What I’ve Learned From 2020

Hey guys,

Long time, no see. Happy New Year! Happy 2021!!

I HATE going this long without posting anything, and I’m really sorry about it, but life has been crazy the past few months for me, as I’m sure it’s been for everyone else as well.

BUT, regardless, it is a NEW year, new beginning and chance to reinvent your(my)self! How exciting is that to think about?! People always like to make the “new year, new me” jokes, but why can’t you change the way you are for the new year? Isn’t that always the point of getting excited for the new year to begin with? Creating new goals, new memories, new habits, etc. etc.? I can’t speak for everyone, but that’s definitely always MY mentality when the new year rolls around.

Because of this, I wanted to reflect a bit and have my first post of the year be about some of the things that I learned from 2020 and hope to change and/or build on for this year (since Lord knows there were a shit ton of things I think we can ALL take away from last year).

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So let’s get straight into it….in no particular order:

  1. Patience

    I think we all learned the hard way last year that patience really is a virtue. This was SO important all throughout 2020, for multiple reasons. Whether we liked it or not, we had to be patient with everything going on all throughout the pandemic. As frustrating as it was, and continues to be at times, we all had to trust and have patience that everything was going to workout, fall into place and go back to how it used to (and no I don’t mean that we’re going to go back exactly how we were before, but that’s besides the point).

Personally, I was also forced to learn a lot about patience professionally. I was at my last job for almost 4 years and DYING to get out and finally find something within the field I loved. And it was one of the MOST frustrating things for such a long time not being able to do anything about it. I was agitated every single day that I had to get up and go to work. Not because of the people or the work itself, just out of frustration for the fact that it wasn’t really what I wanted to do. Until November…when I least expected it, I got a call about an interview for my dream job at my dream company, and within 2 weeks, I had secured the position!! When you finally decide to release control and least expect it is usually when things really start to fall into place. Trust the process and realize that God’s got you, always!! He knows what He’s doing.

2. Gratitude

I don’t know about you guys, but gratitude was a major thing that I learned in 2020 as well, which is funny because I’ve always been grateful for the things and people that I have in my life, but I guess because I was always so ‘on the go’ pre-pandemic, it never really hit me HOW blessed I was and should be. The pandemic and everything else going on in the world at the time, and even now, really shows you that nothing is ever promised in life, so live like today’s your last day on earth and always be grateful for everything and everyone in your life whether big or small.

3. Health

This one is also kind of funny just because I’ve always strived to be healthy and fit (to some extent) when I was big into dieting and working out pre-pandemic, but throughout 2020 I really made myself buckle down and take my mental and physical health a lot more serious. I really made it a priority to recognize the type of things I take in mentally and emotionally via TV or social media, as well as the foods and what not that I put into my body. I’ve never been one for taking vitamins, but after everything that’s gone on, I’ve really realized how important it is, especially as a woman because of everything our bodies go through as it is. I may be slacking a bit on the working out part of physical health, but I do plan on getting back into that slowly but surely in the coming days/weeks.

4. Working smarter, not harder

This pandemic and being home for as long as I have has really put things into perspective as far as my content creation on all platforms. Since everything was shutdown and we were forced to stay home, it forced me (and everyone else that does the type of work I do obviously) to REALLY get creative. It can be difficult as it is sometimes to come up with content ideas in general, but add in the fact that we had to stay home for as long as we have been and feeling like there’s only so many things you can do and show within your home?? Geez, taking creativity to a whole other level. And it still can be challenging sometimes, but the key really is to just work smarter, not harder. Play to your own personal interests and pick the brains of your audience, and it’ll end up being simpler then you think.

5. Self care

This one also plays into the mental health part we were just talking about, but in 2020 more than EVER I realized how truly important it was to put down and step away from your phone/computer and practice self-care. Whether that’s pampering myself, doing the things I love or just being by myself, it’s so important to take care of yourself (in all ways). It really does wonders for your mental health. It gives your mind, body and soul a chance to relax and rejuvenate itself either for the rest of the day or the next day. Please please please prioritize your self-care treatments, whatever that may be for you.

