6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. If you did, please make sure to drop a like and make sure that you’re following my blog to stay up to date whenever I post! Thank you guys so much for reading and I’ll see you guys in the next one.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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On The Menu Today: Del Frisco’s Double Eagle Steakhouse

Hey guys!

Today’s post is FINALLY going to be another restaurant review/recommendation type post 🙂

It’s been almost 4 months since I’ve done one of these because we just haven’t really been going out to eat much these days, and if we have, they’re either regular fast food places or places that I just didn’t think were interesting enough to do an entire post on.

About 2 weeks ago though, we FINALLY went to a new place, and I thought it would be the perfect time to take pictures/notes (mental notes, not actual pen & paper notes LOL) and do a post on it.

The name of the place we’re going to be talking about today, if you read from the title, is Del Frisco’s Double Eagle Steakhouse, which is located in 6th avenue in Manhattan (right near Radio City Music Hall if you’re familiar with the area at all).

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The Ambiance

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This place is definitely on the more pricey/fancy side, which we don’t normally tend to do too much just because unless it’s like a SPECIAL occasion (the way it was when we came here), we don’t feel the need/want to have to come and spend a ton of money on places like this.

It is, however, always great to be able to get all dressed up and come to a really nice place like this every so often, which is exactly what we got to do when we came here 2 weeks ago.

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Right off the bat I would say this is the perfect place to go to for an anniversary date, a birthday, or even just a regular date that you may like and/or want to splurge on.

Diego and I came here for our good friend Shakerra’s birthday dinner. She was actually the person who chose the place too, I had no prior knowledge of this place whatsoever. After we established that we were coming here though, I did my research and actually saw that they have quite a few different locations around the U.S., but this is the only one  they have in New York.

There was 5 of us, so we had called in beforehand to make a reservation for our party. I don’t think reservations are mandated, but they are recommended.

Our reservation was for 7:30pm and easily we spent 2-2 and a half hours here; between waiting to be greeted, taking our orders, waiting for our food, eating, getting dessert, etc. etc… Although 2 and a half hours IS pretty long obviously, it really wasn’t that bad being that we were all enjoying each others’ company, as well as conversation.

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The Food/Drinks!

For drinks , aside from our water, we all chipped in to buy a bottle of Rosé wine, which Diego, Jessica and I actually really liked.

Shakerra (the birthday girl) and Genaro didn’t care for it too much so she ended up getting a sweet sort of wine that I didn’t get a chance to get the name of, BUT she enjoyed that one a lot more, and Genaro got a simple cranberry and vodka.

For our food, all of the steaks in the picture(s) below are going to look the same/similar, but I swear some of them ARE different!! haha

Going down the line of what we all got….:

Me: 8 oz Filet Mignon.
Diego: 16 oz Prime Ribeye.
Jessica: 16 oz Prime Ribeye.
Shakerra: 16 oz Prime Ribeye.
Genaro: 16 oz Prime Strip.

We all also got and shared 3 different sides. As you can see in the picture, the sides aren’t THAT big, but they were big enough that we all got to pick on and enjoy them altogether.

The sides we ended up getting were: Chateau Mashed Potatoes, Potatoes Au Gratin which had Scallions, Bacon & Aged Sharp Cheddar, and Lobster Macaroni & Cheese (which I personally have never had before, but actually really liked).

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As for dessert, Shakerra’s boyfriend actually surprised her with a cake at dinner that they brought out when it was time for us to have dessert so that we could all sing happy birthday to her.

It was super cute, and actually tasted REALLY good (I believe it was from 1800flower.com if you guys wanted to check that out).

To complete the review we also ended up getting desserts directly from the restaurant (which are shown below).

On the left is a Butter Cake which has Butter Pecan Ice Cream, Fresh Whipped Cream & Caramel sauce, and on the right is Chocolate Mousse which has Salted Caramel Chocolate Fudge & Miniature Chocolate Cookies.

Y’all know I’m a HUGE dessert person, so this was heaven to me. All of them tasted amazing and were very much worth EVERY calorie.

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General Thoughts

Overall I can 100% say that we all enjoyed ourselves as well as the food here. Everything from the location, the ambiance of the restaurant, our server, and the actual FOOD obviously, was great.

The only minor thing we all didn’t care for was the fact that we had to wait for what felt like 45 minutes more or less for our food to come out, which obviously it’s a pretty big restaurant so we knew we would have to wait a bit, but we didn’t think it would be THAT long either. However, to the same extent, as I mentioned early on in the post, we were very much entertained talking, laughing, etc. so it did help a bit with the wait.

Other then that, everything was really good and we all do 100% recommend it to you guys to try at some point or another. Do keep in mind though as we said, that it is more on the pricey side, but definitely worth the price (we all thought).

As usual though, please try it for yourselves and come to your own conclusion(s) about this place.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this restaurant review/recommendation post. Let me know in the comments or on social media if there are any places in particular around New York that you guys think we should try, and we’ll definitely be sure to do that!

Also, let me know if you guys happen to end up trying this place at all, what YOU thought about it, or if you’ve already been there before, did you guys think it was worth it or not?

I’d love to hear from you all about it! 🙂

As always, thank you guys so much for reading; please like, share, follow and comment I’ll see you guys in my next post.

