One Year Post College Graduation Life Update

I can’t freaking believe that it’s already been an entire year since I graduated from college. Where the heck did the time go?! A lot has happened and changed in that time, so I figure it would be cool to give you guys a little post grad life update from the past year.

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For those of you that don’t know, although I was able to walk down the aisle at the SUNY Purchase College graduation, I didn’t actually get my diploma that day. I was still a few credits shy of being able to officially get it, but I am super grateful that they allowed me to walk with my class and not wait a whole other year to be able to do that. I won’t get into TOO many details with that because I did an entire post on why exactly this happened to me and what I had to do in order to be able to officially get my diploma, which I’ll leave linked here if you wanted to check it out. However, ultimately I spent the majority of my summer after the ceremony taking online classes to fulfill the amount of credits I was lacking.

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To say that it was incredibly annoying and time consuming was an understatement. I mean here I was pretty much in the mindset that I was done with college and school in general, but still having a foot through the college door with these online classes. The entire thing was the epitome of so close yet so far. But I knew I had no choice but to get it done because I had gotten this far, so may as well. It was good though because I had to take 4 summer online classes, and they were all separated, meaning I had one that started the week after the graduation ceremony (in May), one that started in the beginning of June, one that started at the end of June, and one in July. So none of them overlapped with each other or were too stressful, but I always said I did 100 times better with online classes then otherwise anyway, so I guess in that aspect it was totally fine.

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First Few Months After College

While I was dealing with my last couple of classes I was also applying to a ton of “real” jobs all over the place, because I mean c’mon, I was about to officially be done with school and knew I had to do and find SOMETHING work related once the summer was over. I know I shouldn’t have been, but I was also being super picky with which jobs in particular I wanted to apply for because I had already worked 3 different retail jobs in the past 3 years and was beyond over THAT.

So that’s what I spent the majority of my time doing, while also working at a summer camp where I pretty much spent every summer before that. More than halfway through the summer though, I got a call while I was at work in reference to one of my applications, and how they wanted to have me in for an interview right away which was freakin’ amazing because I had only started applying to places about 2-3 weeks before. *Spoiler alert, it was for the job that I’m currently at in the city!* A few days later I went for the interview, everything went amazing and a few days after that I got called again but this time to come in and temp for the day to see whether or not I would actually like working there. Long story short, I loved it, they loved me and I obviously ended up getting the job!

It was actually really crazy because I think I got the call for the first interview in the first week of August, during the second week of August I got called to temp, and I remember the day after my birthday (the 18th) I got offered the job and they wanted me to start on Monday (the 21st). Everything was happening so freaking quick, but honestly what did I care? I was just so excited to have been offered the job pretty much right out of college (which also keep in mind, at this point I had just  finished all of my online classes, passed them all and officially done and out of school), so the timing could not have been better.

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My Current Job

I get asked all of the time what exactly is it that I’m doing now, and ultimately I work at a law firm in Midtown East as a receptionist/law assistant. The firm is pretty small, but it’s extremely successful (I would say the name but I’m not entirely sure how that works with mentioning them and what not, so I’ll just play it safe and keep that part out). And yes, I know that it probably doesn’t sound as “all that” as I was hyping it up to be, but honestly it’s an amazing position. I’m the type of person that I NEED to be kept busy in my work, otherwise I’ll get bored super quick and end up hating what I’m doing, but with this job I’m ALWAYS doing something which I love. I’m either working on emails, answering phones, mail, FedEx, filing, working on agreements, or paying bills. Something is always going on. And even if there are a few days where it’s really quiet (like right now for instance because my boss will be away in Florida this coming week), it’s still fine because I can do things that I like or want to do like read, write or work on the blog.

 

 

*Obviously I love to dress up in work clothes btw ^; Also, clearly my range of posing isn’t very diverse haha.*

A lot of people tend to say and think that the work I do is more for people who are interning as opposed to an actual job let’s say, but I really don’t care because it’s not at all a difficult job, and I’m getting paid pretty fucking great for “the little” that I do, which actually isn’t a little at all because when it’s busy, it’s freakin’ busy. Plus, considering it’s my first “real” job that isn’t at all affiliated with retail right out of college, I think it’s pretty great, so I’m definitely not complaining. *(Also, I hope I don’t come off as being upset or cocky or anything along those lines, because that’s really not my intention. I’m just trying to clarify for the people who have told me some of these things before).* I am beyond grateful for getting this job, especially since I had no type of office experience, so my office manager was giving me the benefit of the doubt and taking a huge chance on hiring me, and thankfully, it’s turned out for the best. Everything really does happen in its own time and for a reason.