And finally, 6. Surrounding yourself with good vibes

This is just as equally important as everything else I’ve mentioned. I know we’re in the middle of a pandemic and we really aren’t supposed to (or shouldn’t) be seeing other people, but if you are one of those people that are still doing this, please make sure that you are at least keeping good company and positive vibes around you; whether that’s family, friends, significant others, etc. There is enough negative and scary crap going on in/around the world without you adding on to it by keeping bad company around you. Nobody needs any sort of extra negativity lingering around them and it is SO important to keep good people and vibes around you. It helps keep your spirits up when things are rough, and this also doesn’t just apply to people; be sure to keep good/positive music, scents, etc. around you. When you surround yourself with good vibes and energy, it not only makes you feel good, but also ends up mirroring into your own life.

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I hope that you guys enjoyed this new post and took something away from it. I know that I say this A LOT, but I am officially back and my goal for this year is to post at LEAST once a week, twice if I can. So please don’t be shy in dropping any/all suggestions that you may want to see from me on here.

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Thank you guys for reading, and I’ll see you in the next one!

-Xoxo, LeoGirl 

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One Lesson I Learned This Past Month

Hey guys and happy Sunday!

Holy crap, I honestly can’t believe it’s Sunday again AND that we’re already in May…where the heck did the time go?! It’s flying by, which I still haven’t decided yet if that’s a good or bad thing.

But, for today’s post I wanted to talk to you about something I’ve learned throughout this past month while in quarantine.

There’s actually a lot of different things that I can say in this post about the things I’ve learned recently, but if I had to choose one, and settle on the MAIN thing, it would be PATIENCE.

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PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE

I don’t think I ever fully knew/understood what that phrase really meant until this whole situation started and I had no choice but to learn the hard way about it.

Wouldn’t you guys agree?

I mean think about it, literally EVERYTHING in this situation requires patience, like it or not.

  • Patience to wait, know and understand the severity of the situation.
  • Patience about whether or not you’re going to still have a job during and even after all of this is over.
  • Patience for all of our stimulus checks to finally hit our accounts and/or unemployment (if you qualified for both/either).
  • Patience for the lines to get in and out of relatively ANY store to get whatever it is you may need.
  • Patience for how long this is all going to last.
  • Patience for your kids’ virtual learning.
  • Patience for constantly being around the same few people 24/7 whether that’s a significant other, your kids, roommates, etc. that you may not normally be used to being around THIS much.

The list could really go on and on.

The point is that, like I said, like it or not we’ve all had to adapt and be patient during this time. I know that for me personally, it’s been a month and a half in quarantine thus far and it’s definitely been tough at times because I’m so used to being on the go (as I’m sure a lot of you guys can relate to as well).

This is our new ‘norm’ for the time being, so we really have no choice but to suck it up, be patient , make the best of it somehow and wait for the day (hopefully soon) that this is all over and behind us.

Things are definitely tough right now for everybody and I’m sure people are starting to, if not already been, antsy about it all, but I have no doubt that this is all coming to an end soon and we’ll be able to get back to reality. We’ve just got to continue to be patient as doctors, nurses and everyone else in between that have been helping to get the situation under control keep doing their thing, as well as us continuing to do our part in all of this (i.e., Social distancing, wearing masks WHEN NEEDED, washing our hands, etc.).

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What’s something that YOU guys learned this past month? I would love to hear from you guys about it and discuss it!

I hope you guys enjoyed this post, and if you did please always remember to drop a like on it and follow me for more posts if you aren’t already!

I hope you guys have a great rest of the weekend. It’s been high 70s here in New York so if you live here, try to get out and enjoy the weather a little while still being protected and practicing social distancing!

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Until my next post….

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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“Love Is Patient, Love Is Kind…,” You Know The Rest, Right?

