Hi Everyone! Today’s post is going to be the first of quite a few that’ll be coming that’s part of a new “segment”, so to speak, that I’m starting called Battle of the Sexes.
The way this is going to work is that every time one of these posts is done, there’s going to be a new topic discussed and a new guy discussing the topic with me. With each topic me and the guy are pretty much going to be answering a variety of questions that will be revolving around that topic.
Ultimately, there’s not actually going to be a “winning gender,” because the purpose of these posts isn’t going to be to fight among each other to make either one of the genders (or person) look bad; the purpose of these posts are really just to hear the differences of opinions between me and the person, and more of a discussion in general.
Please feel free to leave comments down below about anything and everything that you may have agreed and/or disagreed with that was said, as well as suggestions of topics you would want to see spoken about. But also please refrain from any bashful or malicious comments towards me and/or the person because EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not. Also, although it’s titled ‘Battle of the Sexes’, I am not opposed to doing these with women as well. So if you’re interested, whether male or female, leave me a comment down below or shoot me a message on any of my social media platforms and I’ll be happy to include you in one! 🙂
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So for this very first post I thought it would be great to choose someone that is very special to me and who I have discussions like this with ALL the time, and that’s my boyfriend, Diego. I showed him a variety of topics that I thought would be good to discuss, and let him choose the one he was most interested in; and that ended up being about money and shopping since they both, to many extents, go hand in hand with each other.
Diego thinks that something like this would be a lot better if it were in the form of a podcast of some sort or something, which I agree, but I don’t have a channel for something like that nor would I know how to even go about creating one lol, so for the meantime, this is what I have to work with and the way I’ll do it until I figure something better out.
So let’s get started! 🙂 We’re going to start off with easy, “simpler” questions first then get into the more deep questions.
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- How much do you usually spend each day?
D- Honestly, not much. I would say $20 total during the week. I’ll buy coffee every morning, and lunch maybe once a week. But I’ll say Mondays would be that one day during the week that i’ll spend the “most” on, I’ll buy coffee and lunch that day, so maybe $15-20, but thats about it.
E- I think $15-20 a day because I buy breakfast and since it gets weighed, it depends on my portion how much i spend. That can be anywhere from $6-8 and then every 2-3 days I put about $10-15 on my Starbucks card for coffee.
2. Are you saving to buy anything in particular?
D- I want to start saving for a Tesla as soon as I can, because thats my dream car.
E- I’m attempting to save for a few things but nothing that’s like super immediate. It’s not necessarily buying, but more like renting, an apartment. But i guess the biggest thing I would say I’m saving for at this moment is our (Diego and I’s) trip this summer. Nothing is finalized yet, but that is the goal to save for.
3. Did you ever receive an allowance?
D- No, I never did.
E- I actually did get an allowance when I was growing up!
D- You did? How much?
E- I think it was like $10 every week or every other week. It was only for like a couple of months to a year at most. And I have absolutely no idea what I would use it on, but I can assume that since i was 8-9 years old that it was probably used on toys and games or something like that lol.
4. Have you ever been in debt?
D- Yes, recently actually. I don’t really wanna say how much or from what, but it kind of was a lot.
E- I am sort of in debt now from my credit card and student loan. I won’t say specifically how much, but I will say that its not terrible because i am paying it off. And paying it off isn’t so much the issue, whereas being smart about paying it off is.
5. Have you ever owed money to people?
D- No, NEVER. Even if I did, I ALWAYS make sure to pay them back ASAP because i hate having to owe anyone anything.
E- I have, but its mainly like my mom. And its definitely not on purpose, I’ll just forget sometimes because I’m busy worrying about other things I have to pay off like my credit card or groceries while I was away at school, and it wouldn’t even be a lot maybe like $50 or less.
6. Have you ever found money?
D- Like in my clothes?
E- No not really, more like in the street or anything like that.
D- I’ve never found money outside in the streets before.
E- I used to find money all the time when I was younger. I found $50 one time under a bench at a store!
D- What the hell happened now??
E- I have NO idea, up until I was like 8 or 9 I would find money in the strangest place. $1, $5, $10, it was great, but I guess after that was when I started to have bad luck lol.
7. How much do you spend on food each week?
D- Like $20 (during the week), and like $100-150 during the weekends with you, but if it wasn’t for going out on weekends it would just be like $20 probably.
E- The entire week?!
