What I’ve Learned From 2020

Hey guys,

Long time, no see. Happy New Year! Happy 2021!!

I HATE going this long without posting anything, and I’m really sorry about it, but life has been crazy the past few months for me, as I’m sure it’s been for everyone else as well.

BUT, regardless, it is a NEW year, new beginning and chance to reinvent your(my)self! How exciting is that to think about?! People always like to make the “new year, new me” jokes, but why can’t you change the way you are for the new year? Isn’t that always the point of getting excited for the new year to begin with? Creating new goals, new memories, new habits, etc. etc.? I can’t speak for everyone, but that’s definitely always MY mentality when the new year rolls around.

Because of this, I wanted to reflect a bit and have my first post of the year be about some of the things that I learned from 2020 and hope to change and/or build on for this year (since Lord knows there were a shit ton of things I think we can ALL take away from last year).

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So let’s get straight into it….in no particular order:

  1. Patience

    I think we all learned the hard way last year that patience really is a virtue. This was SO important all throughout 2020, for multiple reasons. Whether we liked it or not, we had to be patient with everything going on all throughout the pandemic. As frustrating as it was, and continues to be at times, we all had to trust and have patience that everything was going to workout, fall into place and go back to how it used to (and no I don’t mean that we’re going to go back exactly how we were before, but that’s besides the point).

Personally, I was also forced to learn a lot about patience professionally. I was at my last job for almost 4 years and DYING to get out and finally find something within the field I loved. And it was one of the MOST frustrating things for such a long time not being able to do anything about it. I was agitated every single day that I had to get up and go to work. Not because of the people or the work itself, just out of frustration for the fact that it wasn’t really what I wanted to do. Until November…when I least expected it, I got a call about an interview for my dream job at my dream company, and within 2 weeks, I had secured the position!! When you finally decide to release control and least expect it is usually when things really start to fall into place. Trust the process and realize that God’s got you, always!! He knows what He’s doing.

2. Gratitude

I don’t know about you guys, but gratitude was a major thing that I learned in 2020 as well, which is funny because I’ve always been grateful for the things and people that I have in my life, but I guess because I was always so ‘on the go’ pre-pandemic, it never really hit me HOW blessed I was and should be. The pandemic and everything else going on in the world at the time, and even now, really shows you that nothing is ever promised in life, so live like today’s your last day on earth and always be grateful for everything and everyone in your life whether big or small.

3. Health

This one is also kind of funny just because I’ve always strived to be healthy and fit (to some extent) when I was big into dieting and working out pre-pandemic, but throughout 2020 I really made myself buckle down and take my mental and physical health a lot more serious. I really made it a priority to recognize the type of things I take in mentally and emotionally via TV or social media, as well as the foods and what not that I put into my body. I’ve never been one for taking vitamins, but after everything that’s gone on, I’ve really realized how important it is, especially as a woman because of everything our bodies go through as it is. I may be slacking a bit on the working out part of physical health, but I do plan on getting back into that slowly but surely in the coming days/weeks.

4. Working smarter, not harder

This pandemic and being home for as long as I have has really put things into perspective as far as my content creation on all platforms. Since everything was shutdown and we were forced to stay home, it forced me (and everyone else that does the type of work I do obviously) to REALLY get creative. It can be difficult as it is sometimes to come up with content ideas in general, but add in the fact that we had to stay home for as long as we have been and feeling like there’s only so many things you can do and show within your home?? Geez, taking creativity to a whole other level. And it still can be challenging sometimes, but the key really is to just work smarter, not harder. Play to your own personal interests and pick the brains of your audience, and it’ll end up being simpler then you think.

5. Self care

This one also plays into the mental health part we were just talking about, but in 2020 more than EVER I realized how truly important it was to put down and step away from your phone/computer and practice self-care. Whether that’s pampering myself, doing the things I love or just being by myself, it’s so important to take care of yourself (in all ways). It really does wonders for your mental health. It gives your mind, body and soul a chance to relax and rejuvenate itself either for the rest of the day or the next day. Please please please prioritize your self-care treatments, whatever that may be for you.

And finally, 6. Surrounding yourself with good vibes

This is just as equally important as everything else I’ve mentioned. I know we’re in the middle of a pandemic and we really aren’t supposed to (or shouldn’t) be seeing other people, but if you are one of those people that are still doing this, please make sure that you are at least keeping good company and positive vibes around you; whether that’s family, friends, significant others, etc. There is enough negative and scary crap going on in/around the world without you adding on to it by keeping bad company around you. Nobody needs any sort of extra negativity lingering around them and it is SO important to keep good people and vibes around you. It helps keep your spirits up when things are rough, and this also doesn’t just apply to people; be sure to keep good/positive music, scents, etc. around you. When you surround yourself with good vibes and energy, it not only makes you feel good, but also ends up mirroring into your own life.

