Making The Most Out of a Bad Situation

Hey guys, how’s everything going?

I hope that you all are doing well and staying healthy and safe in the comforts of your own homes with your families, significant others, etc.

For today’s post I wanted to talk a little bit about making the best out of a bad situation, which I think we can ALL agree that we’re kind of in right now with the whole “quarantine” stuff going on.

I did a similar post to this about 2 years ago (which I’ll leave linked here if you want to check it out), and as I just mentioned, given the circumstances of where we all are right now and what’s going on in the world, I thought it was important to re-create it to some extent.

It’s awful, it’s annoying and it REALLY sucks, but in this very moment, we unfortunately cannot do much to change the ways things are other than following what medical experts and our elected officials are telling us to do which is to STAY INSIDE. Don’t go out. Don’t come into contact with too many people at a time. And try to be as smart about all this (as far as stocking up on food and necessities) as possible.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy because it’s definitely not, but I can only continue to hope and pray that by doing all of this and following the “rules” that these officials are giving us, that it’s going to make things better with each day that passes.

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Since all of this is so out of our hands and up in the air, the only thing I think we can REALLY do at this point is try to stay as busy, productive and distracted as possible while we’re stuck at home.

I for one am definitely the type that cannot stay still. Those of you that know me and/or follow me on social media know that I am always on the go, always have something going on or that I’m working on and typically tend to go stir crazy being stuck at home for more than just a day. However, under the circumstances, I don’t exactly have a choice. I/we are going to be at home for a LONG time. That being said, I’ve put together the below list of things that I plan on doing throughout this time in quarantine (aside from working lol), that also may peak your interest while being at home moving forward.

Things to do:

  • The first thing I personally am going to do is genuinely try to enjoy these first few days I’m home and off. Let’s get it out of our system whether it’s just the first day or first three. Personally I know these days are well deserved off for me, as I’m sure it’s the same for you guys as well. I’m saying to enjoy them as best you can and do nothing right off the back because realistically, when are we ever really going to get a chance like this again? Being at home, doing relatively nothing but relaxing and (more or less) not really having a care in the world. I don’t know about you guys, but I personally don’t get too many days like that in my day-to-day routine.
  • Start a new book or book series (i.e., the Twilight series, Harry Potter series, Hunger Games, Pretty Little Liars series, etc.). Something that will take you a while to get through.
  • Find and start a new TV series (or movie collection). With all of the different streaming services in the world today, it should not be difficult to find SOMETHING to watch and get into, even if you may not have cable.
  • Get into listening to Podcasts. People suggest this a lot, and when I first heard of that I was definitely like ehh, but then I started looking into it myself and finding certain ones that really peaked my interest and I got into it more and more. I would listen to them on the train going and/or coming from work. Walking home. I even used to listen to it as I was doing cardio sometimes. There are some really great and inspirational ones with amazing vibes within them (I have an entire post dedicated to my favorite ones which I’ll leave linked here if you guys want to check it out).
  • Practice Self-Care. There is no better time then right now to be able to practice self-care whether that’s taking care of your skin more regularly, giving yourself a mani/pedi, meditating, practicing yoga, etc. Take care of yourself now more than ever.
  • Home workouts. This one is SO important (for me personally anyway). One of the biggest disappointments I’ve had thus far throughout all of this is the fact that every single gym in New York is closed right now and I have no way of being able to strength train at the moment anymore. So, because of that I need to get a little creative and start to come up with a home workout routine because who knows how long I/we are going to be stuck home, but either way, summer is approaching so I’m still trying to have that ‘summer body’ mentality in mind and stay in shape.
  • Teach yourself how to cook/bake something new (or several new things). I’m actually kind of REALLY looking forward to this because I used to be so in love with the idea of cooking and baking when I was younger, I would always find and save recipes for my mom and I to be able to try making together (which we did a few times). But, as I got older, I started being more on the go and spending less time at home, which prompted me to never have time for making stuff for myself, so since I still live at home with my parents at the moment, whenever I get home at night my mom usually is the one to cook and leave stuff for me on the side. I know how to make a few things here and there, but I’m excited to hopefully take some more time out to learn how to make more meals for myself.
  • Spring cleaning!! This one is pretty big for me too because I’ve been saying for a while now that I want and need to take the time to just stay home, go through all of my clothes and what not and get rid of anything/everything that I don’t want or use anymore. SO I will 1000000% be taking advantage of this time home and finally be siting down to do that at some point. Out with the old, in with the new!!
  • Clean up and organize the pictures/videos on your phone. Since I’ve been taking my blogging and Instagram content more seriously in recent months, I’ve been taking SO many pictures. But because I end up taking so many, after I take the one or 2 that I end up using to post, I end up leaving all of the rest just kind of sitting in my camera roll from each individual shoot so there is a LOT of build in there at the moment. It is a must that I do a bit of spring cleaning in my camera roll throughout this time as well haha.
  • For my creators out there, take this time to try and plan (and execute if possible) new content!! It can be so difficult to plan out content sometimes, especially when you throw in having a 9-5, going to the gym early in the morning or right after work, balancing a relationship, friends, a home life, etc. Now is the PERFECT time to try planning out new content (whether it’s Instagram, YouTube, blog posts, etc.) for when we finally come out of quarantine. But also, try creating new content. It can be difficult because there’s only so much you can do at home, but this is the time to really try getting creative and putting things together for your personal brand or whatever you may be working on/towards.
  • and finally, take this time to RESEARCH and EDUCATE yourselves (as I obviously will myself) on all of the serious stuff going on in the world right now. Although it’s all the media seems to be talking about at the moment, I promise you that there is SO many other things going on in the world OTHER than the virus. DON’T listen to everything that news outlets and the media has to say, do your own research and help yourself understand all of this whether it’s with the virus, the financial repercussions that may or may not come out of this or all of the employment stuff going on and that will happen after all of this is over. Yes, it can be very scary and/or nerve-wrecking to read a lot of what’s going on or going to happen, but I personally would rather educate myself and somehow be prepared for what’s to come then go in blind and not know or understand half of what’s going on.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that it genuinely was helpful to you in some way, shape or form. Things are SO difficult right now, but try using this time to take a step back from all your normal responsibilities for a little bit, relax, recharge and come back better then ever. Usually the new year is a time to really “start all over” and “start fresh,” but maybe THIS is what will be our fresh start.

