Confidence Is Key

You guys, if there’s any 2 things that I can take away from 2018 thus far, it’s that 1. if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will and 2. confidence is EVERYTHING.

2 majorly important things, that which are not at all easy to achieve for some. In fact, for some (many…..most?), these 2 things are things that take YEARS to master.

You need to believe in yourself in order for other people to, and not in a “you have to please and/or prove anything” to them type of way, but more of in a “oh he/she is not only serious about what it is they’re doing, but they’re also owning the heck out of it,” sort of way. There’s a major difference.

I’ve learned that doing that (along with your actual work obviously) is going to end up not only attracting more people to you as a person, but also whatever work it is that you’re trying to put out there to the world.

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As I said, I’m fully aware that confidence like this doesn’t happen overnight, in fact, it’s something that may take YEARS for you or anyone to perfect, but that’s okay.

People are going to talk regardless if you’re succeeding or failing at whatever it is that you want to do with your life. There are ALWAYS going to be haters, critics, and people who just generally don’t care about the work you’re putting out into the world. Which, for a long time it’s going to suck to see, but as long as YOU know that you’re working hard and being the best version of you and your work possible, that is ALL that should truly matter.

Although most times it’s easier said than done, you need to do your best to ignore any and all negativity that may be blocking you from doing your best work. Being insecure about putting yourself out there and receiving negative or no feedback at all can be REALLY discouraging, that’s normal, but you can’t just let those feelings take over and win.

Take those feelings and use them as motivation to add fuel to your fire to want to do TEN TIMES better than you were before, because if you keep trying your hardest to put that all aside and putting your best work out there, I promise that slowly but surely you will begin to see results.

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I’m not an expert, and I’m obviously still learning with each day that passes, but I’ve dealt with this SO many times, so speaking from experience, take it from me. I’ve been doing this blogging thing for a little over a year now, and similar to doing YouTube, sometimes it gets REALLY hard, harder than people may think. That’s because there are so many bloggers out here trying to make it and trying to do what I’m doing that it gets discouraging to see sometimes when I don’t get likes, views, comments or followers on my post.

I used to take it SO hard, to the point where it would stop me from wanting to write altogether, and don’t get me wrong, every once in a while it still happens, but after reading various bloggers’ advice/tips on how to see results and get better with your blog, PLUS this book I read (which I’ll speak more about later on) and other things on the internet, I gained my confidence back and learned a few things…

  1. How do I ever expect to achieve a fraction of the dreams/goals I have for myself if I get discouraged and just stop altogether? I told myself that although it may be a little difficult right now, that I knew what I was capable of with my writing and reminded myself about what exactly I wanted to do and get out of this one day.

And 2. Although there may be a lot of people with similar blog themes, topic ideas, etc., no one will EVER have the exact same way of thinking, writing and/or expressing their thoughts as me. Everyone, including myself, is different in how they do things believe it or not. We may all have similar ideas, but we express them in unique ways. NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME!!

Obviously I specified these examples for my specific case with writing and my blog, but it’s equally the same with any other field as well. It’s all about finding what you’re good at, making yourself stand out from the rest somehow, and just perfecting it from there. It IS do-able!

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I mentioned earlier that there was a book I read that actually REALLY helped me gain some of my confidence back. The name of the book is “YOU ARE A BADASS; HOW TO STOP DOUBTING YOUR GREATNESS AND START LIVING AN AWESOME LIFE,” by: Jen Sincero. It’s actually a pretty popular book, so many of you may already have seen/heard of it before and I’ve actually spoken about it before in my ‘Top 5 Favorite Motivational Books’ post (which I’ll leave linked here if you guys wanted to check it out), but if you haven’t, I HIGHLY recommend that you pick it up.

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Just based off of the title alone, I think it’s self-explanatory, but it really is a great and super-relatable book. Anyone that’s read it before I’m sure can vouch for that. It’s also not a complicated book at all, in fact, it’s full of quotes, examples and personal stories from the author that really help to break it down for anyone that may be lacking the confidence in themselves to succeed and conquer their dream(s).

I’m attaching the link for you guys here to be able to purchase it. I also am posting a snippet of it for you guys to determine for sure if you’d be interested and want to actually buy it.

