me, and although what I’m talking about in this post is relevant to really anything, I am mainly going to be focusing on my business goals.

For my business goals, I have things on there like be consistent and better with my Instagram content, grow my blog and be more consistent, and even though I didn’t write the word ‘consistent’ in it, it was the same with hitting 1,000 subscribers on YouTube.

It wasn’t planned for me to use that word throughout them all, and I actually didn’t even realize I did that until I finished writing them all, but I think that’s just because subconsciously I KNEW that in order to do everything I wanted on there, then being consistent was what I was going to have to do, plain and simple. But, is being consistent REALLY that easy?

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Consistency and Why It Isn’t Easy

As obvious and important as consistency is in relatively EVERYTHING that matters to us, is it really THAT easy? Personally, I think that it could be, but definitely not always.

I think that if you are passionate enough about something, then of course you’ll do anything in your power to get it done or whatever the case is, but just because you’re getting it done, doesn’t make it easy to actually do.

For example, with my personal business goals and work (Instagram, my blog and YouTube), I have SO many different ideas for all of those things, it’s crazy, but actually executing them and making sure it comes out exactly how I want it and being proud enough in it to actually want to make it public for you guys to see is the difficult part.

In theory, if you have an idea it should be relatively easy to just make it happen, but that’s not always the case. It could be raining so it ruins my location idea for a shoot, therefore, that day that I had planned for IG content has to get cancelled and/or postponed. My video idea could go to complete shit for one reason or another (editing program issues, equipment damage, awful lighting, the idea just doesn’t make sense, etc.). Same thing with a blog post, it’ll sound like a great idea in my head but when I FINALLY start to sit down and write it out, it makes no sense and I’m not happy with it, NOR do I have a back-up option in that moment. The list really could go on.

I know that it sounds easy to just be like, just be more consistent, and maybe for some people it really is just that easy, but for people like me (the psycho perfectionist) who only ever wants to try putting out the best possible content for my followers in all different forms as well as being proud of what I’m putting out, sometimes it’s really just not that easy. It’s definitely something that I want to work on which is why I have it on my vision board this year, but it is definitely going to be tricky. Sort of piggy-backing off of my previous post, sometimes you can plan as much as you want for these things, and things could still go wrong, making you unable to have or want to put out content for that day.

It’s a bit of a contradiction because consistency is SO important and the only REAL way to grow any sort of brand, business, etc. IS by being consistent, making mistakes, learning from them and being better, but I just wanted to let you guys know (since sometimes people don’t seem to understand it), that consistency isn’t as easy as some may think, which is why it’s something I really want and hope to work on throughout 2020.

I know what I want and I know what to do for these things, but it’s just kind of having to take it day by day, not put so much pressure on/into it, make sure I’m having fun and enjoying what I’m doing, and just kind of push to keep going and be better.

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I saw this quote and thought it was super relevant, because I do believe that progress, no matter how big or small, is still progress at the end of the day, even if it’s JUST coming up with the idea for your work sometimes.

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I hope that you guys enjoyed this post and were inspired by it in some way, shape or form. I know that it was a little random and I hope I made sense through it all, but like I mentioned, it’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. Plus, it’s an important thing to talk about. Consistency in anything that you care about and want to succeed in, really is key.

If you did in fact enjoy this post, please make sure to drop a like and/or comment about it. Your guys’ feedback is always important to me. Thank you guys so much for reading, if you haven’t already, please follow my blog and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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How I Schedule My Work Weeks

Hey guys, happy Tuesday!

If we’re being real I am one of the, if not, THE biggest procrastinator of all time. I’m not proud of it, but it is what it is at this point, I’m working on it.

I’m trying to get myself on a better and more set schedule for everything I tend to work on, and because of that, I’m putting my planner to MUCH better use this year.

I’ve made a vow to myself that in 2020 I will no longer procrastinate, I will be much more organized and keep myself on somewhat of a more strict and consistent schedule (when it comes to my personal work anyway).

