Confidence Is Key

You guys, if there’s any 2 things that I can take away from 2018 thus far, it’s that 1. if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will and 2. confidence is EVERYTHING.

2 majorly important things, that which are not at all easy to achieve for some. In fact, for some (many…..most?), these 2 things are things that take YEARS to master.

You need to believe in yourself in order for other people to, and not in a “you have to please and/or prove anything” to them type of way, but more of in a “oh he/she is not only serious about what it is they’re doing, but they’re also owning the heck out of it,” sort of way. There’s a major difference.

I’ve learned that doing that (along with your actual work obviously) is going to end up not only attracting more people to you as a person, but also whatever work it is that you’re trying to put out there to the world.

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As I said, I’m fully aware that confidence like this doesn’t happen overnight, in fact, it’s something that may take YEARS for you or anyone to perfect, but that’s okay.

People are going to talk regardless if you’re succeeding or failing at whatever it is that you want to do with your life. There are ALWAYS going to be haters, critics, and people who just generally don’t care about the work you’re putting out into the world. Which, for a long time it’s going to suck to see, but as long as YOU know that you’re working hard and being the best version of you and your work possible, that is ALL that should truly matter.

Although most times it’s easier said than done, you need to do your best to ignore any and all negativity that may be blocking you from doing your best work. Being insecure about putting yourself out there and receiving negative or no feedback at all can be REALLY discouraging, that’s normal, but you can’t just let those feelings take over and win.

Take those feelings and use them as motivation to add fuel to your fire to want to do TEN TIMES better than you were before, because if you keep trying your hardest to put that all aside and putting your best work out there, I promise that slowly but surely you will begin to see results.

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I’m not an expert, and I’m obviously still learning with each day that passes, but I’ve dealt with this SO many times, so speaking from experience, take it from me. I’ve been doing this blogging thing for a little over a year now, and similar to doing YouTube, sometimes it gets REALLY hard, harder than people may think. That’s because there are so many bloggers out here trying to make it and trying to do what I’m doing that it gets discouraging to see sometimes when I don’t get likes, views, comments or followers on my post.

I used to take it SO hard, to the point where it would stop me from wanting to write altogether, and don’t get me wrong, every once in a while it still happens, but after reading various bloggers’ advice/tips on how to see results and get better with your blog, PLUS this book I read (which I’ll speak more about later on) and other things on the internet, I gained my confidence back and learned a few things…

  1. How do I ever expect to achieve a fraction of the dreams/goals I have for myself if I get discouraged and just stop altogether? I told myself that although it may be a little difficult right now, that I knew what I was capable of with my writing and reminded myself about what exactly I wanted to do and get out of this one day.

And 2. Although there may be a lot of people with similar blog themes, topic ideas, etc., no one will EVER have the exact same way of thinking, writing and/or expressing their thoughts as me. Everyone, including myself, is different in how they do things believe it or not. We may all have similar ideas, but we express them in unique ways. NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME!!

Obviously I specified these examples for my specific case with writing and my blog, but it’s equally the same with any other field as well. It’s all about finding what you’re good at, making yourself stand out from the rest somehow, and just perfecting it from there. It IS do-able!

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I mentioned earlier that there was a book I read that actually REALLY helped me gain some of my confidence back. The name of the book is “YOU ARE A BADASS; HOW TO STOP DOUBTING YOUR GREATNESS AND START LIVING AN AWESOME LIFE,” by: Jen Sincero. It’s actually a pretty popular book, so many of you may already have seen/heard of it before and I’ve actually spoken about it before in my ‘Top 5 Favorite Motivational Books’ post (which I’ll leave linked here if you guys wanted to check it out), but if you haven’t, I HIGHLY recommend that you pick it up.

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Just based off of the title alone, I think it’s self-explanatory, but it really is a great and super-relatable book. Anyone that’s read it before I’m sure can vouch for that. It’s also not a complicated book at all, in fact, it’s full of quotes, examples and personal stories from the author that really help to break it down for anyone that may be lacking the confidence in themselves to succeed and conquer their dream(s).

I’m attaching the link for you guys here to be able to purchase it. I also am posting a snippet of it for you guys to determine for sure if you’d be interested and want to actually buy it.

