The Best Friend Tag!

Hey Guys!

Hope you’re all having a great week back after the nice long Labor Day weekend. I thought today’s post should be something fun and sort of light-hearted, so I figure why not do a tag post? It’s been a while since the last time I did one of these, so I think it’s appropriate timing.

I had gotten a few recommendations to do the boyfriend tag, the best friend tag, etc. So, a few days ago on my Instagram story (@thatleogirlem), I asked you all to vote on which you would rather see first, and a lot of you voted on the best friend tag so that’s what we’re going to be doing today!

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My best friend, for those of you that don’t know, is named Michelle (@_emperax if you wanted to check her out/follow her on Instagram). We met back in our freshmen year of high school, and have been friends ever since… I cannot freakin’ believe that next September that’s going to be 10 years of friendship..what the hell?! Time really flies man.

*(The cover photo I have for this post was actually one that we took back in like 2011!!)*

Obviously this is a blog, and you won’t really be able to see or hear us interact much which is kind of unfortunate, but we’re making the best out of what we’ve got right now!! So the way that this is going to work is that I’m going to be asking Michelle a series of questions, and we’re going to see how well she knows me, then below whatever her answer is, I’ll say whether she’s correct or not and give my own answer if necessary.

So let’s get started! 🙂

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1. What is my full name?

M- Emily Caitlyn Hernandez 🤪

2. What is my astrological sign?

M- You my friend, are a Leo (hint: her blog name)

Me: 🤪♌️

3. When and where did we meet?

M- We met in high school freshmen year, late 2009, in history class.

Me: GLOBAL history class with Mr. Rae 😂

4. What was my first job?

M- Your first job was at Aspira!

Me: Yes, with all the little kiddies👶🏼

5. Do we call each other in any special way?

M- BEEEBEEEEEEY! & we say dude a lot out of habit.

Me- tis true 😭

6. If we could go anywhere in the world together, where would it be and why?

M- I think we’d want to go to Italy because Emily has Italian in her and I think she did want to experience the Dominican Republic Too.

Me: YESSS. Italy is like my number 1 place to want to go to, and we’ve always talked about going to DR together at some point!

7. Who takes more time to get ready?

M- Hmm everytime we’ve texted each other while getting ready, one didn’t really take longer than the other, so tbh I think we get ready at the same time and pace-ish.

Me- Definitely! Whenever I text her to let her know I’m almost done or whatever, I’ll be like I just gotta do my hair or my makeup, and she’ll just so happen to be doing the same thing, so we somehow always work at the same pace 😂

8. Would you live with me if you got the chance?

M- Yes, not even just because we’re so close, but the fact that I know Emily’s responsible and would hold her end is something I’d do/want.

Me- And I would be the best roommate ever 🤷🏻‍♀️🤪

9. Do you think I would die for you?

M- umm damn I guess maybe? I hope so? This question threw me off.

Me- sorry! I saw this and figure why not throw it in there?! 😭 but yes I would die for you 😤👋🏼

10. What’s our craziest memory together?

M- We have SO many memories together, but a crazy one I guess I’ll pick the Halloween party at Purchase your senior year. Let’s just say we enjoyed ourselves…

Me- I know I definitely did and will never live that down 🙃🎃

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11. Do I want kids?

M- Yes, you’d like 2 children for the most part but may be down for a third depending on your situation. I do know Diego wants a ton so buenooooo lol

Me- my ideal is definitely 2, but any even amount of kids in general will do. I can’t stand odd numbers so .. 🙃

12. What is my greatest fear?

M- I do know off the top of my head that you have a fear of roller coasters, but you may one day face that fear.

Me- I’m the biggest scaredy cat EVER, but yes roller coasters are def. up there along with ANY kind of snakes and spiders.

13. What is my dream job?

M- Your dream job as long as I can remember has been to be a journalist, you’d be great at it, such a good writer!

Me- Yes! Writing in general pretty much 😊✒️📖

14. What is my lucky/favorite number?

M- I wanna say 6..4..omg…7?!

Me- 8!!!!! Anything with the number 8 pretty much I’m obsessed with (and even numbers in general)

15. What is my favorite tv show?

M- all time? Friends for sure, you can probably watch re-runs forever.

Me- LITERALLY 😭

16. How many years have we been friends?

M- Nine years in a few days, sheesh time flies.

Me- this time next year it’ll be 10 years!!! That went by SO quick 😭💖

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17. Do I like ketchup, mustard or both?

M- AFUERA with both of them lol. You’ve never been a fan of either, in that way we’re different because I’d always overboard it on the ketchup; though I believe you might change that eventually.

Me- Negative. I hate all condiments like that! 🤢

18. What is one insecurity that I have?

M- maybe people’s take on your writing, even though it’s bomb and only improving.