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Rome wasn’t built in a day and hard-work never goes unnoticed (believe it or not). Believe in yourself, keep working hard no matter what and own the shit out of whatever it is that you’re most passionate about and want to do and watch the positive outcome for it happen sooner rather than later.

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I hope this was helpful to someone out there to some extent, if not I hope you at least thought it was an interesting read. Thank you guys so much for taking the time out to actually read my stuff. Please follow, like, share and comment, and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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Knowing When to Say Enough Is Enough

This is a topic that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. More often than not recently when I’ve been having conversations with people, at some point in the conversation they end up expressing how fed up they are about something, whether that be a job, a person, etc.

I feel like this is such an under-rated topic, which is odd considering how many people in this generation tend to complain about it. I’m speaking very generally about this, because it really can pertain to a number of different things.

Whether it is at work, in a relationship, or with family, everyone has their limit/breaking point and some people can only take so much. So when is it ‘okay’ to say enough is enough and walk away?

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I don’t think there’s any specific time to say/feel this (although others may feel otherwise depending on the situation), only you can truly be the judge of this. Only you would be able to determine how much is “too much” that you can and choose to take. This is definitely one of those ‘easier said than done’ things, because if you’re anything like me, you’re WAY too nice and tend to give people way too many chances.

Personally, in recent years my patience has grown incredibly thin. Actually, that’s not completely true, I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ve lost A LOT of patience over the past year, but I’ve also gained just as much patience if not more. Does that make sense? Probably not, but in my head it does.

Let’s back track a little…I’m the type of person that I put up with A LOT of crap from people, EVERYONE. I’m not necessarily a push-over, because I will speak my mind, but nowhere near as much as I should. I tend to say the gist of what I’m thinking to people, but not the full thing, which causes me to bottle a lot of what I’m thinking/feeling up.

The moral of me bringing that up is to make the point that lately I’ve had enough. I’ve reached my breaking point with a lot of people and things, which is what’s prompted me to cut a lot of those things out of my life and cut out all of that negativity. To a lot of people it’s probably felt sudden, but to me, it’s been building up for a LONG time.

I don’t think it’s bad for us as humans to do this. As humans, we’re constantly growing and figuring new things out; what works for us, what doesn’t, etc. It’s natural. I’ve learned that there are some things in life that are totally out of our control, but other things like this that even if it may suck or hurt in the moment to do, we have COMPLETE control over.

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Sometimes, saying enough is enough and walking away from certain people/things is necessary in order to better yourself or your future, no matter if it is a friend, family member or job. Don’t be afraid to let go of or put certain people/things in their place just because they’re familiar and/or a certain sense of comfort to you. Those things that you’re holding on to would probably end up being the same things that will hold you back later on in life (as I’ve come to the harsh realization about).

You literally are not obligated to put up with anyone or anything’s crap; of course be smart about it and weigh out the pros and cons of cutting certain things out of your life and its possible repercussions, but sometimes you kinda just gotta wing it and hope for the best. It’s your life, do what makes you happy. Even if it may seem a little iffy. I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I just don’t care what anyone says or thinks. I’m worrying about myself, my future and making myself happy. And if it ends up being that you were one of the things that I’ve cut out (which includes friends AND family), you’ll need to figure out what you did to make me do that because it honestly takes a LOT for me to make that kind of decision.

You don’t need to take crap from the people at your job. You’ll find a better job. You don’t need to take crap in a relationship (if they’re making you feel shitty and any less than you deserve), because there will be people out there to treat you like the King/Queen that you are. You don’t need to take crap from your “friends”, friends come and go, and true friends would not bring you down to begin with. And you certainly don’t need to take crap from your family, especially if you know you are doing everything you can at the moment to make your future life better. As long as YOU know you’re putting in the effort and work that is ALL that will truly matter and no one can judge you for that.

Value the people and things in your life that are not only going to benefit you (not in a selfish way), but also the things that will always lift you up and make you happy/feel good about yourself. Not the things that sometimes make you happy and other times bring you down and upset you or make you feel like crap. Screw that. Life is too short to NOT make yourself happy and live with people and things that aren’t going to benefit you and your future, especially if you’re at or around the age that I am (22 about to be 23).

Food for thought 🤷🏻‍♀️

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