D- Well yeah, I mean not to sound fucked up or anything but I take you out to eat a lot and normally I don’t really have a purpose to go out and eat by myself. If you wanna go out and try a new place I’m the one who ends up paying for it.
E- Oooooookay, I offer to pay a lot!!
D- You do but I don’t like you to, so I won’t let you.
E- I think for me it would be like $30-40 a week more or less. It mainly depends on the week, but as I said with buying breakfast every morning and spending $10-15 on coffee every couple of days.
8. What do you spend most of your money on?
D- Clothes and shoes.
E- Lately for me its been clothes too. Up until a few weeks ago it used to be makeup, but now I’ve kinda stopped that and shifted to always buying clothes because I always feel like I don’t have anything to wear.
9. What is the most money you’ve spent on something to wear?
D- It would have to be between my Stone Island coat which was about $500 and my Balenciagas which was like $600-$700.
E- For me it would have to be that bathing suit from Barneys I bought recently which was like almost $200 and I literally NEVER do things like that, so yeah lol.
10. How do you think money helps make us happy?
D- Wow thats deep. I find money to be a sense of freedom.
D- Money pretty much gives people the freedom to do whatever they want. Some people work just to work, just because they need money to survive, most people hate their job. But the paycheck at the end of the week almost makes it worth it. They can go out, take a trip, whatever it is at the end of the day to make themselves happy. The more money you have its pretty much the more freedom you have which makes people happy.
E- I feel like I do agree that money is a freedom, but it depends on the person and the type of person that they are. Money can make people feel powerful. It can make them feel powerful like they’ve got the whole world in their hands even if they really don’t and what they have really isn’t that much money to begin with. What they have in that moment is what makes them happy.
11. What qualities do you think a person has to have to make big money and/or be rich?
D- They have to be the type of person to take a leap of faith.
E- Like leadership?
D- Yeah like leadership, effort and being able to take a leap of faith because if you don’t take that leap of faith whatever it is you want won’t ever happen. And you can’t be afraid to fail.
E- I feel like you have to be strong. You have to really be able to not care about what people say or think about your thoughts and ideas.
D- Yeah and not easily brought down or affected by negativity.
E- Yeah if you fall you kind of have to be like well that just happened, now on to the next thing.
D- Exactly you have to be able to pick yourself up when something goes wrong or you fail.
E- You have to also like not be a bullshitter, you have to take action in order to actually get shit done, not just say it and hope that it happens.
12. What does ‘the best things in life are free’ mean to you?
D- The things people take for granted. Like people stressing about the smallest things which makes you lose sight of what’s actually important.
E- To me its that some of the truly best things in life like money can’t buy family time or real friends. I’m sure you could in the sense of bribery or whatever, but they most likely wouldn’t be true, genuine relationships with people or things.
13. How much money do you think you would have to win to be happy?
D- A billion.
D- Because I wouldn’t be able to fully spend that, which is great to think about.
E- Yes you could?
D- You think so?
E- I know so. Look how many people, celebrities, etc. have done it.
D- A billion? Naw I don’t think so, maybe a million.
E- Yeah millions of dollars that would most likely add up to a billion. The same way someone would be able to do it for a million, they would do it for a billion.
D- I mean its possible, if you’re purposely trying to do it then you’re going to spend a lot of money, but living your life regular and in a smart way, I really don’t think so. So yeah, a billion.
E- I think…as much as it takes for me to feel like I’m stress-free. Whatever that might be, which could be a billion or a million or a couple hundred thousand dollars…as long as I would know that all my bills and/or expenses are covered along with my family and the people I care about being good, I’ll be happy.
D- Well yeah thats relatively the same with me saying a billion, its just an actual amount because I think/know that would be enough to be like “mom, don’t worry, I got you.” It wouldn’t just be for me, it would also be for the people I care about around me.
14. What are some reasons that you think people are poor? And do you think poverty can be avoided?
D- I think poverty can be avoided.
D- Yes I think so, but it could always be mislead like you didn’t have the proper guidance or something. Does that make sense?
E- I think it depends on the person and their situation. I think some people definitely do it to themselves, whereas other people don’t have a choice for it. There are people who are alcoholics and drug addicts who do it to themselves, especially when its hardcore. It could be from serious stuff like that to not so serious stuff like having a shopping addiction. And there are other people in the world who are just kind of born into that type of life with no choices for it. Its just kind of what it is and who knows what their parents or guardians reasoning for that was and the ones before that..
