How I’ve Been Coping With Anxiety

Hey guys,

Happy Wednesday! How’s everyone doing?! I hope you’re all doing great. I personally have been doing okay lately. I have good and bad days, but I’ve been trying to stay strong and push through, hoping for better days everyday.

In my last post I opened up and spoke to you guys about how I’ve been struggling with anxiety for almost 2 months now (if you haven’t seen it, I’ll leave it linked here for you to check out).

Because of this, for today’s post I wanted to talk to you guys about some of the things that have been helping me relax and cope with my anxiety recently.

As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve been doing a ton of research lately on all things anxiety so I can really learn about it and figure out how I can attempt to fix this. So, everything I’m going to mention are things that I’ve found online to be helpful or the suggestions that some of my friends have given to me to help.

Unfortunately, these things aren’t full-proof (for me anyway), and therefore, sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t, BUT more often than not, these things HAVE been working for me.

I’m going to list everything and explain when/how I use them, unless it’s self-explanatory and doesn’t need any sort of explanation lol. I’m also going to do my best to link everything directly to where you can find and buy them if you’re interested in trying any of these things.

So without further adieu…..

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  1. Calming/Relaxing Teas

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Specifically from the brand Yogi. I’m sure there are a ton of other brands that carry teas similar to this that may even be better and more beneficial, but for now, these are the ones I’ve been using. I got them all off Amazon. Thus far I’ve only tried and REALLY liked the Honey Lavender Stress Relief and Calming ones, and they do always seem to help.

I know some people tend to put honey and other things in their tea to help better the taste, but personally I just drink it as is.

Here is the Lavender Stress Relief tea.

Here is the Calming tea.

Here is the Relaxed Mind tea.

And finally, here is the Bedtime tea.

2. CBD Gummies

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When I first started going through this, I asked people on my Instagram to recommend me things that have helped them now or in the past with their own anxiety, and SO many people recommended this and marijuana. I personally have never smoked before and don’t really care to try it, so I figure I look into CBD gummies and see what they’re about. Sure enough I did, and this was one of the top brands that I came across in my research.

I typically tend to take this at about 8:30-9pm almost every night to calm me and my mind before bed. It takes about an hour to kick in which is why I take it so early, because then by 10-10:30 I’m relaxed and ready for bed. The recommended amount to take is 2 per time, but I’ve only been doing one and it still seems to help/work the same.

If you’re interested, I’ll leave them linked here …. I actually just saw on the website though that the specific ones I got (pictured above) are sold-out for the time being. But they have other options, so I would definitely recommend still looking into it.

3. Essential Oils

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Essential oils were actually something that my mom got me into. When all this first started for me and we were all confused about what was going on, my mom figured we try this to help and calm me down. Particularly the lavender scent which, after doing research on it, was a KEY scent to help calming anxiety apparently, so it was smart thinking on her part.

I would take the lavender oil and basically rub it all over my chest and back at night so that it can sink into the skin and help me relax. I would then take the one titled sleep and rub it on my temples, up and down my t-zone and on the sides of my nose, and it would actually help me sleep pretty great most nights.

The one titled immunity was actually a newer oil I got once I decided to purchase a diffuser, and it’s supposed to help protect against negative external influences.

Now I save the oils strictly for my diffuser and no longer put the oils all over me at night anymore because I use something else now which I’ll explain in a little bit.

I got all my oils and the diffuser from Target which is linked here if you guys want to try getting some.

4. Aromatherapy Sleep Body Lotion

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This lotion is something that I recently came across when I was on the Bath & Body Works website, although it is by no means a new product, just something I never had use for until I started feeling how I have been lately.

I bought this lotion, a few aromatherapy candles and an aromatherapy body wash, all scents similar to this that are supposed to help with stress relief, to sleep better, etc.

I literally use this lotion every single night. I put it all over my arms, neck and chest and even on my face a bit. This is the alternative that I use now to the oils that I used before. And this product in particular has been working wonders for me at night recently, so I would definitely check it out if you haven’t before.

I’ll leave it linked here so you can get it easily if you want to.

5. Meditation/Mindfulness

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Another big thing that people were recommending to me when I asked for suggestions was to try getting into meditation. It definitely wasn’t easy because you really have to learn how to sit still for a certain amount of time, focusing on your breath and trying to clear your mind, but after a few tries, it gets easier.

I’ve gotten a lot of recommendations for guided meditations on YouTube, which I’ve sort of tried, but those tend to be on the longer side, so if you’re not used to it it can feel like a lot. What I’ve been turning to a lot and taking advantage of for this is the Calm app. They have all sorts of soothing sounds, meditations (long and short), bedtime stories, etc. to try and I’ve really been liking it lately.

