6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. If you did, please make sure to drop a like and make sure that you’re following my blog to stay up to date whenever I post! Thank you guys so much for reading and I’ll see you guys in the next one.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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How I Schedule My Work Weeks

Hey guys, happy Tuesday!

If we’re being real I am one of the, if not, THE biggest procrastinator of all time. I’m not proud of it, but it is what it is at this point, I’m working on it.

I’m trying to get myself on a better and more set schedule for everything I tend to work on, and because of that, I’m putting my planner to MUCH better use this year.

I’ve made a vow to myself that in 2020 I will no longer procrastinate, I will be much more organized and keep myself on somewhat of a more strict and consistent schedule (when it comes to my personal work anyway).

Unfortunately, a lot of times no matter how much planning a person tends to do, many things can go wrong and end up throwing you off course, which is why I try not to stress it too much because I know certain things like that ARE inevitable. However, it doesn’t hurt to have some sort of plan set up (as contradicting as that may sound), because you could always figure out ways around this stuff, which is what I’m going to be talking about and showing you guys in today’s post.

I’m going to be showing you guys my planner, talking about some of the things I tend to work on (even though most of you may already know at this point), and how I plan out my work days.

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My Planner

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I am and have always been OBSESSED with planners. Pictured above is actually my 2020 planner. My mom got me this for Christmas this past year, and I BELIEVE she got it from this store called The Christmas Tree Shops (not sure if it’s only in New York). I’m literally obsessed with this thing at the moment.

It’s pretty self-explanatory what a planner is and mine really isn’t that much different compared to other planners honestly, but I just really love how it looks on the outside and inside. It comes with inspirational quotes for each month, stickers for to-do lists, and a decent amount of space per day to be able to write any and everything you may need to. I use it to write down special dates, trips that are coming up, to-do lists that I may need to remember, etc. etc.

Shown below is an example of what some of the pages look like on the inside.

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Putting my planner to good use and scheduling my work days

Putting my planner to good use can be very hit or miss just because I have my relatively set Monday through Friday schedule as far as my full-time job and going to the gym afterwards. Weekends are a lot more easy and flexible to be able to plan and work on my personal stuff.

I do tend to try and sometimes get personal work done DURING the week, while I’m at work or after work on my off-days from the gym, but that’s what makes it hit or miss.

I’m at my full-time job from 9am-6pm Monday through Friday, then MOST days after work, I go to the gym and am there until about 8:30-9pm, then by the time I head home, eat something and get ready for the next day, it can be anywhere from 10-11pm or sometimes even midnight.

There is usually one day during the week that I try to skip the gym and use that time to either shoot some Instagram content with Geno and Diego, do some editing for my new video at the time, or just to catch up on some rest.

As far as shooting Instagram content, I kind of have to find out when I’m shooting on a weekly basis, and I say that because Diego and Geno are usually the ones that take my pictures, and depending on THEIR work schedules for the coming week, will end up determining when I’ll be able to shoot my stuff. Recently, it’s been somewhat consistent lately in that it’ll be on Wednesdays and one day during the weekend (it alternates between Saturdays and Sundays). As for actually posting my Instagram content, I usually try to upload the very next day after shooting, that’s always the same.

If I’m not busy trying to shoot on the weekend, it’s usually because I’m using that time to film and/or edit a new video. Every week I try to film usually on Saturdays (it’s just better and easier for me that day). Then depending on the video, I’ll start editing it the next day, Sunday, or Monday, and try to have it up no later than Wednesday. *This is one of those things that I’m trying to be more consistent with*

As for now with my blog, this is another one of those things that I’m REALLY trying hard to get myself on a stricter schedule for, I usually come up with my blog post ideas during the week while I’m at work, work on it on Sundays and am trying to be consistent with posting new posts on Tuesdays (as I am at this moment). If for whatever reason I don’t finish the post on Sunday, I’ll work on it while I’m at work on Monday and even a bit on the day of , just to make sure that everything is good to go when I publish it.

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Scheduling things like this can be a little crazy sometimes because there are SO many different things that need to be taken into account, but I think I’ve been doing a relatively good job in making it work.

I’m definitely not perfect, and there have been times (as I’m sure there will be in the future), where I’m not at all going to be able to stick to my plan/schedule for one reason or another, but I know that I’ll find another way to make that work somehow.