Me- that’s definitely something I struggle with. Whether or not people are going to like and/or judge me, my writing and thoughts in general.

19. What is my go-to Starbucks order?

M- I’d say caramel macchiato. I’m not too familiar with the whole no ice, half 2% with a dash of salt talk lol, but we’re both definitely coffee lovers.

Me- Wow that was pretty much it!! 😂 Caramel macchiato with skim milk, an extra shot of espresso and sugar free vanilla 😍

20. What’s my favorite Disney movie?

M- Finding Nemo?!

Me- No 😪 although I would definitely say that is in the top 5 favorites. But it’s the Lion King!! All of them 😭❤️

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21. If I could be any animal, what animal would it be?

M- a panda! This girl really does love pandas, they’re such likeable animals.

Me- how could anyone NOT love them?! 😭🐼🐼❤️❤️

22. What is my favorite holiday?

M- Christmas for sure. Not even about the gift part, more like the hot chocolate, cuddle up and watch Christmas movies kind of vibes. Ahh..

Me- 100% right 🎄❤️

23. What creepy crawly am I most scared of?

M- Snakes, we don’t mess with those, but pretty much anything creepy crawly.

Me- pretty much 🤷🏻‍♀️

24. Do I like to spend or save money?

M- Probably both haha, but like they say sometimes you gotta spend to save. Saving would be the preferred method though it can be a bit difficult in this day and age but it is rewarding as we’ve learned.

Me- I think it’s a healthy medium.

25. Am I allergic to anything?

M- I actually just recently learned you’re allergic to a lot.

Me- my immune system is ass, and I’m pretty much allergic to everything 🙄

26. Which celebrity am I in love with?

M- Demi Lovato, my goodness you gotta be blind to miss that one lol.

Me- she ain’t lyin’ 😍🤷🏻‍♀️

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27. What’s one negative thing about me?

M- that you don’t like ketchup…lol nah but I mean I don’t know, I guess the fact that your fear can hold you back from doing things.

Me- very true. I always over think things to the point where I’ll freak myself out and just avoid doing certain things altogether without actually trying to see what the outcome could possibly be.

28. Do I say any expression or phrase often?

M- “Well then” 😂 & “yasss”

Me- and recently its also been heardth!! 😂

29. Do I ever dance with no music playing?

M- yup!! Shakes her head to music only she hears..help.

Me: 🙃💃🏻

30. Do or did I like to collect anything?

M- I feel like years ago Emily always had a bunch of pens so I want to say that you collected that.

Me- LMAO firstly I don’t recall. And secondly, what I had in mind was buttons. Although it was when I was a kid and it was more stealing them from clothes than anything else 😂

31. Do I want to get married?

M- Absolutely, we’re just waiting on Diego… Pressure, no pressure 😂

Me: 🤷🏻‍♀️💍

32. What is a unique thing about me that only a few people may know?

M- that when you extend your arm (I can’t remember for some reason which arm exactly, right arm?) it bends outward more so than an average person.

Me- LMAO she totally meant to say that I’m double-jointed in my arms and legs!!

33. What is the meanest thing someone has ever told me?

M- What comes to mind with this question would be our high school counselor who would discourage certain things we were interested in and wanted to do.

Me- definitely. That always stuck with me and kind of held me back from a lot throughout the years.

34. Do you think you and your best friend are both very different people?

M- we’re obviously 2 different people and in certain situations we may handle it differently, but we mostly think alike and sometimes we complete each other’s sentences or thoughts. So I’d say the differences between us are sort of minimal.

Me- I agree. I feel like we both do things differently sometimes but at the end of the day, we’ll want the same thing or trying to reach the same outcome, it’s just the approach to that will be different. And I think a lot of people don’t necessarily believe me when I tell them to the same extent we are SO similar, but it really is true. It’s crazy sometimes, but in a good way lol.

35. What do I typically tend to do in my free-time?

M- Write, read, plan out any goals for the future, online shop or watch tv.

Me- you know me so well 😢

36. Am I shy or bold?

M- I’d say bold once you get to know her and she feels comfortable around you, which may be perceived as shy at first but really not it isn’t once you get to know her lol similar to me.

Me- I think that’s very true 😬

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Well guys that’s all the questions I had today for us to complete the best friend tag. And I think it’s safe to say that Michelle knows me pretty well after nearly 10 years of friendship. I can only imagine where we’re going to be and the type of answers we’re going to have for these questions if we do this again in another 10 years! We should totally go celebrate the 10 year anniversary of it btw 😭🎉.

But anyway, I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I’m sorry that I’ve been kind of absent from social media and the blog since my birthday, but I’m back to posting regularly again and I can’t wait for you guys to see the stuff I’m working on!

See you in my next post!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤️

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No Means No.

Being what/who you think everyone wants you to be isn’t cool, nor is following what everyone else is doing. What’s cool is saying no, sticking to your guns, and being okay with yourself about it afterwards.