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I hope that you guys enjoyed this new post and took something away from it. I know that I say this A LOT, but I am officially back and my goal for this year is to post at LEAST once a week, twice if I can. So please don’t be shy in dropping any/all suggestions that you may want to see from me on here.

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Thank you guys for reading, and I’ll see you in the next one!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl 

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What I’ve Been Up To Throughout Quarantine

Hey guys!

Long time no see!

I hate going MIA with my personal work the way that I have been lately, especially without much explanation to you guys, it bothers me SO much, but at the same time I think it’s really been needed.

People say all the time that sometimes it’s good and needed to be able to take a step back from everything and disconnect for a bit, in order to help your mental health and I think that’s very true. I’ve been posting here and there, but for the most I’ve been really trying to disconnect for a while. A while ended up turning into about 2-3 months, but like I said, it was needed.

If you’ve been reading my recent blog posts and watching my recent YT videos, you’ve probably seen that I’ve been dealing with a lot lately, as far as my mental health.

So because of this, it’s really been needed for me to take a step back and really understand/figure things out with myself, and it hasn’t at all been easy; in fact, it’s been some of the most difficult months of my life thus far, but I think I’m slowly but surely starting to get a handle on things and feel more like myself again.

Trust me that I am nowhere NEAR where I want to be yet, but I’m taking things day by day, and slowly, things have been getting better.

With that being said and since I’ve been MIA for quite some time, I really wanted to be able to let you guys know some of the things I’ve been doing lately to keep busy and that have been helping a LOT; so that’s what I’ll be doing today. ๐Ÿ™‚

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The first thing I’ve been doing is praying.

I have been praying a LOT lately guys.

I’m not one to speak too much about religion on my platforms because I know there are all types of religions, opinions on religion, etc., but it’s something I’ve really gotten back into. Technically speaking, I am Catholic, born and raised, but over the years (for my own personal reasons) I have drifted away from my faith a lot.

Recently, however, I’ve gotten back into it. I pray, at least, twice a day, I’ve been reading the Bible more, etc. Am I a hardcore Catholic? No, I never have been; BUT I’ve found recently that doing these things have really been putting my mind and heart at ease when I’ve needed it the most, so for this reason and a few others, I’ve reestablished my faith, and am very grateful for it.

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The next thing I’ve been doing a lot recently is meditation.

I will say that this is only something I got into because of the anxiety I’ve been dealing with recently, HOWEVER, I’m very grateful for getting into it to begin with because it’s helped me SO much. I definitely don’t do it nearly as much as I probably should, but the few times I do do it, it does indeed help relax me. Right now I only meditate once a day, which is typically in the morning, so that I am starting each day with a nice, calm mind.

I think in a previous post I mentioned that I use the Calm app (which is something you have to pay for after the 7-day free trial is up) for my particular meditiations, but there are a ton of good guided meditations all over YouTube that are just as good for it (and free!).

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The next thing I’ve done a lot recently (and is actually one of my favorites) is reading!!

You guys know that I have ALWAYS been a major book worm, but unfortunately in the past year or so I had almost entirely put reading in the back burner because I was constantly on the go with creating content, traveling, the gym, etc. etc. (was I also probably just using those things as an excuse because I got lazy about it? Yes).

But this is honestly something that I am SO happy to have come back to because it really is true when people say that readers are leaders. I have been reading and educating myself on so many different things (mostly mental health/anxiety and spirituality) recently and it just feels so good to be back to it.

In the past month or so, I’ve already read about 5-6 books and that isn’t going to be stopping anytime soon since I have a humongous stack of books sitting in my room waiting to be cracked open!

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The next thing is going on a daily walk.

Seeing as how all of the gyms are still closed and I’ve sort of given up on the idea of doing at-home workouts, I needed to get my body moving somehow and get my daily dose of cardio in so I started going on a walk every day, in the middle of the day.

Almost everyday during the week (weather permitting), my best friend Geno and I go on a walk around the block during my lunch time at work.  It may not seem like much to some people, but between the walk itself (which comes out to about a mile) and the talking/eating if we get lunch that day, it’s always a great time and helps to keep the rest of the day running smoothly. It’s like a midday stress reliever in a way.

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The next thing I’ve been up to is getting more and more into plants!!

It’s kind of funny actually because my dad has ALWAYS loved plants and our house, front yard and backyard has always been covered in them, but only recently have I actually been learning about and getting more into them and what it takes to have a ‘green thumb’.