Hi Guys! It’s been kind of a long time since the last time I posted anything, since last year actually, and I’m sorry about that, but there’s just been a lot going on lately. Between work, the gym, and other things going on on the side, it’s been a lot and I’ve been exhausted. But I’m back to posting (hopefully) regularly again and I can’t wait for you guys to see my next couple of posts! So let’s get started! 🙂

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Being in a relationship with someone you actually love and care about can be such a beautiful thing. You have someone that’s always going to be there for you, someone you can always talk to, someone you can laugh and be silly with all the time, and someone you can just be your full and complete self with. That’s always the hope anyway. But it’s no secret that in this day and age it’s almost ten times more difficult to find and/or be in a relationship with someone who completely and honestly reciprocates their feelings for you as you do for them. It’s a shame that that’s how things are, but it is what it is I guess.

That being said, I came with these sort of “tips” so to speak, that I think work really well when it comes to being in a relationship. And by no means am I in any way, shape, or form a relationship expert or trying to be one, so as always, when it comes to my posts I can and will only be going off of my personal experiences. And these are definitely things that I think I can say my boyfriend and I follow and are things that have worked really well for us throughout our relationship. And hey, we’ve been together almost 4 years now so I’m thinking it’s working well for us, and could possible work for you too.

(And no, I’m not trying to say or make it seem like we have “the perfect relationship” because we most definitely do not, but we’re happy and always manage to make things work by doing a lot of these things.)

Also, I am fully aware that everyone does things differently and/or in their own way, so the things I’m going to mention are not in any way groundbreaking or that 100% work for everyone. But they are suggestions and things that I have found work really well for us so I figure why not share them?

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I feel like something that is EXTREMELY important in a relationship and anything really is putting yourself first. That’s the key to happiness. And not in a an unhealthy and selfish type of way where all you think about is yourself and you don’t care about anyone’s feelings but your own. In a healthy, selfish way where you love yourself, know your own worth, not losing who you are just because you’re in a relationship and making sure that you are genuinely happy with yourself and that person; which brings me to my first point:

