6 Things I Want To Let Go Of This Year

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope you guys all had a great weekend and are having a great start to the first week of March!

For today’s post, as you read from the title, I want to talk about things that I’m trying to let go of this year (as many others may end up agreeing with me on). I realize we’re already 3 months into the new year, but better late then never for coming to certain realizations like this, right?

A question I want you to ask yourselves before I begin: How do you expect this year or any day/month/year now or in the future to be different if you don’t take it upon yourself to make the necessary changes and remove as much of the negativity in your life and/or the things that tend to weigh you down in life as possible?

I’ve thought a lot about all of the things I’m going to talk about, and none of them are necessarily ‘ground-breaking’, but I think they are all definitely necessary for being able to live your best, negativity-free life (to some degree anyway).

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These are in no particular order:

  1. Grudges

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You gotta end up asking yourself what does holding a grudge really end up doing for you?

I’ve learned that holding grudges against people/things does absolutely nothing for you other than add unnecessary stress, anger and negativity to your life. Sure it may seem logical and justified in the moment of the issue, but eventually all you can and should do is try addressing the situation as best as you can and just let it go regardless of the outcome. Life is too short to be living with anger in your heart and stressing yourself out with unnecessary grudges.

2. My Aggression

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I have a tendency to be aggressive when I’m trying to be vocal about certain things I want and/or am feeling, and it’s not necessarily because I’m an angry person, but more because I feel like at times I’m not actually being understood or REALLY heard in what I’m trying to express to the person at the time.

I’ve learned that although it may come off as aggressive, it’s more just the fact that I can be really passionate when I’m trying to express myself and unfortunately, more often than not, it tends to come off as aggressive (I mean hello, I’m a freakin’ Leo).

I’m learning to slowly but surely let that go and train myself to think before I speak a little more and realize that there are ways to express how you feel without seeming like you’re angry all the time.

3. My Shyness

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This one is hard because it’s literally something that I’ve dealt with my ENTIRE life. Being shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing in general, but when it comes to the work that I’m trying to do and the goals I’m trying to accomplish, it can definitely hold me back (as it unfortunately has before).

I’m sure that I’ve missed out on SO many networking events and opportunities due to my shyness, which really sucks, but this is why I’m trying to break out of this in 2020. I’m trying to put myself out there and be more transparent with you guys, and go to more networking events to meet more people and connections to hopefully move me further along in my career endeavors. This is definitely a goal of mine this year, so hopefully I can get it done.

4. Procrastination

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Seriously, if I had a dollar for every single time I’ve EVER procrastinated on my work, school stuff, house chores, etc., I would be freakin’ rich right now. I will say this, however that although I don’t necessarily take pride in always being such a procrastinator, I had found that (and yes this “theory” was tested SEVERAL times before), pushing to do any sort of work until the last minute, more often than not always ended up making me throw out my absolute best work in any type of papers, projects, etc. Of course now I’m no longer in school so really the only things that tend to get pushed back are things like cooking, cleaning and/or laundry, but nonetheless!

Ultimately this is a habit that I’m trying my hardest to get rid of altogether, because it really does just tend to hold you back and throw you off track.  I understand being and feeling lazy in certain instances, people feel like that all the time, including myself, but I promise you that in almost anything and EVERYTHING, it’s better all around for you to get shit done early and/or as soon as possible to get it out of the way so that you won’t have to worry about it later AND you can make time to do other things that you’ve been wanting to do.

5. Unsupportive/Fake People

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Read this back again if you need to because it’s definitely one of the most important ones.

I have a ‘toxic trait’ where I’m so prone to cutting people off without thinking twice about it recently, and that goes for anyone, whether your family or friends, I have no issue with doing it for anyone. And it’s nothing personal, I just feel like I’ve gotten to an age where I have no time for people or things that aren’t doing anything to motivate, support or just generally be there for me. This is why I always say that my circle is SO small, because it really is.

I feel like people tend to get it confused where they think support means they constantly have to talk about, watch, or promote your work, business, etc., and it’s really not like that at all. Support can be any one of those things, at any given time. It doesn’t have to be ALL the time and it doesn’t HAVE to be every single thing that I put out there, but once in a while, support especially when you know the person is just starting out and can use all the support they can get, really does mean the world. Support can be shown in a variety of ways like reposting your name/video/song/business, etc., giving feedback to you about your work (whether it’s publicly on social media OR privately via DM and/or text), it can be simply asking you how your work is doing in general whether they actually know what you’re doing or not, or even just little words of encouragement every so often, the list can really go on and on, .

And I’ve found that there are SO many people that tend to claim they’re “friends” or “supporters” of mine but I’ve never heard a single word from them about ANY of my work. Also, let’s not confuse what I’m saying, I’m not hurt or anything because of this, I’ve learned to make my peace with the fact that that’s just how some people are and they would rather support absolute strangers as opposed to supporting people they actually know, but this is why I think it’s just easier for me and my well-being to cut them off altogether; or at the very least, just not trust them with knowing important/valuable information about the kind of work I’m doing.

