My First Staycation (A Getaway Everyone Needs?)

Hey guys,

Happy Monday! I hope you guys all had a great start to your week. And although the weekends always seem to by a little TOO quick, I’m always grateful feeling like I an start fresh on Mondays.

For today’s post I wanted to answer some of your guys’ questions about the staycation I had about 2-3 weeks ago at this point. It’s taken me a while to finally get this up because there’s been a lot going with me, but here it finally is!

If you didn’t know, I planned a staycation for myself the weekend after Valentine’s Day and I got a lot of questions about why I decided to do it, where I stayed, how I felt, etc., and I’m going to be talking about all of that and more in this post, so let’s not waste time and just get right into it!

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Why I Did It?

I needed a break from everything and everyone. I know we’re still in the middle of a pandemic. I know a lot of people are still at risk. And I know I’m not the only one that is/was feeling trapped, but for my own mental state, I needed to get away…even if it wasn’t far or for long. I needed some type of escape for a little while, to just be by myself, do my own thing and stuff that made me happy.

When I told people I wanted to do this, a lot of them didn’t fully understand nor were they supportive of me doing this (for somewhat obvious reasons), which is okay because they don’t need to. I know and understand why I was doing it and that’s all that matters.

*Plus I was being 100% safe the entire time; keeping my distance from people, not going out a ton, etc. etc.*

I also think what some people weren’t understanding and/or was confused about was if the staycation was for me, why I was hanging out with some people throughout it? And the answer is simple, I didn’t want or plan on doing this with the intention of completely isolating myself from everything and everyone. I did it to get out and away from the environment that I was in for almost a year that was draining me mentally and emotionally. Again, I know I’m not the only one feeling this way and unfortunately other people that DO feel this way, don’t have the luxury of doing things like this, but that wasn’t going to stop me from doing this. I needed to lookout for myself and MY well-being which is what I did and why I decided to do this. There’s a LOT that goes on behind the scenes here that y’all don’t know the half about. So yes, it was taking a major toll on me and that’s why I decided to do it.

Where I Ended Up Staying?

The hotel was called INNSiDE New York NoMad. Located in West 27th Street near Penn Station and 34th Street. I REALLY loved this hotel. Everyone was so nice, helpful and accommodating and it was VERY clean. I felt safe being there. I definitely recommend this hotel if you’re coming to New York or are just looking to book a staycation for yourself. I requested a high room because the views from the hotel were amazing. It was overall a great, convenient and cozy hotel for me to choose for my first staycation and I definitely hope to come back again soon.

How I Felt Doing It?

In theory, I was so excited about being able to do it, and I’ve never done the “solo traveler” thing, so this was the closest thing I got to it. It was exciting, yet nerve-wrecking since it was my first time doing anything like this on my own. If I’m being honest, at night I would get hit with my anxiety and just be like “WTF?!”, but I guess thats just because I’m not used to doing things like that…and completely alone. I think it was fairly normal though. I also just always happen to feel anxious the few times/nights I’m not in my own room/bed. It feels weird and I think my mind and body are like ‘where the heck are we?!’ LOL. But the entire experience overall was pretty great, it just went by so fast, which is something I feel like always tends to when you’re really looking forward to something. Is that just me?! The days leading up to the event are always filled with excitement but drag on FOREVER, and then the trip/weekend itself FLIES by! Kind of unfortunate, but also makes you appreciate the time so much more (I think).

Would I Ever Do It Again?

I had so much fun doing all of the things that I wanted to do that weekend, in spite of dealing with minor anxiety at times. It was a great time and very much needed. I definitely recommend doing something like this at some point. It’s pretty therapeutic to be able to just spend time alone with yourself and your thoughts. Although it was bittersweet having to go back home after only 2 days being away, it was nonetheless a great experience and I can’t wait to hopefully do another “trip” like this in another month or 2.

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Check out my YouTube video showing everything I ended up doing throughout the weekend. I hope I answered all your major questions about the staycation and that you got something out of it!

Here’s the direct link for it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrvfB1-tIMY&t=1s

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl 

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How I’ve Been Coping With Anxiety

Hey guys,

Happy Wednesday! How’s everyone doing?! I hope you’re all doing great. I personally have been doing okay lately. I have good and bad days, but I’ve been trying to stay strong and push through, hoping for better days everyday.

In my last post I opened up and spoke to you guys about how I’ve been struggling with anxiety for almost 2 months now (if you haven’t seen it, I’ll leave it linked here for you to check out).

Because of this, for today’s post I wanted to talk to you guys about some of the things that have been helping me relax and cope with my anxiety recently.

As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve been doing a ton of research lately on all things anxiety so I can really learn about it and figure out how I can attempt to fix this. So, everything I’m going to mention are things that I’ve found online to be helpful or the suggestions that some of my friends have given to me to help.

Unfortunately, these things aren’t full-proof (for me anyway), and therefore, sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t, BUT more often than not, these things HAVE been working for me.

I’m going to list everything and explain when/how I use them, unless it’s self-explanatory and doesn’t need any sort of explanation lol. I’m also going to do my best to link everything directly to where you can find and buy them if you’re interested in trying any of these things.

So without further adieu…..

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  1. Calming/Relaxing Teas

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Specifically from the brand Yogi. I’m sure there are a ton of other brands that carry teas similar to this that may even be better and more beneficial, but for now, these are the ones I’ve been using. I got them all off Amazon. Thus far I’ve only tried and REALLY liked the Honey Lavender Stress Relief and Calming ones, and they do always seem to help.

