One Lesson I Learned This Past Month

Hey guys and happy Sunday!

Holy crap, I honestly can’t believe it’s Sunday again AND that we’re already in May…where the heck did the time go?! It’s flying by, which I still haven’t decided yet if that’s a good or bad thing.

But, for today’s post I wanted to talk to you about something I’ve learned throughout this past month while in quarantine.

There’s actually a lot of different things that I can say in this post about the things I’ve learned recently, but if I had to choose one, and settle on the MAIN thing, it would be PATIENCE.

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PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE

I don’t think I ever fully knew/understood what that phrase really meant until this whole situation started and I had no choice but to learn the hard way about it.

Wouldn’t you guys agree?

I mean think about it, literally EVERYTHING in this situation requires patience, like it or not.

  • Patience to wait, know and understand the severity of the situation.
  • Patience about whether or not you’re going to still have a job during and even after all of this is over.
  • Patience for all of our stimulus checks to finally hit our accounts and/or unemployment (if you qualified for both/either).
  • Patience for the lines to get in and out of relatively ANY store to get whatever it is you may need.
  • Patience for how long this is all going to last.
  • Patience for your kids’ virtual learning.
  • Patience for constantly being around the same few people 24/7 whether that’s a significant other, your kids, roommates, etc. that you may not normally be used to being around THIS much.

The list could really go on and on.

The point is that, like I said, like it or not we’ve all had to adapt and be patient during this time. I know that for me personally, it’s been a month and a half in quarantine thus far and it’s definitely been tough at times because I’m so used to being on the go (as I’m sure a lot of you guys can relate to as well).

This is our new ‘norm’ for the time being, so we really have no choice but to suck it up, be patient , make the best of it somehow and wait for the day (hopefully soon) that this is all over and behind us.

Things are definitely tough right now for everybody and I’m sure people are starting to, if not already been, antsy about it all, but I have no doubt that this is all coming to an end soon and we’ll be able to get back to reality. We’ve just got to continue to be patient as doctors, nurses and everyone else in between that have been helping to get the situation under control keep doing their thing, as well as us continuing to do our part in all of this (i.e., Social distancing, wearing masks WHEN NEEDED, washing our hands, etc.).

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What’s something that YOU guys learned this past month? I would love to hear from you guys about it and discuss it!

I hope you guys enjoyed this post, and if you did please always remember to drop a like on it and follow me for more posts if you aren’t already!

I hope you guys have a great rest of the weekend. It’s been high 70s here in New York so if you live here, try to get out and enjoy the weather a little while still being protected and practicing social distancing!

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Until my next post….

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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5 Things I Want to Change/Achieve in The Next 12 Months

Hey guys ❤

How’s everyone doing? I hope you’re all doing well and getting the hang of this quarantine thing even if recently it may be feeling a little confining. I know it’s not the best feeling, but at this point I hope you guys are somehow managing to make the best of it. This will all hopefully be over soon and we’ll be able to go back to *some type of* normalcy.

As you saw from the title of today’s post, I wanted to talk to you guys about 5 major things I want to change/achieve in the next 12 months (starting from right now).

I realized a few days ago that this year I didn’t do a New Years blog post with my vision board for this year and/or just some goals I had for the year 2020 the way I normally tend to do. I did do a video about it on my YouTube channel though which you can watch here if you want to check it out.

But that’s the reason for me wanting to create today’s post. It’s obviously not ALL my goals, but they are some of the biggest ones that I want to try accomplishing within the next 12 months.

It’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately while being in quarantine. There were some adjustments that needed to be made due to the current circumstances, but in a way, I feel like this is a weird blessing (financially anyway). This is the perfect time to clear debt, save and begin to accomplish a lot of these goals since I’m not out and about spending unnecessary money on things like food, coffee or transportation that I normally would be.

This is why I’m saying that these are 5 things I want to start working on from NOW. I have sort of been working on them in previous months, but I feel like under the current circumstances, now more than ever is my time to take advantage and get the process of these things going.

With that being said, let’s get into my 5 things….

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  1. Financial Freedom.

This one in particular is obviously going to take some time. It can take days, weeks or months, but it’s one of the, if not THE, most important thing to accomplish and change this year for the better. It’s number one because without accomplishing this one, there’s no way for me to be able to accomplish the others.