Unfortunately, for some things on this app you do have to pay and sort of have a membership for, but there are a few free things on there that you can check out. And, they allow you a 7-day trial to try it out then go from there if you want to buy the membership for the year. I would definitely recommend doing the trial and then going from there, because it’s been very helpful for me in the mornings, throughout the day and even at night.

6. Journaling

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I have absolutely no idea why it took me so long to think to do this one, but it did…..it took me about a month of feeling how I had been before I thought to write everything I’ve been feeling down.

Diego and a few others really encouraged me to journal everything I was feeling, and sure enough, the more I started doing that, the more I began to feel better (at night anyway).

I primarily prefer to journal at night just because I can really think and write about the entire day as a whole, but there have been a few times where I end up randomly writing throughout the day as well.

7. Reading

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Reading has been really great at easing my mind at night as well. There’s something about picking up a good book at the end of the day before bed….right now I’m reading a book about mindfulness (which kind of ties into meditating as well) and I’m learning a lot about both. The book gives all kinds of breathing and mindfulness exercises to help you be more present and in the moment from serious things like gatherings to the smallest things like when you’re brushing your teeth. It’s really great.

8. Therapy

Finally…..I haven’t really mentioned this to many people before, but I enrolled myself into therapy about 2 weeks after I started feeling how I was. Obviously it can’t be face to face therapy for the time being due to the pandemic, but I’ve been using this great app called Talkspace which matches you with a therapist for your specific needs.

I speak to my therapist at least once a day for the most part, and it’s been really good for me. I know a lot of people tend to be against therapy because it’s a stranger you’re talking to and that can be nerve-wracking to open up to someone like that, but I promise it helps; especially through this app because it’s really informal in an interesting way. You can send texts and voice notes and even schedule video calls with your therapist if that’s what you prefer.

I’ve been learning a lot, and really it’s like journaling, except you’re actually speaking to someone about everything you’re feeling instead of writing it down (although I love doing that too obviously) and they’re giving you their insight and ways to possibly help with everything you’re feeling.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post and that it was helpful to you in some way, shape or form if you’ve been dealing with anxiety and looking for new ways to sort of help it and calm/relax your mind.

Let me know if you ended up trying any of these things and how they worked out for you. Also let me know if there’s anything outside of this list that you tend to use that works well for you, that you think I should try. I’m always open to new suggestions.

Thank you guys for reading. If you enjoyed this post, please make sure to drop a like and follow my blog if you haven’t already.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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Tips For Self-Care

Hey Guys,

Yesterday started out as a pretty good day; I was feeling a lot better compared to how I was the past few days (health wise), work was fairly quiet, and I had actually gotten home at a decently early hour (which if you know me and my hectic schedule, that rarely happens nowadays). After I got home, however, things went downhill quick and unfortunately, it was one of those things that REALLY just ends up ruining your entire day altogether…..

I’m not going to get into detail about it because it’s more on the personal side and something to discuss in a later post if at all, BUT because of having a shitty end to the day, I thought it was the perfect time to put out THIS post which, as you saw from the title, is:

TIPS FOR SELF-CARE! 💆🏻‍♀️🎉

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Self-care is any action or activity that we do which helps us take a step back from our responsibilities for a few seconds, minutes or hours in order to care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.

It can literally be anything. Anything that helps make you feel good and rejuvenated to continue to kick-ass at work, or while doing your chores, or whatever the case is.

I thought this was the perfect time because whenever you’re in a shitty mood like I was yesterday, aside from obviously kind of wanting to just do your own thing and be left alone by everyone, don’t you to some extent end up wanting to do things that will somehow cheer you up and make you feel better? Because I know I sure do, even if it means doing them alone.

Now, everyone is obviously different and likes/prefers different things to make them happy and feel good, but I figure I can share with you guys some of the things I typically like to do when I’m down (including what I did yesterday), that usually end up bringing me out of my funk in hopes that maybe it could help you do the same now or in the future for yourself.

OR maybe you’re not in a funk at all, and maybe you just want some things to help fill up your free-time that’ll still make you happy, but also feel productive…these ‘tips’, although they’re more suggestions of things to do then actually tips, can be used for any of the above.

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  1. WRITE. Usually whenever I’m in a funk or have any free-time at all is normally when I catch up on things like my blog or book. Writing soothes me SO much and usually ends up making me feel like a new person whenever I’m done. Whether it’s in my notebook, on sticky notes or written in the notes on my phone, you’ll always catch me jotting things down whenever I get a chance. It’s soothing to be able to jot down whatever it is I may be thinking about in the moment (not every single second of the day obviously, but if I feel it’s important and that I may want to go back to it later on).