  1. Love yourself before loving someone else. I don’t fully agree with the saying “you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself,” because I think it’s fully possible for it to happen, hell it’s happened to me, but I don’t recommend it. I know that sometimes you can’t control it, but you shouldn’t put yourself in the situation where you love someone else and don’t even actually love yourself because that means you’re always going to put their needs before your own, and sometimes that’s okay, but definitely not always and should not become a habit. Make sure you’re in the right mental and emotional state for yourself before you decide to take on someone else’s feelings as well.
  2. Don’t rush into anything with anyone. I feel like it’s extreme rare to see or hear that people go out on dates anymore. Date! Go out with the person a few times whether they’re full-on expensive dates or chill, simple ones to the park, because the whole point of dating isn’t where you go for the date. The point of dating is spending time with one another and actually getting to know who they are, how they are, and if this is someone you can see yourself being with for however long.
  3. Give each other space. As much as it may be great at first to see that person everyday, you need to give yourselves a little time and space away from each other to be able to miss one another a bit, especially if you guys are just dating at the moment. Obviously it would be different when you guys move in together and/or get married, but for the time being give yourselves a chance to miss each other. I know a few couples that were together for a number of years and saw each other literally EVERY SINGLE DAY for several hours a day, and it was great at first, but it just got to a point where they broke up because they got tired of each other since they were always together and never did anything apart. A little bit of space is always okay.
  4. A relationship consists of TWO people, not just one person or the other. It’s a two-way street as cliche as it may sound. Losing yourself/changing yourself just to make the other person happy because they may not like certain qualities about you is a no-no. It’s one thing to compromise with each other and help change certain bad habits about yourself and/or the other person, but it’s another thing when they may be knit-picking the smallest things to get on you about that they may dislike, because ultimately, they can’t force you to change yourself. Just as you can’t force them to change themselves. If it’s one thing that I’ve learned from previous relationships, it’s that you can’t force someone to change, no matter how bad they’re habits are or how badly you want them to. A person has got to want to change in order for it to happen. And if they really love/care about you, they will, otherwise you might just be wasting your time and energy.
  5. DO NOT publicize your business to the whole world about every little thing you go through on social media. This is pretty self-explanatory. This generation has gotten WAAAAAY too used to publicizing any little thing they go through in a relationship; if you guys break-up, if you got into an argument, if the person cheated, etc. And to an extent, I get it because you’re so upset and it’s in a really weird way like a coping and/or venting method. But it’s just not okay because 1. what happened between you two is your business, no matter how terrible it was and not everybody needs to know about it. And 2. if we’re being really real, a lot of you make yourselves look real stupid doing that because y’all end up getting back with them a few days or weeks later. And I think y’all think everyone forgets about when you completely posted about he/she cheating on you, when in actuality SO many people do not lol. Call it nosy, or whatever you want to consider it but it is what it is. A lot of people don’t forget, and then at that point you can’t tell people to mind their business or that everyone be in your business and putting they’re two sense in because you really did it to yourself from the beginning.
  6. Don’t believe everything you may hear about a person when starting a new relationship. If they’re instagram famous and you hear all these crazy things about them when they’re in a relationship, or just rumors in general about “regular” people, don’t believe it all. But also, don’t be naive and turn a blind eye to it. Just listen, take it into account and be mindful of it until you see (or don’t see these things) for yourself. Come to your own conclusions about the person, because people can be really envious and for all you know their just saying a lot of those things so that you won’t go for them and they will (that’s happened to me quiet a few times).
  7. Communication. Communication. C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-I-O-N!! You CANNOT have or be in a relationship without it. Talk it out, talk EVERYTHING out even if it takes hours. And if they find that annoying, boring or repetitive, well than maybe they’re not the right person for you. Communication really is key, from the biggest things to the most silly things.
  8. Support one another. Again, from the silliest things to all their hopes and dreams. If you can’t count on your significant other to love and support your aspirations, then what’s even the point of being in a relationship with them?
  9. The “Spark”- Don’t be with someone just to be with them and be able to say that you’re you in a relationship. Make sure there’s a real connection there between you two. Going for the looks will only take you so far in a relationship. If you don’t feel any real spark, then just let them go. Of course dating around and having fun is extremely important, especially when you’re young, but you also shouldn’t be wasting yours or the other person’s time.
  10. DON’T LET SOCIAL MEDIA DETERMINE HOW YOU OR YOUR RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE!! Relationship goals are what YOU make them. Yes, those couples you see on social media doing outrageous things for one another are unbelievably cute sometimes, but you’re not them, and every couple is different in how they do things. Maybe you can’t afford to do things like that and vice versa with them. Maybe you guys just never thought to do certain things like that for one another, but that’s okay. It doesn’t make you guys any better or worse of a couple for not being able to. Do things that make you guys happy and always have.
  11. And finally, If you’re not meant to be in a relationship or ready for it, don’t be in one. I  know i briefly touched upon this before, but it really is true and so important. It’s not fair to the other person, and especially don’t do it just because you may feel bad for them. Just be open and honest with the person about how you feel and they should understand instead of being led on. And if they don’t, well you can’t be mad at them for that, it’s just how they feel and maybe it wasn’t meant to be.

This generation has gotten way too used to getting into a disagreement of some sort with their significant other and immediately turning to what they think is the best and/or easiest alternative which is either just breaking up, or worse, cheating. Like cut the crap, grow up, and actually talk shit out and/or work it out. That is, if you ACTUALLY  love and care about the person, otherwise don’t even bother to be honest.

A relationship takes time and effort. There’s going to be highs and lows, that’s inevitable, but how you choose to deal with those highs and lows will determine whether or not your relationship will make it. But it also shouldn’t feel like work. It shouldn’t be or feel like you’re killing yourself just to ensure that the relationship stays together. At the end of the day, although there will be lows, you should be happy and having fun with the person that you’re with, especially if you’re trying to have a real future with that person.

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That’s all I’ve got for you guys and this post today. Let me know in the comments below what you guys think about the things I mentioned and if you think I missed or left anything out.

Also let me know if there are any particular things you guys would want to see me post about in the future. Remember any and all feedback from you guys is always welcome!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