I recently became a plant mom myself and now currently own one snake plant and one bamboo one. Not only are they cute little decor pieces for my room, but I also love the beauty behind what they stand for and being able to take care of something else as well; plant therapy is a real thing!!

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The next thing I’ve been doing is more crystal healing.

This is by no means a “new” thing for me, but it is something that I’ve been doing a lot more of recently. At the beginning of 2020, in my vision board for the year, I mentioned how I wanted to tap into and learn about spirituality more and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. Learning more about crystals, their individual healing powers, incorporating them into my meditations, and just generally growing my crystal collection more and more.

If I’m being honest, spirituality is one of the main things that has been helping me throughout this whole time in quarantine dealing with my anxiety. If you’ve ever been even remotely interested in it, I would definitely recommend expanding your knowledge on it because you’d be surprised at the healing properties behind them and what they can do for you.

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And finally, I have little by little been getting back into the swing of my content creating.

You guys have no idea how badly I have missed being able to create content for you guys….and I know that I stopped because of my own personal reasons, but I also knew that if I couldn’t get myself together, there was no way I was going to be able to put on any sort of facade for you guys. That’s not me. That’s not what my work is or will ever be. I’ve always told you guys that if I’m putting something out there for you guys to watch, read, etc. it’s because it’s real and I’m proud of it.

That wouldn’t have happened had I been somehow or another pumping out content the past 2-3 months. I mean I tried to to some extent, but even that was just me being real and vulnerable and updating you guys on what’s been going on with me.

Now is different though. Now I’m finally at a place where I can start to be myself again and put things out there for you guys, but also still incorporate the things I’ve been going through and feeling lately, which I hope I’ve been doing a good job at.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that it gave you all a better understanding of where I’ve been at and what I’ve been up to.

Sorry that it’s taken a while, but I’m back and I can’t wait to continue making content for you guys.

Please let me know below any possible suggestions of things you want me to write about next and I’ll be sure to incorporate it.

Thanks so much for reading and supporting me recently through everything I’ve been dealing with and I’ll see you guys in the next one!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl โค

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How I’ve Been Coping With Anxiety

Hey guys,

Happy Wednesday! How’s everyone doing?! I hope you’re all doing great. I personally have been doing okay lately. I have good and bad days, but I’ve been trying to stay strong and push through, hoping for better days everyday.

In my last post I opened up and spoke to you guys about how I’ve been struggling with anxiety for almost 2 months now (if you haven’t seen it, I’ll leave it linked here for you to check out).

Because of this, for today’s post I wanted to talk to you guys about some of the things that have been helping me relax and cope with my anxiety recently.

As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve been doing a ton of research lately on all things anxiety so I can really learn about it and figure out how I can attempt to fix this. So, everything I’m going to mention are things that I’ve found online to be helpful or the suggestions that some of my friends have given to me to help.

Unfortunately, these things aren’t full-proof (for me anyway), and therefore, sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t, BUT more often than not, these things HAVE been working for me.

I’m going to list everything and explain when/how I use them, unless it’s self-explanatory and doesn’t need any sort of explanation lol. I’m also going to do my best to link everything directly to where you can find and buy them if you’re interested in trying any of these things.

So without further adieu…..

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  1. Calming/Relaxing Teas

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Specifically from the brand Yogi. I’m sure there are a ton of other brands that carry teas similar to this that may even be better and more beneficial, but for now, these are the ones I’ve been using. I got them all off Amazon. Thus far I’ve only tried and REALLY liked the Honey Lavender Stress Relief and Calming ones, and they do always seem to help.

I know some people tend to put honey and other things in their tea to help better the taste, but personally I just drink it as is.

Here is the Lavender Stress Relief tea.

Here is the Calming tea.

Here is the Relaxed Mind tea.

And finally, here is the Bedtime tea.

2. CBD Gummies

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When I first started going through this, I asked people on my Instagram to recommend me things that have helped them now or in the past with their own anxiety, and SO many people recommended this and marijuana. I personally have never smoked before and don’t really care to try it, so I figure I look into CBD gummies and see what they’re about. Sure enough I did, and this was one of the top brands that I came across in my research.

I typically tend to take this at about 8:30-9pm almost every night to calm me and my mind before bed. It takes about an hour to kick in which is why I take it so early, because then by 10-10:30 I’m relaxed and ready for bed. The recommended amount to take is 2 per time, but I’ve only been doing one and it still seems to help/work the same.

If you’re interested, I’ll leave them linked here …. I actually just saw on the website though that the specific ones I got (pictured above) are sold-out for the time being. But they have other options, so I would definitely recommend still looking into it.