I know this totally probably sounds like a cliche, mom type of post, but I have a ton of little cousins that are kids right now, some that are in Junior High School, and some that are just starting High School and College where things like peer pressure happen all the time as if it were the norm. So I guess this post is more for them and people in that age range than anything. I know they all may have parents and/or older siblings of their own to help them with things like this, but it’s just something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

Peer pressure is real, and it can be a scary thing for those who aren’t as strong-willed or know how to handle things like that. Sometimes the people you least expect to pressure you into doing certain things, are the ones who not only do it the most, but do it in the most inconspicuous way that you’ll never realize it until it’s too late.

I feel like it’s a ridiculously common misconception for people to believe that peer pressure solely revolves around drinking, smoking, and/or drugs in general, but that couldn’t be more false. Peer pressure can literally be anything. Anything that YOU don’t want to or feel comfortable doing that other people (friends, or otherwise) try getting you to do, can and, most times, is definitely considered peer pressure. Whether it’s something as “simple” as these people convincing you not to check in with your parents after school like you normally would do or cutting class with them, to something as serious as someone (or people) trying to convince or force you to try hardcore drugs or have sex with someone, it’s all one in the same, and it’s all peer pressure to some degree.

I can’t tell you how many times people, old roommates, friends of my old roommates, etc., would constantly try to push me to try smoking or getting shitfaced with them every weekend. Like don’t get me wrong, I drink occasionally, have gotten drunk, smoked hookah, etc., but it’s because I’ve wanted to do it, not because I ever let anyone force me or talk me into it.

Anyone who really knows me, knows that if I say no, it’s going to be no and nothing the person/people say or do is going to change that. If anything, the more they ask and/or try to get me to do it, the more I’ll get uncomfortable, pissed off, and just straight up want nothing to do with you.

For instance, I just have no type of interest in doing/trying any kind of drugs, from the hardcore shit to the “simplest” stuff like weed. It would do nothing for me other than probably make my paranoid ass more paranoid than what I already am. Plus I’ve seen family members of mine, friends, and just people in general that I know get really fucked up mentally from THEM doing these things that they previously got pressured/talked into doing somehow or another many many moons ago, so why am I going to let other people attempt to talk me into doing those exact same things? For that? To end up like them? Yeah, no thanks.

And don’t get me wrong, some of my closest friends that were roommates, old co-workers, etc. do these things and one thing I’ve always told them, I don’t care if you smoke, drink or whatever, just don’t involve me in it if I tell you I’m not interested. It’s that simple. You do it? Cool, that’s fine, I respect and have no issue with it, so respect how I feel and just don’t bring it to me.

There’s nothing wrong with experimenting and trying some of these things (although yes, some of them are considered “bad”, but that’s besides the point). The point is, there’s a difference between doing these things because you want to and doing it because others want or are trying to get you to do it.

The word ‘No’ is a powerful word that not many people hear or take seriously anymore, especially in the day and age that we live in. And it’s a shame because it’s really gotten to a point where there are people in and around the world that if they see or hear that you tell them no about something, they will not take no for an answer and will go as far as drugging and/or raping them, if not worse (not that those things are worse, but I’m just saying).

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No means no, that’s it!!!! Don’t give in because you feel forced or want to feel like you fit in among your friends or whoever. And if you do end up doing any of these things at all, at least make sure you’re doing it because you actually want to and know what you’re getting yourself into.

Don’t let it bother you if people make fun of or tease you because you don’t want to do something. And I know that may sound cliche, and easier said than done, but it’s the truth. That’s just their way of being obnoxious to attempt to pressure you into whatever it is at the time; sadly though, many times this is what actually causes people to give in to the pressure just for the sake of shutting these people up and saying they tried it.

People will use some of the most annoying, ridiculous phrases and excuses in the book just to attempt to convince you. “What are you scared of?” “I dare you,” “What’s the big deal?” “I thought you loved me, prove it,” “Don’t be a chickenshit,” etc. etc. etc. And a lot of these I’m sure reading them will remind people of something you would hear in a movie or tv show, like who really says stuff like that? Who would actually give in to people saying those things? But it really is true. People do say dumb shit like this, and other people sadly fall into it and end up giving in.

Who cares what other people have to say? Who cares if they won’t be your friends anymore after you saying no? Who cares if your boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you afterwards for you not being ready? WHO CARES? People are going to talk regardless. You’ll make new friends. And you’ll find a new boyfriend/girlfriend who loves you for who you are and respects you for your decisions and/or how you feel about things.