With things like this (blogging, Instagram content, filming videos), it also makes everything THAT much more simple when you already have in mind WHAT exactly you’re going to be working on that day; whether it’s the specific video, the outfit and location of the place you’re gonna be shooting at or the particular blog post.

I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I hope that it helped you get a better idea about how I tend to schedule my work days, as well as possibly even got YOU interested in wanting to invest in a planner. They actually really do come in handy and I recommend getting yourself one if you tend to have a lot going on in your life.

Please make sure to drop a like if you enjoyed this post. Thanks for reading and I’ll see you guys in the next one!

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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Tips For Making Your Last Minute Christmas Shopping (Slightly) Easier

Hello Everyone and happy Sunday!!

For my 5th Blogmas post, I thought it would be good, with there being only 9 days until Christmas left and knowing that many tend to leave their shopping for the last minute, to share some tips that I think will be helpful/beneficial in making your shopping (slightly) easier.

Now, some of these may not at all be ground-breaking to you guys, but these are things that I would suggest to anyone in general that I think would be best and easiest when you’re on a time crunch of any sort for holiday shopping.

Plus, some of these things were things that I obviously used in my own personal experience(s) when I was shopping for my family and friends, and they all for the most part ended up working out relatively well.

So let’s get started!!

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  1. Know your audience (A.K.A. the person/people you’re shopping for)!

Probably one of the most obvious things to keep in mind, because the more you know the person you’re shopping for, the easier it’ll be to pick something(s) for him or her, OR at the very least, it’ll give you an idea of where to start when you’re looking for something to get them.

2. Know how much you’re willing to spend on them.

Another fairly obvious one just because you’d be surprised at how many things/items are narrowed down when you pinpoint how much you’re willing to spend on the person. That alone can help you determine what kind of websites, stores, etc. you’ll end up shopping at, which in turn, may help you pinpoint the particular item(s) you want to get based off of what those places are most known for.

3. Invest in Amazon Prime (at least until your free trial or Christmas Shopping is all done!)

Guys Amazon Prime is literally a life-changer and life-saver. If you haven’t done or tried it before, I recommend you go on their website right this second and sign up for their 3-month free trial or whatever the deal is at the moment. You can buy whatever it is you want to buy for the person/people you’re shopping for, AND get FREE 2-DAY SHIPPING on the item(s). What’s great about that too is that, although not ALL of the items on their site will have the option for the 2-day shipping, 1. while you’re shopping, somewhere next to the items shown, it’ll say ‘amazon prime,’ as in it’s eligible for the 2- day shipping, and 2. they also tend to show you different buying options for the particular item(s) you want. Meaning, if one specific seller of the item you want doesn’t offer it for free 2-day shipping, another seller with the exact same item, might have it instead!

OR if you don’t want to go through the hassle of signing up their free trial, hit up a friend that does have it and ask if you can borrow their account. It’s not like you would be using their cards/money, because you could always input new credit/debit card information for the buying.

4. Order online and pick-up in store!

This is super easy AND convenient because almost ANY retail store usually has this option. It also just makes any sort of shopping twice as easy, because it avoids the hassle of you having to pay for shipping, as well as having to go into the physical store to find whatever it is that you’re wanting and then wait in line to have to pay for it. Sure you’ll probably have to wait on a separate line to pick the item up, but it’s still saving A TON of time compared to the alternative and more traditional shopping method.

5. Opting for gift cards!

This may be sort of cheating, and is more of a gift suggestion than anything, but I still consider it to be a great gift and tip. I say this because say you’re the type that not only tends to leave their Christmas shopping for the last minute, but ALSO have no type of idea what to get the person/people you’re shopping for….why not opt for a gift card? You can easily find out their favorite store(s), and just buy them a gift card either online or in-store and let THEM buy whatever it is they truly want/need themselves. Again, similar to buying online and picking up in-store, it allows you to avoid any of the craziness of ‘normal’ shopping, while still managing to get them a gift.

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Well guys, those are all of the tips and tricks that I have for you for any last minute Christmas shopping you guys may be doing throughout the next few days. As I said, I definitely did and followed a few of these things, so I hope you guys enjoyed them and found them helpful to you in some way, shape, or form.

Thank you guys so much for reading and following my posts! Please follow, like, share and comment and I’ll see you guys on Wednesday for my next Blogmas post!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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