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Rome wasn’t built in a day and hard-work never goes unnoticed (believe it or not). Believe in yourself, keep working hard no matter what and own the shit out of whatever it is that you’re most passionate about and want to do and watch the positive outcome for it happen sooner rather than later.

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I hope this was helpful to someone out there to some extent, if not I hope you at least thought it was an interesting read. Thank you guys so much for taking the time out to actually read my stuff. Please follow, like, share and comment, and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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Top 5 Favorite Motivational Books

Hi Guys!

If you didn’t know, I’m a HUGE reader. 9 times out of 10, if I have any free time and I’m either not at work, the gym or working on my blog, I probably have a book in my hand. And lately, I’ve been REALLY into books that are like the motivational/inspirational kind you know? So I figure I write a little post detailing the ones in my collection recently that I’ve absolutely been loving.

So, in no particular order, let’s get started!

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  1. You Are A Badass; How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life. By: Jen Sincero

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This is actually SUCH a great book. I just recently finished it, and I honestly did not want to put it down. It’s not complex at all, it’s actually really light-hearted and funny, but the main points being made throughout it are super clear. Ultimately, it’s one entire book filled with stories, advice, and exercises to try on your own in order to help you understand why you are the way that you are, change the things in your life you don’t like or aren’t happy with and create a life for yourself that you completely love. 100% recommend to anyone that may be feeling like they’re at a bit of a stand-still with their life.

Click here to purchase it on Amazon or here on the Barnes & Noble website.

2. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck; A Counterintuitive Approach to Living A Good Life. By: Mark Manson 

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Now this book….this book right here is a fucking gem. It’s a pretty popular book at the moment, and has been for a while. This is another one of those books that’s super light-hearted, but at the same time it’s amazingly raw and inspirational. It’s pretty much taking everything that most inspirational books will tell you like the whole ‘when life gives you lemons, make lemonade’ motto, and saying fuck that. Mark Manson goes into detail without at all sugar-coating anything, that sometimes shit happens and you just kind of have to learn from it and move on. He talks about learning to accept each and every one of your flaws and learning to make something out of them all. It’s so raw, vulgar, and overall an amazing MUST read lol.

Click here to get the hard cover or paperback version on Amazon, or here to get it at Barnes & Noble.

3. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. By: Don Miguel Ruiz

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This is a great book for inspiration and helping to put things into perspective in your life. This little book is almost completely based off of Toltec wisdom, and it teaches about these 4 agreements that help to ensure you’re living your life to be able to experience love, freedom and true happiness. If you’re not much of a HUGE book reader, but are still looking for some reading inspiration, this book might be perfect for you because it’s tiny and gets right to the point of things.

Click here to purchase it at Barnes & Noble or here on Amazon.

4. Mindfulness: A Practical Guide. By: Tessa Watt.

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If you’re anything like me, then every so often you need to read books like this, because they pretty much remind me to slow down and really enjoy/live in the moment, which I tend not to do very much, as much as I may want to. This book is all about being mindful. It gives tips and exercises for you the reader to try on your own and bring in to play in your day to day routines. There’s breathing tips, meditating tips if you’re into that, etc., and it just overall tries to help you be more open and mindful of the things in your life and around you that you might not typically be aware of. Another short, but very helpful and inspirational book I would say and recommend.

Click here to purchase the book at Barnes & Noble.

5. 50 Things That Really Matter. By: Hallmark, Rodale Inc.

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This is a REALLY good and cute little book, because it really puts everything into perspective, for me anyway. You have so many people around the world that always tend to fixate on the dumbest little things, but does any of that REALLY matter? This book really breaks it down and not only names, but describes in detail, 50 realistic things in life that may seem minor, but SHOULD really matter to a person. As they say, it’s the little things in life, you know?

Unfortunately, I don’t remember where or how I bought this book, and have been looking all over the place online for a legit site to be able to link for you guys to be able to purchase this from, and all that’s coming up is Ebay. So if anyone else happens to look it up and finds it, please let me know and I’ll link it, unless you guys trust Ebay, then that’s totally fine too.

What are some of your guys’ favorite books to read when you’re looking for some extra motivation? I’d love to hear it in the comments below and get some book recommendations from you guys! 🙂

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤


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