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It is your god-given birth right as a human being to be able to have your opinion about something and say no if you don’t agree or feel comfortable with it. Doesn’t matter how big or small, or how serious or not it may seem. If you’re not comfortable with doing something, say no, it’s okay. Don’t feel like you have to give in just for the sake of fitting in and having friends, or being considered “cool.” You shouldn’t have to prove anything to anyone (in that aspect or any really) in order for them to be your friend or accepted in general. If they’re your REAL friend and REALLY love/care about you, they’re going to be your friend and respect you more because you said no and stuck to your decision.

Self-love and self-respect will always be more important than the acceptance of others, always remember that; because at the end of each and every day, YOU’RE the one who’s going to have to go to bed and live with the decisions/consequences that you created, not them.

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-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

 

To The Lost Minds Out There Still Trying To Figure It Out 💭🚶🏻🚶🏻‍♀️

Fear of the unknown is a fear that can truly scar a person’s mind and well-being. Feeling lost, not knowing what the next move is going to be, what you want to do in the future, or fear of being stuck in the same daily routine and having no sense of success or prosperity in whatever it is you may be doing.

Today’s post is going to be for all of my fellow high school, college, and post-college kids. Those of you who may be feeling really lost right now because you feel as though you have no idea where your life is headed.

We’re at a point in our lives, and an age, where it feels like we should have everything, if not most of it, already figured out.

High Schoolers: Ya’ll are supposed to be making, or starting to make, big decisions in your life about college; picking the right schools, figuring out what you want to major in, whether or not you should stay close to home or get the hell away from it, etc.

College Students: You’re pretty much considered an adult already; you should be using this time to figure out the more “important” things in your life than just partying and hanging out all the time (or so people assume this is all you do).

Post-College kids: People think/assume that we definitely must already have everything figured out; where we’re going to work, relationships, where we’ll live, and pretty much just have our whole lives mapped out in front of us already.

ALL OF THESE EXPECTATIONS ARE UNFAIR AND UNREALISTIC!!!! 

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It’s because of the society we live in today and how the media tends to portray all of these people and things, that forces us and the people around us to have these unrealistic expectations of “having it all figured out.”

Not everybody is a celebrity or general public figure. Not everybody will have everything figured out, planned, and set for the remainder of their lives by the age of 17-18 (A.K.A. the Kylie Jenners and Justin Biebers of the world). And if you are one of those people who this has happened to, congratulations, that must be really great for you; but for those of you who don’t, that is perfectly okay too.

 

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This is not the point of your lives where you HAVE to have everything figured out. This is the point of your lives where you SHOULD be having fun, enjoying life and making mistakes along the way. We’re young, this is the point of our lives where we’re just starting to figure it all out, and you know what? It’s going to take a while. It may take a year, it may take five years, but that’s okay because these things take time.

I know so many people who are currently struggling at the moment to figure out what the next move in their lives should be. They feel like their not going anywhere with their lives and like they could be doing so much more, and they’re so hard on themselves because of it. That may be true (that you could be doing so much more), but take your time and figure it out as you go along.

Yes, it’s fine to have a plan for yourself and dreams, but keep in minds things can/will change, that’s inevitable, and you could end up on a completely different path for yourself than what you originally envisioned.

I don’t have it all figured out, sure I have a plan for myself but I’m always prepared for it to change, whether in the smallest or biggest way; it happens. You just have to remember that it’s all part of life’s process, and we have to learn to trust the process. But don’t beat yourself up over not having it all figured out, and as a result, you rush the process and just settle for whatever first comes up.

NEVER SETTLE!! Yes, of course it’s fine to be realistic for some, if not many, of these decisions you would make, but I always tell people that have spoken to me about their fears for this to at least try going for the things that you love to do first. Try it out, see how you feel about it, and if that doesn’t work out then that’s okay, but at least you would be able to say that you tried it out, and then moved on to something else.

Try a million different things and see which one, or few, work for you. Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity and excitement! Screw what the media and society in general thinks and tries to categorize as “the norm,” do what makes YOU happy and take your time doing it, because at the end of the day it’s your life and you do what you think is best for YOU. Not what you think other people want for you or will accept. Don’t be afraid to take risks, don’t be afraid of getting judged by fellow family/friends, who cares what they have to say or think. People are going to talk regardless if you’re doing good or bad, so may as well do what you want anyway.

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Don’t feel rushed to figure everything out, take your time and really figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. But also, don’t use you feeling lost or the fear of the unknown as an excuse to not do anything at all. You have to be helping yourself figure it out in some type of way; set aside a certain amount of time throughout the day to really sit down and figure out your interests/hobbies, which you like the most, and which you could see yourself getting far with in a career. No one’s going to do that for you, especially since nobody knows you better than you.

You got this, you’ll figure everything out eventually. Take it step by step, day by day. Don’t rush, take your time, and everything will work itself out for the best. It’ll all happen at its own time and pace.

That’s all I’ve got for today, hope you guys enjoyed this post, and until next time!

 

-Xoxo Leo Girl<3