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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What’s Been Going On Lately?

Hey Guys,

It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these spur of the moment, impromptu, what’s going on with me lately, type posts.

I figure today could be one of those posts because I’ve got SO much stuff running through my mind at the moment that I wanted to share a bit with you guys, so I guess that’s what I’m going to be doing.

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So, where to begin?….

I guess I can start off with the way I’ve been feeling since we’ve gotten back from our trip.

The first couple of days were genuinely tough, not only because of the jet-lag that I was dealing with, but also because of the vacation withdrawals I was going through.

Vacation withdrawals are a VERY real thing; some people take it serious and some just brush it off because they know that they’ve enjoyed their time during the vacation, and now it’s over, and that’s okay. But for me, it REALLY sucked when it was over.

Why?

I guess because it was the first trip I had gone on in SUCH a long time, I was planning it for SO long and it was the first trip that I had ever completely paid for and planned on my own. We had such an amazing time and were so care-free while over there, it was great.

And then we came back to reality and went back to our normal routines, which is fine because that’s what’s supposed to happen, but it made me realize that I don’t really like my normal routine, and I know I can be doing SO much more.

I went back to working both jobs that take up AT LEAST 75% of my time most days, which I’m VERY grateful to have because some people aren’t as lucky, BUT neither of them are what I REALLY want to be doing…

It left me thinking a lot lately about why I’m giving so much of my time and energy to these things that leave me with little to no free-time for myself to be working on the things that actually matter to me? Obviously I need to work, and obviously I need money. However, why continue to give all this time and energy to these things that are in no way, shape, or form adding real meaning to my life nor my career??

*I’m predominantly referring to my second job, not my primary one, btw.*

Doing this, I’ve quickly realized, is actually what’s sucking the energy, motivation and creativity away from me. It’s leaving me exhausted all of the time, and is what’s forcing me to have lack of motivation to do anything but rest really.

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My writing and blog are SO important to me, and because of all this, it’s caused me to have writer’s block more so than what I normally would have. I know the type of things I want to write and talk about, but I’ve been second guessing myself SO much recently and don’t actually know or feel like they’re interesting enough to publish on my site.

I’m such a perfectionist and have such high expectations for myself that it’s hard for me to actually put myself and my writing out there sometimes when I don’t feel like it’s my best, and this just adds on to it since I feel like I’m not really giving it my all.

I mean, who wants to post just to post? Not me.

I want to make sure that if I’m posting and putting myself out there, it’s because I’m giving you guys my best.

I’m also well-aware that I’ve got no one to blame but myself for this, because I’m the one who chose to pick up a second job, and money-wise it’s been okay, but at what cost?

I’m past the point of doing these things and jobs that don’t mean much to me. I want and need to start focusing more on finding things that make me happy and continue to be an asset to my life as well as my creativity.

I want to be happy doing the work that I am, and although I was content with these things, jobs, etc. for a while, I’m realizing more and more that it’s time to take a step back from all of that (while being smart about it obviously), and really begin to look for and do work in the specific field that I want.

That being said, I’m making the executive decision to make some big changes in my life in the coming weeks/months.

I don’t know exactly what all of them will be and how I’m going to go about them, but even if I did, I don’t think it would be the best and/or smartest thing to do to tell you guys them just yet (I’m sort of superstitious in that sense). Once they become more final, I will be sure to share them with you guys as much as I can and bring you guys along in my journey as I’ve always promised that I would!!

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On a separate and somewhat more POSITIVE note, I’ve really been trying my best since coming back to keep myself as busy as possible with the fun and more creative stuff that I like to do like with my blog, planning other trips/events and shooting more content for my Instagram.

I told myself (as well as Diego since he is my photographer) that I want and need to be more consistent when it comes to my content on Instagram. Social media isn’t everything, but it is and I think always will be a BIG portion of where my following comes from, so it is very much true what people tend to say, that consistency IS key. So there’s that.

I’ve also seriously been considering more and more recently creating a YouTube channel.

This really isn’t anything new and is actually something I’ve been saying I want to try doing for a while now, but I don’t know….lately I’ve been watching a TON of different videos which has been inspiring me more and more to want to finally do it.

I need to figure a few more things out as far as how I’m going to have the separation between creating enjoyable content for you guys both for my blog here and on the channel, but let’s see…….LeoGirl could be coming to YouTube soon, who knows? 😏 stay tuned for that.

And finally, Diego and I have a few things coming up soon that are pretty exciting. Nothing that’s too through the roof and extravagant, but a few things that are really fun and exciting for us that I can’t wait for you guys to see, INCLUDING a very possible trip for my own birthday in August…..🤪, it’s still in the works, but remember what I told you guys, when I really want and/or put my mind to something, I will ALWAYS find a way to make it happen 😇.

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I’m really trying to remain positive because I know all of this that I’ve been feeling lately is only temporary, but I wanted to share it with you guys in hopes that it’ll show you if you’re feeling the same way at all (about any of these things), that you are not alone.

It’s a sucky feeling to have in the moment, but unfortunately that’s life, and it happens. The only thing we can do is try to think ahead and hope that we can find solutions to these things and/or have things to look forward to before it gets us down.

Regardless, I hope you guys enjoyed this post. Please like, share, follow and comment, and I’ll see you guys in my next one.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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