15. Why do you think a lot of poor people in many cases are more generous and understanding than rich people?
D- Because they have nothing or no one to rely on they see what they missed out on in life whether intentional or not.
E- It humbles them
D- Yeah. Rich people obviously have a lot, so they never really have to worry about much.
E- Right, and with poor people, the ones who actually don’t have much, are like so grateful for any little bit they can get like wow this is everything to me right now. Rich people can be unappreciative douchebags, not all of them, but some.
16. Do you tend to give tips to people at bars, restaurants, cabs, etc.?
D- We always tip. It depends on who pays for the meal or whatever it is then the other leaves the tip, but we always do.
E- Yeah but you don’t like to sometimes, and if you do, it won’t be a lot.
D- You think so?
E- When they’re good, yeah.
D- Fuck yeah, I’m not gonna throw my money around to whoever.
E- Well no of course, but I feel bad sometimes, when I think about it because one of my old roommates was a waitress and that was like the majority of her income (getting tips).
D- No I understand.
E- So they literally live off their tips. And I know sometimes these people give really shitty service, and sometimes they don’t deserve it, but at the same time, its like damn this is what their going to be going home with at the end of the night.
D- I get it, but thats not my problem. Not to sound fucked up but why am I going to give you this money that I worked for, when you’re giving me barely a half-ass job? I work hard for my money, so if you want it, I don’t see why you can’t do the same. I don’t mind giving anyone a great and big tip, but I expect great service in return.
E- I just always feel bad, I’m too much of a nice person, but it is true that if you don’t deserve it, you’re not going to freakin’ get it.
17. Are you good at saving?
D- Overall, yes!
E- I’m not at all.
D- Alright, I like the honesty.
E- Yeah i mean I really try to be good at saving and lately think I’m actually getting better at it, but I don’t know its just always kind of been difficult for me for some reason. I am slowly getting better at it though!!
18. If you were to win a shit ton of money, would you give up working and what would you spend your time doing?
D- NO! I would go insane if I ever stopped working.
E- ME TOO!!
D- What would I do though? I would get a part-time job and in my spare time I guess just accumulate more money and probably even part take in charity work so that I’m doing SOMETHING and not just home all the time being bored.
E- I don’t think I would ever be able to just stop working. I can’t just sit still, I get bored too fucking quickly so because of that, I always have to keep myself busy doing SOMETHING even if it may not technically be work, it’s gotta be something because I can only do the chilling in bed watching Netflix thing for so long.
19. Are brand names important to you? Why or why not?
D- Yeah. I tend to buy a lot of stuff thats expensive, I just feel like its worth the price. Ultimately, I believe and know that I’m paying for the quality of the product.
E- You could get great quality products for half the price that you would normally pay for designer stuff at stores that you would probably never even think to shop at. Some not all, but nonetheless.
D- I just think that because I’m paying that much money for something, that means the means to create it took a lot longer and was more thought out and detailed then other things that are similar and cost less (personal preference).
E- I guess I could see that to an extent with clothes. But another good example of why I think thats false is makeup. So many people have that mentality that “oh I’m paying all this money for this Givenchy, Dior or Saint Laurent makeup, so of course its gotta be amazing,” but SO many people are sadly mistaken. Most times brands like E.L.F., Wet-N-Wild, and L.A. Girl that sell their products for a couple of dollars are 10 times better than the brands I just mentioned that you spent $40 on a brush, $50 on a powder and $60-$70 on a freakin’ foundation (quality). Maybe its not always like that and really depends on the particular product (like clothes, sneakers, etc.), but I think this was a good example of that and why luxury brands aren’t all that important to me. Personally, if I can find and get something that looks and/or feels similar to a luxury brand product AND for less than half the price, then why not? It’s one thing to splurge once in a blue moon on luxury brand products, but to make it important? No.
20. What do you define as a luxury good?
E- Anything over $100 I consider to be a luxury good. Not as in several things adding up to $100, but if I’m paying over $100 for something then I consider that luxury.
D- To me it would be anything worth quality.
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Well guys that’s pretty much it, the first version of the Battle of the Sexes posts to come.
That was the majority of the conversation we had revolving around all things financial, although I had to cut A LOT out because we kept straying off topic and joking around, and being annoying with each other lol. But I hope you guys enjoyed it and let us know in the comments below your answers to these questions, what you thought about our answers/opinions, what kind of topics for this you would want to see in the future, etc.
-Xoxo, Leo Girl! ❤