3. Essential Oils

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Essential oils were actually something that my mom got me into. When all this first started for me and we were all confused about what was going on, my mom figured we try this to help and calm me down. Particularly the lavender scent which, after doing research on it, was a KEY scent to help calming anxiety apparently, so it was smart thinking on her part.

I would take the lavender oil and basically rub it all over my chest and back at night so that it can sink into the skin and help me relax. I would then take the one titled sleep and rub it on my temples, up and down my t-zone and on the sides of my nose, and it would actually help me sleep pretty great most nights.

The one titled immunity was actually a newer oil I got once I decided to purchase a diffuser, and it’s supposed to help protect against negative external influences.

Now I save the oils strictly for my diffuser and no longer put the oils all over me at night anymore because I use something else now which I’ll explain in a little bit.

I got all my oils and the diffuser from Target which is linked here if you guys want to try getting some.

4. Aromatherapy Sleep Body Lotion

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This lotion is something that I recently came across when I was on the Bath & Body Works website, although it is by no means a new product, just something I never had use for until I started feeling how I have been lately.

I bought this lotion, a few aromatherapy candles and an aromatherapy body wash, all scents similar to this that are supposed to help with stress relief, to sleep better, etc.

I literally use this lotion every single night. I put it all over my arms, neck and chest and even on my face a bit. This is the alternative that I use now to the oils that I used before. And this product in particular has been working wonders for me at night recently, so I would definitely check it out if you haven’t before.

I’ll leave it linked here so you can get it easily if you want to.

5. Meditation/Mindfulness

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Another big thing that people were recommending to me when I asked for suggestions was to try getting into meditation. It definitely wasn’t easy because you really have to learn how to sit still for a certain amount of time, focusing on your breath and trying to clear your mind, but after a few tries, it gets easier.

I’ve gotten a lot of recommendations for guided meditations on YouTube, which I’ve sort of tried, but those tend to be on the longer side, so if you’re not used to it it can feel like a lot. What I’ve been turning to a lot and taking advantage of for this is the Calm app. They have all sorts of soothing sounds, meditations (long and short), bedtime stories, etc. to try and I’ve really been liking it lately.

Unfortunately, for some things on this app you do have to pay and sort of have a membership for, but there are a few free things on there that you can check out. And, they allow you a 7-day trial to try it out then go from there if you want to buy the membership for the year. I would definitely recommend doing the trial and then going from there, because it’s been very helpful for me in the mornings, throughout the day and even at night.

6. Journaling

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I have absolutely no idea why it took me so long to think to do this one, but it did…..it took me about a month of feeling how I had been before I thought to write everything I’ve been feeling down.

Diego and a few others really encouraged me to journal everything I was feeling, and sure enough, the more I started doing that, the more I began to feel better (at night anyway).

I primarily prefer to journal at night just because I can really think and write about the entire day as a whole, but there have been a few times where I end up randomly writing throughout the day as well.

7. Reading

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Reading has been really great at easing my mind at night as well. There’s something about picking up a good book at the end of the day before bed….right now I’m reading a book about mindfulness (which kind of ties into meditating as well) and I’m learning a lot about both. The book gives all kinds of breathing and mindfulness exercises to help you be more present and in the moment from serious things like gatherings to the smallest things like when you’re brushing your teeth. It’s really great.

8. Therapy

Finally…..I haven’t really mentioned this to many people before, but I enrolled myself into therapy about 2 weeks after I started feeling how I was. Obviously it can’t be face to face therapy for the time being due to the pandemic, but I’ve been using this great app called Talkspace which matches you with a therapist for your specific needs.

I speak to my therapist at least once a day for the most part, and it’s been really good for me. I know a lot of people tend to be against therapy because it’s a stranger you’re talking to and that can be nerve-wracking to open up to someone like that, but I promise it helps; especially through this app because it’s really informal in an interesting way. You can send texts and voice notes and even schedule video calls with your therapist if that’s what you prefer.

I’ve been learning a lot, and really it’s like journaling, except you’re actually speaking to someone about everything you’re feeling instead of writing it down (although I love doing that too obviously) and they’re giving you their insight and ways to possibly help with everything you’re feeling.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that it was helpful to you in some way, shape or form if you’ve been dealing with anxiety and looking for new ways to sort of help it and calm/relax your mind.

Let me know if you ended up trying any of these things and how they worked out for you. Also let me know if there’s anything outside of this list that you tend to use that works well for you, that you think I should try. I’m always open to new suggestions.

Thank you guys for reading. If you enjoyed this post, please make sure to drop a like and follow my blog if you haven’t already.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl โค

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