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2. READ. Unfortunately, I don’t always find the time to be able to do this, but when I DO…it’s the best. I completely tune everything out and just focus on the book I’m reading; the characters, the situation going on, whatever it may be at the time, to the point where I don’t even want to sleep until I finish reading whatever it is. I find that reading is a nice way to calm your mind, especially at the end of the night, if that’s the sort of thing you’re into like I am.

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3. WORKING OUT. Going to the gym and working out can be so unbelievably therapeutic for a person’s mind, body and soul (believe it or not). If you’re reading this and you’re not into working out at all, I can see why you would probably roll your eyes at this one, because it’s so cliché for someone to say, but I promise it’s also 100% true (if you’re into the workout at the time anyway). It’s a great stress-reliever after a long day to just go ahead and release all of your pent up frustration, aggression, or whatever the case may be for you and just take it ALL out on the weights.

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4. A SKINCARE ROUTINE. Another cliché and typical suggestion to make, because it’s something that everyone always suggests, but it really is another good one and actually the one I opted to do last night. Doing a skincare routine whether elaborate or basic is so soothing and will for sure make you feel good by the end of it (to some extent anyway). I mean, who doesn’t want smooth, clear and radiant skin right? After all, it is the first thing you see of yourself, as well as the first thing others end up seeing of you, so why not make it good?

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5. And finally, GETTING A MANI/PEDI. Again, another cliché suggestion, but any sort of pampering that you do for yourself whether this, a skincare routine, a haircut, etc. is sure to make you feel rejuvenated and good about yourself in some way, shape or form. I mean who doesn’t love to feel and actually get pampered, right?!

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Well that’s it guys…these are things that usually tend to make me feel happy, good about myself, and productive.

Obviously there are probably a ton more, different from this list, that you would be able to think of, but the ones that I mentioned are the ones that are generally all, if not, MOST of the things I tend to gear towards whenever I’m in a funk or just looking to do some ‘me-time’ stuff.

Self-care is a form of self-love, and if you’re anything like me and tend to be super busy and on-the-go all the time, you should try to make time for it AT LEAST once or twice a week.

It really is important and needed in order for you to reflect, release, relax and rejuvenate to carry on with the rest of your week and/or start your week even.

I hope that you guys enjoyed this post, and that it helped you in some way, shape or form. As always, thank you so much for reading, please like, comment, share and follow and I’ll see you guys in the next one!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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What I Eat Throughout My Diet

Hi Guys and Happy Sunday!

For today’s post I thought it would be good to share with you guys what it is I’ve been eating throughout my diet recently (similar to a what I eat in a day type of post).

*I also am going to end up doing a fitness update/progress in my diet type of post in the days to come to show you guys the type of results I’ve been seeing in my body recently, so stay tuned for that as well!*

Something to keep in mind is that, as I’ve mentioned in several other posts of mine, I am an EXTREMELY picky-eater, which definitely has its ups and downs. But because of that, I’ve had to finds ways to work around that with my diet (which I’ll go a little more in depth about later on in the post).

For those of you that don’t know, because I am a picky-eater, I don’t eat any of your usual “healthy foods” like salads, vegetables, fruits, etc.

*Cue the dramatic judgments and criticisms…..I’ll wait……🙄*

Done? Okay let’s move on.

I’ve heard it time and time again🤦🏻‍♀️. I know that I should and need to be eating these things, but it’s hard when I’m 23 years-old now, have never really eaten any of these things before, and now suddenly just start. It’s a slow and steady process, but trust me when I say I’ve been working on it and little by little I’ve been trying and liking more “healthier” foods.

Although I have been slowly starting to expand my healthier food options, for the sake of this post, I’m just going to be mentioning the things that I eat/drink fairly regularly.

So without further adieu, let’s get started! 🙂

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Two important things to note about all of the foods, drinks, snacks, etc. that I’m going to mention are that 1. I weigh everything that I eat (unless they’re little snack packets like you’ll see below) and 2. I track everything I eat and drink in my Fitness Pal app which I’ve mentioned in a few different posts now.

For those of you that may be interested, the specific food scale that I got was actually from Amazon, and it was only like $17. I’ll leave that linked here in case you guys were interested in checking that out.

Weighing my food has really been good at teaching me about portion control and just generally being more knowledgeable about the amounts of carbs, protein, fats, etc. that my body is intaking. It’s something that Diego introduced me to do about a year ago at this point, so if you’ve never done it before, I highly suggest that you do.