*Can we talk about how I just made 8 months here already too?!?! What the hell, Father Time needs to slow that shit down a bit man!!*

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My Career & The Future 

I also get a ton of questions about whether or not this, working in a law firm, is what I studied and/or want to do with the rest of my life and the answer is NO. I did not study law while I was in college and I do not want to do anything in the field of law. I have no interest in making a career out of this, HOWEVER, being here and doing the work that I do to help out my boss has taught me A LOT, and I will say that it is an interesting type of work. It’s just not necessarily for me or what I see myself doing.

For those of you that don’t know, I got my degree in the Bachelor of Arts with a specific concentration of journalism. This is where it gets kind of complicated because yes, I studied journalism, but I discovered a little too late in my college career that I didn’t actually want to do journalism. I knew that I loved writing, but I didn’t want it to be in such a “strict” setting the way that journalism standards typically tend to be (and no I don’t mean that in the sense of deadlines and what not). I want to be able to do more of creative writing in books and like this on a blog than anything else, but by the time I realized this I was already finishing my junior year of college about to start my senior year. So it really would not have made sense for me to switch majors so late then pretty much have to completely start over with a new one. Plus journalism and creative writing are one in the same in the sense of writing as a whole, so it’s not like I completely wasted my time or anything like that.

Bu ultimately, no, working at a law firm is not what I want to do as far as a career, so I don’t plan on staying at this job forever.

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Adulting *Cue the dramatic Horror Movie Music*

I know that speaking of or even thinking about adulthood and “adulting” can seem like such a terrifying thing, but honestly I was SO excited to finally be done with college and start living my normal adult life. Sure being completely independent and trying to make your future happen can be a scary thing, but personally, I could not wait for it. I have yet to miss or regret wishing for my school years to be over so I can do my own thing. The only thing I can honestly say that I miss a little is campus life. Being able to dorm and have the roommates I did (predominantly in my last year), other than that I truly don’t miss any of it. In retrospect, I think I’m the happiest I’ve ever been being out of school, working and almost completely supporting myself. And no, I do not in the SLIGHTEST bit have everything figured out in my life, but it really is an exhilarating feeling to know that I have complete control of everything that goes on in it from here on out in spite of the times that may feel or seem questionable and/or as if I’m lost. I hope that makes sense.

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Overall, life is just really good right now. I’m working a great job. My family is all doing really well. Diego and I have SO many plans for ourselves that are currently in the works and we’re about to make 4 years together in like 2 months. A lot of my friends and just people in general that I know are prospering in SO many different and insane (good) ways. I get to go to the gym regularly, which I LOVE now. The weather is getting better and warmer. And I get to do the things that I love on a regular basis. By no means, am I trying to say or make it seem like my life is perfect, because it most definitely is not; there’s always going to be side stuff that’s going on with family, work, your relationship or friends, but in general, it’s just a really good time in my life right now that I’m genuinely happy about it.

I’m definitely nowhere near where I want to be or doing what I want to do, but everyday I’m taking new steps to make sure that I get closer and closer with each day that passes.

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You know that feeling you get when you feel like you’re meant to be and do something big? I haven’t quite figured it out for myself yet, but everyday that feeling intensifies more and more, so I’m taking it as a sign from God telling me that I’m in the right direction, and I’m getting closer to it. I just need to keep doing what I’m doing and working hard at it. So that’s exactly what you’ll catch me doing. I’m excited to see what the future holds for me and the people I care about in my life. Year one is down, and I can’t wait to see what the next couple of them have in store for me.

 

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

No Means No.

Being what/who you think everyone wants you to be isn’t cool, nor is following what everyone else is doing. What’s cool is saying no, sticking to your guns, and being okay with yourself about it afterwards.

I know this totally probably sounds like a cliche, mom type of post, but I have a ton of little cousins that are kids right now, some that are in Junior High School, and some that are just starting High School and College where things like peer pressure happen all the time as if it were the norm. So I guess this post is more for them and people in that age range than anything. I know they all may have parents and/or older siblings of their own to help them with things like this, but it’s just something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

Peer pressure is real, and it can be a scary thing for those who aren’t as strong-willed or know how to handle things like that. Sometimes the people you least expect to pressure you into doing certain things, are the ones who not only do it the most, but do it in the most inconspicuous way that you’ll never realize it until it’s too late.