6. Doubts

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I tend to struggle with doubting myself and my work a lot. I know the kind of work I’m capable of doing and putting out, but there’s still always something in me every so often that manages to let doubtful thoughts slip throughout my mind.

Having doubts about anything can be SUCH an annoying and shitty thing because it ends up making you second guess every little thing/detail imaginable to the point where you may not even want to put out what you’ve been working on for days/weeks/months, etc.

I’m learning to slowly let go of all of my doubts because I feel like as long as I’m doing things right, I have pure intentions and know what I’m trying to make the outcome out to be, then everything else will end up falling into place the way that it’s meant to be.

There is no use stressing about doubts and/or the outcome of things when you have no real control over how things are going to turn out. You gotta leave it up to God (or whatever superior being you believe in) and trust that He/She will not steer you wrong, and what’s meant to be, will always find it’s way.

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-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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To The Lost Minds Out There Still Trying To Figure It Out 💭🚶🏻🚶🏻‍♀️

Fear of the unknown is a fear that can truly scar a person’s mind and well-being. Feeling lost, not knowing what the next move is going to be, what you want to do in the future, or fear of being stuck in the same daily routine and having no sense of success or prosperity in whatever it is you may be doing.

Today’s post is going to be for all of my fellow high school, college, and post-college kids. Those of you who may be feeling really lost right now because you feel as though you have no idea where your life is headed.

We’re at a point in our lives, and an age, where it feels like we should have everything, if not most of it, already figured out.

High Schoolers: Ya’ll are supposed to be making, or starting to make, big decisions in your life about college; picking the right schools, figuring out what you want to major in, whether or not you should stay close to home or get the hell away from it, etc.

College Students: You’re pretty much considered an adult already; you should be using this time to figure out the more “important” things in your life than just partying and hanging out all the time (or so people assume this is all you do).

Post-College kids: People think/assume that we definitely must already have everything figured out; where we’re going to work, relationships, where we’ll live, and pretty much just have our whole lives mapped out in front of us already.

ALL OF THESE EXPECTATIONS ARE UNFAIR AND UNREALISTIC!!!! 

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It’s because of the society we live in today and how the media tends to portray all of these people and things, that forces us and the people around us to have these unrealistic expectations of “having it all figured out.”

Not everybody is a celebrity or general public figure. Not everybody will have everything figured out, planned, and set for the remainder of their lives by the age of 17-18 (A.K.A. the Kylie Jenners and Justin Biebers of the world). And if you are one of those people who this has happened to, congratulations, that must be really great for you; but for those of you who don’t, that is perfectly okay too.

 

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This is not the point of your lives where you HAVE to have everything figured out. This is the point of your lives where you SHOULD be having fun, enjoying life and making mistakes along the way. We’re young, this is the point of our lives where we’re just starting to figure it all out, and you know what? It’s going to take a while. It may take a year, it may take five years, but that’s okay because these things take time.

I know so many people who are currently struggling at the moment to figure out what the next move in their lives should be. They feel like their not going anywhere with their lives and like they could be doing so much more, and they’re so hard on themselves because of it. That may be true (that you could be doing so much more), but take your time and figure it out as you go along.

Yes, it’s fine to have a plan for yourself and dreams, but keep in minds things can/will change, that’s inevitable, and you could end up on a completely different path for yourself than what you originally envisioned.

I don’t have it all figured out, sure I have a plan for myself but I’m always prepared for it to change, whether in the smallest or biggest way; it happens. You just have to remember that it’s all part of life’s process, and we have to learn to trust the process. But don’t beat yourself up over not having it all figured out, and as a result, you rush the process and just settle for whatever first comes up.

NEVER SETTLE!! Yes, of course it’s fine to be realistic for some, if not many, of these decisions you would make, but I always tell people that have spoken to me about their fears for this to at least try going for the things that you love to do first. Try it out, see how you feel about it, and if that doesn’t work out then that’s okay, but at least you would be able to say that you tried it out, and then moved on to something else.

Try a million different things and see which one, or few, work for you. Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity and excitement! Screw what the media and society in general thinks and tries to categorize as “the norm,” do what makes YOU happy and take your time doing it, because at the end of the day it’s your life and you do what you think is best for YOU. Not what you think other people want for you or will accept. Don’t be afraid to take risks, don’t be afraid of getting judged by fellow family/friends, who cares what they have to say or think. People are going to talk regardless if you’re doing good or bad, so may as well do what you want anyway.

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Don’t feel rushed to figure everything out, take your time and really figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. But also, don’t use you feeling lost or the fear of the unknown as an excuse to not do anything at all. You have to be helping yourself figure it out in some type of way; set aside a certain amount of time throughout the day to really sit down and figure out your interests/hobbies, which you like the most, and which you could see yourself getting far with in a career. No one’s going to do that for you, especially since nobody knows you better than you.

You got this, you’ll figure everything out eventually. Take it step by step, day by day. Don’t rush, take your time, and everything will work itself out for the best. It’ll all happen at its own time and pace.

That’s all I’ve got for today, hope you guys enjoyed this post, and until next time!

 

-Xoxo Leo Girl<3