Unfortunately, a lot of times no matter how much planning a person tends to do, many things can go wrong and end up throwing you off course, which is why I try not to stress it too much because I know certain things like that ARE inevitable. However, it doesn’t hurt to have some sort of plan set up (as contradicting as that may sound), because you could always figure out ways around this stuff, which is what I’m going to be talking about and showing you guys in today’s post.

I’m going to be showing you guys my planner, talking about some of the things I tend to work on (even though most of you may already know at this point), and how I plan out my work days.

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My Planner

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I am and have always been OBSESSED with planners. Pictured above is actually my 2020 planner. My mom got me this for Christmas this past year, and I BELIEVE she got it from this store called The Christmas Tree Shops (not sure if it’s only in New York). I’m literally obsessed with this thing at the moment.

It’s pretty self-explanatory what a planner is and mine really isn’t that much different compared to other planners honestly, but I just really love how it looks on the outside and inside. It comes with inspirational quotes for each month, stickers for to-do lists, and a decent amount of space per day to be able to write any and everything you may need to. I use it to write down special dates, trips that are coming up, to-do lists that I may need to remember, etc. etc.

Shown below is an example of what some of the pages look like on the inside.

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Putting my planner to good use and scheduling my work days

Putting my planner to good use can be very hit or miss just because I have my relatively set Monday through Friday schedule as far as my full-time job and going to the gym afterwards. Weekends are a lot more easy and flexible to be able to plan and work on my personal stuff.

I do tend to try and sometimes get personal work done DURING the week, while I’m at work or after work on my off-days from the gym, but that’s what makes it hit or miss.

I’m at my full-time job from 9am-6pm Monday through Friday, then MOST days after work, I go to the gym and am there until about 8:30-9pm, then by the time I head home, eat something and get ready for the next day, it can be anywhere from 10-11pm or sometimes even midnight.

There is usually one day during the week that I try to skip the gym and use that time to either shoot some Instagram content with Geno and Diego, do some editing for my new video at the time, or just to catch up on some rest.

As far as shooting Instagram content, I kind of have to find out when I’m shooting on a weekly basis, and I say that because Diego and Geno are usually the ones that take my pictures, and depending on THEIR work schedules for the coming week, will end up determining when I’ll be able to shoot my stuff. Recently, it’s been somewhat consistent lately in that it’ll be on Wednesdays and one day during the weekend (it alternates between Saturdays and Sundays). As for actually posting my Instagram content, I usually try to upload the very next day after shooting, that’s always the same.

If I’m not busy trying to shoot on the weekend, it’s usually because I’m using that time to film and/or edit a new video. Every week I try to film usually on Saturdays (it’s just better and easier for me that day). Then depending on the video, I’ll start editing it the next day, Sunday, or Monday, and try to have it up no later than Wednesday. *This is one of those things that I’m trying to be more consistent with*

As for now with my blog, this is another one of those things that I’m REALLY trying hard to get myself on a stricter schedule for, I usually come up with my blog post ideas during the week while I’m at work, work on it on Sundays and am trying to be consistent with posting new posts on Tuesdays (as I am at this moment). If for whatever reason I don’t finish the post on Sunday, I’ll work on it while I’m at work on Monday and even a bit on the day of , just to make sure that everything is good to go when I publish it.

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Scheduling things like this can be a little crazy sometimes because there are SO many different things that need to be taken into account, but I think I’ve been doing a relatively good job in making it work.

I’m definitely not perfect, and there have been times (as I’m sure there will be in the future), where I’m not at all going to be able to stick to my plan/schedule for one reason or another, but I know that I’ll find another way to make that work somehow.

With things like this (blogging, Instagram content, filming videos), it also makes everything THAT much more simple when you already have in mind WHAT exactly you’re going to be working on that day; whether it’s the specific video, the outfit and location of the place you’re gonna be shooting at or the particular blog post.

I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I hope that it helped you get a better idea about how I tend to schedule my work days, as well as possibly even got YOU interested in wanting to invest in a planner. They actually really do come in handy and I recommend getting yourself one if you tend to have a lot going on in your life.

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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