I feel like it’s a ridiculously common misconception for people to believe that peer pressure solely revolves around drinking, smoking, and/or drugs in general, but that couldn’t be more false. Peer pressure can literally be anything. Anything that YOU don’t want to or feel comfortable doing that other people (friends, or otherwise) try getting you to do, can and, most times, is definitely considered peer pressure. Whether it’s something as “simple” as these people convincing you not to check in with your parents after school like you normally would do or cutting class with them, to something as serious as someone (or people) trying to convince or force you to try hardcore drugs or have sex with someone, it’s all one in the same, and it’s all peer pressure to some degree.

I can’t tell you how many times people, old roommates, friends of my old roommates, etc., would constantly try to push me to try smoking or getting shitfaced with them every weekend. Like don’t get me wrong, I drink occasionally, have gotten drunk, smoked hookah, etc., but it’s because I’ve wanted to do it, not because I ever let anyone force me or talk me into it.

Anyone who really knows me, knows that if I say no, it’s going to be no and nothing the person/people say or do is going to change that. If anything, the more they ask and/or try to get me to do it, the more I’ll get uncomfortable, pissed off, and just straight up want nothing to do with you.

For instance, I just have no type of interest in doing/trying any kind of drugs, from the hardcore shit to the “simplest” stuff like weed. It would do nothing for me other than probably make my paranoid ass more paranoid than what I already am. Plus I’ve seen family members of mine, friends, and just people in general that I know get really fucked up mentally from THEM doing these things that they previously got pressured/talked into doing somehow or another many many moons ago, so why am I going to let other people attempt to talk me into doing those exact same things? For that? To end up like them? Yeah, no thanks.

And don’t get me wrong, some of my closest friends that were roommates, old co-workers, etc. do these things and one thing I’ve always told them, I don’t care if you smoke, drink or whatever, just don’t involve me in it if I tell you I’m not interested. It’s that simple. You do it? Cool, that’s fine, I respect and have no issue with it, so respect how I feel and just don’t bring it to me.

There’s nothing wrong with experimenting and trying some of these things (although yes, some of them are considered “bad”, but that’s besides the point). The point is, there’s a difference between doing these things because you want to and doing it because others want or are trying to get you to do it.

The word ‘No’ is a powerful word that not many people hear or take seriously anymore, especially in the day and age that we live in. And it’s a shame because it’s really gotten to a point where there are people in and around the world that if they see or hear that you tell them no about something, they will not take no for an answer and will go as far as drugging and/or raping them, if not worse (not that those things are worse, but I’m just saying).

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No means no, that’s it!!!! Don’t give in because you feel forced or want to feel like you fit in among your friends or whoever. And if you do end up doing any of these things at all, at least make sure you’re doing it because you actually want to and know what you’re getting yourself into.

Don’t let it bother you if people make fun of or tease you because you don’t want to do something. And I know that may sound cliche, and easier said than done, but it’s the truth. That’s just their way of being obnoxious to attempt to pressure you into whatever it is at the time; sadly though, many times this is what actually causes people to give in to the pressure just for the sake of shutting these people up and saying they tried it.

People will use some of the most annoying, ridiculous phrases and excuses in the book just to attempt to convince you. “What are you scared of?” “I dare you,” “What’s the big deal?” “I thought you loved me, prove it,” “Don’t be a chickenshit,” etc. etc. etc. And a lot of these I’m sure reading them will remind people of something you would hear in a movie or tv show, like who really says stuff like that? Who would actually give in to people saying those things? But it really is true. People do say dumb shit like this, and other people sadly fall into it and end up giving in.

Who cares what other people have to say? Who cares if they won’t be your friends anymore after you saying no? Who cares if your boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you afterwards for you not being ready? WHO CARES? People are going to talk regardless. You’ll make new friends. And you’ll find a new boyfriend/girlfriend who loves you for who you are and respects you for your decisions and/or how you feel about things.

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It is your god-given birth right as a human being to be able to have your opinion about something and say no if you don’t agree or feel comfortable with it. Doesn’t matter how big or small, or how serious or not it may seem. If you’re not comfortable with doing something, say no, it’s okay. Don’t feel like you have to give in just for the sake of fitting in and having friends, or being considered “cool.” You shouldn’t have to prove anything to anyone (in that aspect or any really) in order for them to be your friend or accepted in general. If they’re your REAL friend and REALLY love/care about you, they’re going to be your friend and respect you more because you said no and stuck to your decision.