Without getting TOO much into detail about it I will admit that I have credit card and student debt that I am working on clearing. That’s my main concern right now, and I’m proud to announce that although I have a ways to go, I have been making SO much progress with this recently that I’m not exactly sure I would have made had I been in my normal day to day routine. I am so happy and excited about this one because I know it’s only going to continue.

2. Living On My Own.

This one is HUGE for me guys. Diego and I have been SO ready to have our own place and live on our own for such a long time but for a few reasons (one of them obviously being the financial aspect of it), it could not happen. But as we continue to clear our debt and take other necessary steps, we’re getting closer and closer to making it happen. God willing, by the end of the year, if not early next year, we can make this happen.

3. Travel.

Notice why I said that without financial freedom, we can’t do any of the other things we want to do? I’m a firm believer that money isn’t everything, BUT it sure does play a big role in being able to do certain things like this.

We’ve been really lucky to be able to go on the little travels that we’ve gone on in the past few years, but if I’m being real, we did cut each of the trips a little financially short. And the goal is to be able to travel without having to worry about much else. Have everything taken care of and not really think twice about it later on.

We’ve also made it a point to not only want to travel outside of the US, but also within it. We’ve realized that there are so many beautiful places to be able to travel to within the US that we never really thought about before. So, again, god willing the plan moving forward (and obviously after all this is behind us and we get the okay to be able to do so) will be to travel to 1 place out of the country and 1 place within the US. We had a plan to do that this year, but due to the current circumstances of the virus, we were forced to cancel our trip 😦 . There MAY possibly be hope for something small later on this year, but if not, for sure next year we are going to move forward with it!

4. New Job (career of MY choice).

I have been talking about this one for a WHILE guys, and I swore this year was going to be the year for it, but then COVID happened….UGH. I mean don’t get me wrong, although we pretty much lost out on the first half of 2020, there is still a chance that something BIG could happen in the second half of it, but that’s why I’m working SO hard right now during this time to hopefully guarantee that this can happen.

I don’t know you guys…..I’m REALLY enjoying being able to work from home. I’ve been loving it actually, and I don’t know if I’m going to be able to come out of this going back to my normal desk job.

I feel like this entire situation has not only been low-key a blessing financially, but it’s also opened my eyes A LOT, as far as my job. No shade towards my job at ALL, but I’ve realized that I really want and need to be working for myself, at home. I’ve been getting SO much personal work done for Instagram, YouTube and now my blog, that it’s made me so unbelievably happy. Obviously it’s going to be a lot better and easier once this is all over and I can actually go out to book stores, coffee shops, etc., but right now I’m pretty content with being home getting all my work done the way that I have been. I’m actually kind of shocked (in an amazing way) at how productive and motivated I’ve been, and I definitely never felt like this in my typical day-to-day routine. So I don’t know……we’ll have to wait and see what happens with this one…….

5. Meet My Content Creating Goals.

This one kind of goes hand in hand with the new job point that I made. But, within the next 12 months, I would really love to be able to solidify my brand and social media content on all platforms to hopefully be able to make a living off of that. I can truly see myself doing this for the long haul and making a successful career out of it. This is why I am trying to take the necessary steps during this quarantine to be on top of all of my content (as much as I can anyway).

I have SO many different ideas for all my platforms’ content (at home during this time and once this is all over and we can be mobile again lol), some may take-off and some may not, but that’s all part of the learning process with this and I won’t ever REALLY know what works and what doesn’t unless I try it. So, I’m super excited now and for the future to get a move on all of this content creating. I’ve been reading and learning a lot about it all and I can’t wait to finally put it all to the test and bring it to life!

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. It was definitely on the personal side but it’s because like I said, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and coming to a lot of deep realizations throughout quarantine that have really been opening my eyes.

We are only a month into this, and I’m not sure how much longer it’ll be before things go back to “normal”, so a lot can change, but right now these plans are weighing heavy on my mind and heart. I’m motivated like never before to make these things happen. And I’m not trying to make it seem like I’m going to accomplish these things right away because a lot of it will take time, but with the progress I’ve been seeing lately, I have no doubt that they will all begin to happen for me little by little. I am SO excited for what’s to come for me in the future.

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Thanks for reading and I’ll see you guys in the next one!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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