This is the time to take advantage of all the free time we’re going to have in the coming days/weeks and do all of those things that we typically tend to put in the back burner because we “don’t have time.” Time is all we really have right now.

So on that note, stay productive. Stay inside. Stay healthy. Stay safe and I will see you guys in my next post.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. If you did, please make sure to drop a like and make sure that you’re following my blog to stay up to date whenever I post! Thank you guys so much for reading and I’ll see you guys in the next one.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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My Word Of The Year & Why?

Hey guys,

I’ve been thinking a lot about this recently, ever since I started putting together the materials for my 2020 vision board at the end of December; and as I was putting everything together, I realized that a KEY TERM that I kept using throughout the board was consistency.

Super important and obvious to making anything happen and/or successful, right? Yes, but is it just that easy? No.

Let me take a few steps back and talk to you guys a little bit about my 2020 vision board first and foremost, then I want to speak about why the word ‘consistency’ is so important and going to be my word of the year.

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My 2020 Vision Board

Pictured below is the board, let me know what you guys think about it this year, compared to my 2019 one (I’ll leave my 2019 blog post about it linked here)! 😅 I was, and still am, SUPER proud of it.

*Also just so that you guys know, I did an entire video on my YouTube channel showing how exactly I put it all together, so if you haven’t checked it out yet, I’ll leave it linked here for you guys to see! 😊*

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If it may be a little bit difficult to see, I broke my goals up this year into Personal, Relationship and Business goals. Obviously ALL of the goals on the board are super important to me, and although what I’m talking about in this post is relevant to really anything, I am mainly going to be focusing on my business goals.

For my business goals, I have things on there like be consistent and better with my Instagram content, grow my blog and be more consistent, and even though I didn’t write the word ‘consistent’ in it, it was the same with hitting 1,000 subscribers on YouTube.

It wasn’t planned for me to use that word throughout them all, and I actually didn’t even realize I did that until I finished writing them all, but I think that’s just because subconsciously I KNEW that in order to do everything I wanted on there, then being consistent was what I was going to have to do, plain and simple. But, is being consistent REALLY that easy?

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Consistency and Why It Isn’t Easy

As obvious and important as consistency is in relatively EVERYTHING that matters to us, is it really THAT easy? Personally, I think that it could be, but definitely not always.

I think that if you are passionate enough about something, then of course you’ll do anything in your power to get it done or whatever the case is, but just because you’re getting it done, doesn’t make it easy to actually do.

For example, with my personal business goals and work (Instagram, my blog and YouTube), I have SO many different ideas for all of those things, it’s crazy, but actually executing them and making sure it comes out exactly how I want it and being proud enough in it to actually want to make it public for you guys to see is the difficult part.

In theory, if you have an idea it should be relatively easy to just make it happen, but that’s not always the case. It could be raining so it ruins my location idea for a shoot, therefore, that day that I had planned for IG content has to get cancelled and/or postponed. My video idea could go to complete shit for one reason or another (editing program issues, equipment damage, awful lighting, the idea just doesn’t make sense, etc.). Same thing with a blog post, it’ll sound like a great idea in my head but when I FINALLY start to sit down and write it out, it makes no sense and I’m not happy with it, NOR do I have a back-up option in that moment. The list really could go on.

I know that it sounds easy to just be like, just be more consistent, and maybe for some people it really is just that easy, but for people like me (the psycho perfectionist) who only ever wants to try putting out the best possible content for my followers in all different forms as well as being proud of what I’m putting out, sometimes it’s really just not that easy. It’s definitely something that I want to work on which is why I have it on my vision board this year, but it is definitely going to be tricky. Sort of piggy-backing off of my previous post, sometimes you can plan as much as you want for these things, and things could still go wrong, making you unable to have or want to put out content for that day.

It’s a bit of a contradiction because consistency is SO important and the only REAL way to grow any sort of brand, business, etc. IS by being consistent, making mistakes, learning from them and being better, but I just wanted to let you guys know (since sometimes people don’t seem to understand it), that consistency isn’t as easy as some may think, which is why it’s something I really want and hope to work on throughout 2020.

I know what I want and I know what to do for these things, but it’s just kind of having to take it day by day, not put so much pressure on/into it, make sure I’m having fun and enjoying what I’m doing, and just kind of push to keep going and be better.

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I saw this quote and thought it was super relevant, because I do believe that progress, no matter how big or small, is still progress at the end of the day, even if it’s JUST coming up with the idea for your work sometimes.

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I hope that you guys enjoyed this post and were inspired by it in some way, shape or form. I know that it was a little random and I hope I made sense through it all, but like I mentioned, it’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. Plus, it’s an important thing to talk about. Consistency in anything that you care about and want to succeed in, really is key.

If you did in fact enjoy this post, please make sure to drop a like and/or comment about it. Your guys’ feedback is always important to me. Thank you guys so much for reading, if you haven’t already, please follow my blog and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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