Self-love and self-respect will always be more important than the acceptance of others, always remember that; because at the end of each and every day, YOU’RE the one who’s going to have to go to bed and live with the decisions/consequences that you created, not them.

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-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

 

To The Lost Minds Out There Still Trying To Figure It Out 💭🚶🏻🚶🏻‍♀️

Fear of the unknown is a fear that can truly scar a person’s mind and well-being. Feeling lost, not knowing what the next move is going to be, what you want to do in the future, or fear of being stuck in the same daily routine and having no sense of success or prosperity in whatever it is you may be doing.

Today’s post is going to be for all of my fellow high school, college, and post-college kids. Those of you who may be feeling really lost right now because you feel as though you have no idea where your life is headed.

We’re at a point in our lives, and an age, where it feels like we should have everything, if not most of it, already figured out.

High Schoolers: Ya’ll are supposed to be making, or starting to make, big decisions in your life about college; picking the right schools, figuring out what you want to major in, whether or not you should stay close to home or get the hell away from it, etc.

College Students: You’re pretty much considered an adult already; you should be using this time to figure out the more “important” things in your life than just partying and hanging out all the time (or so people assume this is all you do).

Post-College kids: People think/assume that we definitely must already have everything figured out; where we’re going to work, relationships, where we’ll live, and pretty much just have our whole lives mapped out in front of us already.

ALL OF THESE EXPECTATIONS ARE UNFAIR AND UNREALISTIC!!!! 

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It’s because of the society we live in today and how the media tends to portray all of these people and things, that forces us and the people around us to have these unrealistic expectations of “having it all figured out.”

Not everybody is a celebrity or general public figure. Not everybody will have everything figured out, planned, and set for the remainder of their lives by the age of 17-18 (A.K.A. the Kylie Jenners and Justin Biebers of the world). And if you are one of those people who this has happened to, congratulations, that must be really great for you; but for those of you who don’t, that is perfectly okay too.

 

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This is not the point of your lives where you HAVE to have everything figured out. This is the point of your lives where you SHOULD be having fun, enjoying life and making mistakes along the way. We’re young, this is the point of our lives where we’re just starting to figure it all out, and you know what? It’s going to take a while. It may take a year, it may take five years, but that’s okay because these things take time.

I know so many people who are currently struggling at the moment to figure out what the next move in their lives should be. They feel like their not going anywhere with their lives and like they could be doing so much more, and they’re so hard on themselves because of it. That may be true (that you could be doing so much more), but take your time and figure it out as you go along.

Yes, it’s fine to have a plan for yourself and dreams, but keep in minds things can/will change, that’s inevitable, and you could end up on a completely different path for yourself than what you originally envisioned.

I don’t have it all figured out, sure I have a plan for myself but I’m always prepared for it to change, whether in the smallest or biggest way; it happens. You just have to remember that it’s all part of life’s process, and we have to learn to trust the process. But don’t beat yourself up over not having it all figured out, and as a result, you rush the process and just settle for whatever first comes up.

NEVER SETTLE!! Yes, of course it’s fine to be realistic for some, if not many, of these decisions you would make, but I always tell people that have spoken to me about their fears for this to at least try going for the things that you love to do first. Try it out, see how you feel about it, and if that doesn’t work out then that’s okay, but at least you would be able to say that you tried it out, and then moved on to something else.

Try a million different things and see which one, or few, work for you. Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity and excitement! Screw what the media and society in general thinks and tries to categorize as “the norm,” do what makes YOU happy and take your time doing it, because at the end of the day it’s your life and you do what you think is best for YOU. Not what you think other people want for you or will accept. Don’t be afraid to take risks, don’t be afraid of getting judged by fellow family/friends, who cares what they have to say or think. People are going to talk regardless if you’re doing good or bad, so may as well do what you want anyway.

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Don’t feel rushed to figure everything out, take your time and really figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. But also, don’t use you feeling lost or the fear of the unknown as an excuse to not do anything at all. You have to be helping yourself figure it out in some type of way; set aside a certain amount of time throughout the day to really sit down and figure out your interests/hobbies, which you like the most, and which you could see yourself getting far with in a career. No one’s going to do that for you, especially since nobody knows you better than you.

You got this, you’ll figure everything out eventually. Take it step by step, day by day. Don’t rush, take your time, and everything will work itself out for the best. It’ll all happen at its own time and pace.

That’s all I’ve got for today, hope you guys enjoyed this post, and until next time!

 

-Xoxo Leo Girl<3