But let’s continue….

Breakfast:

Personally. I am SUCH a breakfast person. It’s not something that I feel like I NEED in order for my mornings/days to officially start, but if I do have it, it just makes my morning THAT much better. However, although I may love being able to have breakfast, because I tend to be a procrastinator in the mornings, and just generally really slow, I don’t always get to have it.

In a week, I would say I probably only get to make or get breakfast about 3-4 times throughout the week (including weekends, which isn’t TOO bad).

BUT, if I do end up being able to, chances are I’m going to have 1 of these 3 things:

Egg and cheese omelet

Nothing crazy or special.

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Bacon, egg and cheese

(Egg whites, turkey bacon and cheese, absolutely BOMB from this place called Cafe Basil if you’re in the city!!).

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Reduced Fat Turkey Bacon sandwich

From Starbucks, which just has egg whites, reduced-fat white cheddar cheese, and reduced-fat turkey bacon on an organic wheat English muffin.

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I’m a coffee gal. So every single day religiously, if I don’t have breakfast, I AT LEAST have to have my coffee. My usual Starbucks order is a Grande Caramel Macchiato with an extra shot of espresso (3 instead of 2), instead of vanilla syrup, sugar free vanilla syrup, and skim milk instead of regular.

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Now during the holidays, however, I’m a sucker for the holiday drinks in Starbucks, so I’ll typically treat myself most mornings to the Caramel Brûlée Latte (shown below).

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After my morning coffee, I’ve gotten into the habit of drinking tea. I used to be one that HATED tea, and never wanted to drink it because of the taste or smell of it, but now I literally LOVE it.

Let’s keep in mind at the moment, it’s only from this specific brand (Yogi), but nonetheless it’s tea and I’ve tried quite a few different flavors and I actually really like them.

The “flavors” from this brand that I’ve tried and like so far are the DeTox one (shown below, and is also my favorite), the Lemon Ginger, the plain Ginger, etc. But I only drink it once a day, after my coffee.

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After my coffee and tea, for the remainder of the day after that, I drink nothing but water. WATER. WATER. WATER!!! This is super important.

I typically try to drink at least 1 gallon of water a day. However, I don’t buy the entire jug of water and drink that. What I do is I have my 16.9 fl. oz bottle of water, and just constantly re-fill and drink that throughout my day.

1 Gallon= 128 fl. oz. Throughout my work day, I can generally drink about 5 bottles of water, which equals to about 84.5 fl. oz. Add in the fact that I go to the gym after work, and throughout my workout I drink another 20 oz from my shaker cup, that’s 104.5 oz. THEN once I get home, I drink one of those Essentia water bottles, which is another 33.8 oz, that’s 138.3 oz at the end of my day.

Keep in mind it doesn’t always work out like that every single day, but most times that’s usually how it goes while I’m at work.

Lunch:

Please don’t judge the type of foods that I tend to eat for lunch. These are things that not only do I actually like, but they’re also pretty good with my diet, and not too high or bad for my macros (carbs, proteins, fats) that I should be intaking.

(Yes, I know I’m a pretty plain eater)

White rice and honey battered chicken.

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Mashed Potatoes with Grilled Chicken Thigh and Grilled Chicken Leg.

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Fettuccine Alfredo Pasta With Cut-up Pieces of Chicken Breast.

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That is obviously not all of the foods that I eat every single day for lunch, but I just figure I mention a few of my favorites for the sake of not making this post super long.

Snacks:

I’m a BIG junk food person, so when I decided that I wanted/need to turn my health around, the hardest thing for me to give up was junk-food. That being said, I knew going into this that I HAD to look for healthier alternatives because I wasn’t going to be able to cut everything out cold turkey.

So these were a few things that I ended up finding:

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I don’t really tend to eat dinner anymore, just because I don’t usually get hungry at that time the way that I used to. But if I did, I’ll either make a little something, eat some leftovers that may be in the house at the time, or just settle on having one of my little snacks.

This is kind of separate, but on weekends (mainly Saturdays, but occasionally Fridays too) is when I’ll usually have my cheat days and won’t count calories or really care about what it is I’m eating. Especially since those days are usually when Diego and I will have our date nights.

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Well that’s it. Those are pretty much the majority of the things I tend to eat throughout my diet. I don’t necessarily know if this will help anyone at all, but I thought it would be nice to share this with you guys.

Hopefully I can do a more updated post about this in a few months when I’ve expanded the type of healthier foods I eat, but for now this is it.

I hope you guys enjoyed this post, thanks so much for reading, and I’ll see you all in the next one! 🙂

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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