I know some people tend to put honey and other things in their tea to help better the taste, but personally I just drink it as is.

Here is the Lavender Stress Relief tea.

Here is the Calming tea.

Here is the Relaxed Mind tea.

And finally, here is the Bedtime tea.

2. CBD Gummies

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When I first started going through this, I asked people on my Instagram to recommend me things that have helped them now or in the past with their own anxiety, and SO many people recommended this and marijuana. I personally have never smoked before and don’t really care to try it, so I figure I look into CBD gummies and see what they’re about. Sure enough I did, and this was one of the top brands that I came across in my research.

I typically tend to take this at about 8:30-9pm almost every night to calm me and my mind before bed. It takes about an hour to kick in which is why I take it so early, because then by 10-10:30 I’m relaxed and ready for bed. The recommended amount to take is 2 per time, but I’ve only been doing one and it still seems to help/work the same.

If you’re interested, I’ll leave them linked here …. I actually just saw on the website though that the specific ones I got (pictured above) are sold-out for the time being. But they have other options, so I would definitely recommend still looking into it.

3. Essential Oils

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Essential oils were actually something that my mom got me into. When all this first started for me and we were all confused about what was going on, my mom figured we try this to help and calm me down. Particularly the lavender scent which, after doing research on it, was a KEY scent to help calming anxiety apparently, so it was smart thinking on her part.

I would take the lavender oil and basically rub it all over my chest and back at night so that it can sink into the skin and help me relax. I would then take the one titled sleep and rub it on my temples, up and down my t-zone and on the sides of my nose, and it would actually help me sleep pretty great most nights.

The one titled immunity was actually a newer oil I got once I decided to purchase a diffuser, and it’s supposed to help protect against negative external influences.

Now I save the oils strictly for my diffuser and no longer put the oils all over me at night anymore because I use something else now which I’ll explain in a little bit.

I got all my oils and the diffuser from Target which is linked here if you guys want to try getting some.

4. Aromatherapy Sleep Body Lotion

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This lotion is something that I recently came across when I was on the Bath & Body Works website, although it is by no means a new product, just something I never had use for until I started feeling how I have been lately.

I bought this lotion, a few aromatherapy candles and an aromatherapy body wash, all scents similar to this that are supposed to help with stress relief, to sleep better, etc.

I literally use this lotion every single night. I put it all over my arms, neck and chest and even on my face a bit. This is the alternative that I use now to the oils that I used before. And this product in particular has been working wonders for me at night recently, so I would definitely check it out if you haven’t before.

I’ll leave it linked here so you can get it easily if you want to.

5. Meditation/Mindfulness

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Another big thing that people were recommending to me when I asked for suggestions was to try getting into meditation. It definitely wasn’t easy because you really have to learn how to sit still for a certain amount of time, focusing on your breath and trying to clear your mind, but after a few tries, it gets easier.

I’ve gotten a lot of recommendations for guided meditations on YouTube, which I’ve sort of tried, but those tend to be on the longer side, so if you’re not used to it it can feel like a lot. What I’ve been turning to a lot and taking advantage of for this is the Calm app. They have all sorts of soothing sounds, meditations (long and short), bedtime stories, etc. to try and I’ve really been liking it lately.

Unfortunately, for some things on this app you do have to pay and sort of have a membership for, but there are a few free things on there that you can check out. And, they allow you a 7-day trial to try it out then go from there if you want to buy the membership for the year. I would definitely recommend doing the trial and then going from there, because it’s been very helpful for me in the mornings, throughout the day and even at night.

6. Journaling

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I have absolutely no idea why it took me so long to think to do this one, but it did…..it took me about a month of feeling how I had been before I thought to write everything I’ve been feeling down.

Diego and a few others really encouraged me to journal everything I was feeling, and sure enough, the more I started doing that, the more I began to feel better (at night anyway).

I primarily prefer to journal at night just because I can really think and write about the entire day as a whole, but there have been a few times where I end up randomly writing throughout the day as well.

7. Reading

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Reading has been really great at easing my mind at night as well. There’s something about picking up a good book at the end of the day before bed….right now I’m reading a book about mindfulness (which kind of ties into meditating as well) and I’m learning a lot about both. The book gives all kinds of breathing and mindfulness exercises to help you be more present and in the moment from serious things like gatherings to the smallest things like when you’re brushing your teeth. It’s really great.

8. Therapy

Finally…..I haven’t really mentioned this to many people before, but I enrolled myself into therapy about 2 weeks after I started feeling how I was. Obviously it can’t be face to face therapy for the time being due to the pandemic, but I’ve been using this great app called Talkspace which matches you with a therapist for your specific needs.

I speak to my therapist at least once a day for the most part, and it’s been really good for me. I know a lot of people tend to be against therapy because it’s a stranger you’re talking to and that can be nerve-wracking to open up to someone like that, but I promise it helps; especially through this app because it’s really informal in an interesting way. You can send texts and voice notes and even schedule video calls with your therapist if that’s what you prefer.

I’ve been learning a lot, and really it’s like journaling, except you’re actually speaking to someone about everything you’re feeling instead of writing it down (although I love doing that too obviously) and they’re giving you their insight and ways to possibly help with everything you’re feeling.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that it was helpful to you in some way, shape or form if you’ve been dealing with anxiety and looking for new ways to sort of help it and calm/relax your mind.

Let me know if you ended up trying any of these things and how they worked out for you. Also let me know if there’s anything outside of this list that you tend to use that works well for you, that you think I should try. I’m always open to new suggestions.

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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