5 Tips For a Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationship

Today’s post is actually one that was requested for Diego and I to do.

For those of you that don’t know, we’ve actually been together as a couple for 4 years (4 years and 3, almost 4, months technically).

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**Let me know if you guys would be interested in seeing an entire post dedicated to how we met, got together, etc.**

That being said, we got asked to do a post where we mention the 5 biggest things that we think are needed and/or that we do to keep our relationship going strong all this time, so that’s what we’re doing today.

And by no means with us doing this post, does that mean that we have the ‘perfect relationship’, because we definitely do not. But, we have been together 4 years and the things we are going to mention are things that we’ve come to realize have been EXTREMELY important in us maintaining our relationship for as long as we have.

Also, some of the things we are going to mention did not just happen overnight. It took time for us to really learn and understand how to do these things and get better with them as well to build the strong relationship that we have now at the moment (not perfect, but definitely strong).

In other words, if you’re going to be reading these things and thinking, hoping or expecting for results right away, you’re PROBABLY going to end up being disappointed. Take everything we’re going to mention with a grain of salt, find out how these things can work for you and work towards that. Rome wasn’t built in a day, neither will any sort of relationship(s)!!

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  1. Communication. 100% NOT the first time I’ve mentioned this before, and will definitely not be the last. COMMUNICATION IS E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G in a relationship!!! Cliche? Sorry, but it’s the truth. There’s no way of having a real relationship without it. Without communication how would you ever be able to express yourself and how you’re feeling whether positive or negative? If you and your significant other can’t talk about everything from the good to the bad and the ugly, then maybe you guys shouldn’t be together. And don’t get me wrong, this is one of those things that definitely takes time to master in a relationship. Diego and I still struggle with this every so often because we can both be hard-headed and stubborn, but we’ve gotten A LOT better with it, and this is definitely a key aspect in our (and any) relationship.

2. Compromise. This is another big one. Things are not always going to go your way in a relationship, neither will it always go your significant other’s way. So, if either of you are used to that from previous relationships, you need to throw that mentality out the window. Any true, meaningful relationship has to have compromise in it. If you want to go somewhere on a date that has a specific type of food that you like, and your significant other wants to go somewhere that has completely different options, then you guys need to speak about it and come to a common understanding that maybe one weekend you’ll go to where you want to, then the next weekend you guys will go somewhere he/she likes, OR you find a place that has the type of foods you both like (random example, but you guys get the point lol).

3. Trust/Understanding. Everyone at some point or another has probably been hurt and/or burned from a previous relationship, fling, etc. However, it’s important to understand the current person that you’re with. Chances are if they act certain ways in certain situations of your guys relationship, it’s for a reason. I know many people tend to have a certain mentality and believe that with any new relationship(s) you shouldn’t speak about your past or exes, but I don’t necessarily feel like that’s true, although I will say it does depend on the person you’re with currently, which only you can be the judge of. When Diego and I first got together, I remember one particular night where we were talking about that stuff for HOURS, but it was really just to better understand each other, the things we had both been through and knew we didn’t want to happen in our current relationship.

As for trusting the person, if you don’t trust them, what’s the point of being with them? I know better than anyone what it’s like to be hurt/broken from previous relationships, but you have to some extent keep that out and away from your current relationship, because this is a completely different person, completely different situation and circumstance, etc. Will the thought(s) of it possibly happening again be there? Of course, but you have a right to voice that to your significant other to have them understand your concerns. Besides, that’s also what the ‘talking stage’ before your relationship is for, to determine whether or not you think this person will do the same things your ex did or whether or not you can trust this person enough to actually start a relationship with them.

Obviously the instances I mentioned are predominantly for the beginning stages of a relationship, but I think it goes without saying that it should be continued throughout the rest of your relationship as well.

4. Love. Probably the most obvious one of them all. Like duh, right? But you’d be surprised how many people end up staying with a person for years and years and years just because they feel comfortable and not actually because of loving the person. Being with one person for SO long is not going to be easy, whether it’s just dating or being married to them, but you have to make sure the spark is still there and ‘alive’ in order to really make things work. It’s definitely not always going to be perfect and happy, but it’s a two-way street to make sure that you’re keeping things alive and exciting from physical to the recreational stuff between you two. I tell people that I know all the time that if you’re not IN LOVE with a person, then let them go, because you’re holding them and yourself back from finding the real love of your life, and that’s not fair to either of you. Don’t stay with someone because of comfort or guilt, stay with them because they truly make you happy, you’re in love with them and they actually DO something for you.

5. And lastly, To Have Fun. Your relationship should not be super serious to the point where it not only feels like a job to keep it going, but it’s just not fun anymore. A relationship IS work, but it’s supposed to be fun and loving at the same time. If you guys aren’t having fun with each other, making each other laugh about the corniest things, or enjoying the simplest of things with one another, then why bother? Your significant other is supposed to be your best friend and someone you can tell everything to and know you’re always going to laugh and have fun with.

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Do not get discouraged if these things don’t seem to work for you and your relationship right away. It’s going to take time, but if you really love and care about a person, then you will find a way to make it work (and vice versa with the person on the opposite end of the relationship).

I realize that it’s not always going to be sunshine and daisies throughout your relationship, but we think by having these things be some of the core things to follow in your relationship, then the good and happy times should definitely end up outweighing the bad ones.

I hope this was helpful to you guys in some way, shape or form especially the person who requested to see this post 🙂

Leave me a comment down below or through social media about other posts you guys would like to see and I’ll be sure to make it happen at some point or another. Thanks so much for reading. Please like, share and follow if you haven’t already, and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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Battle of The Sexes: Relationships

Hey Guys!! It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these kinds of posts, but we’re finally back at it and I’m really excited for it 😀 ! So this post is going to be done with a good friend of mine who I’ve known for YEARS named Ralph, (@king__ralph if you want to check out his page on Instagram) say hi to him through the screen or go introduce yourself and show his IG some love!

I thought this topic would be a good one for us to discuss because we’re constantly talking about things like this among ourselves, and he tends to ask for peoples’ opinions on some of these questions on his social media, so I figure it was a good choice.

I’m going to be doing this the same way I did it the first time, which is asking a series of questions, and we’ll both be answering them individually, giving our input on the question/scenario. So let’s get started! 🙂

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For those of you that may be new to my blog and did not know, I am currently in a relationship (which we just recently made 4 years together ❤ 😀 ), so that’s what I’ll be basing a lot of my answers off of and a little on previous relationships. Ralph is not currently in a relationship, so he will be basing his answers on previous relationships and just general thoughts/feelings that he may have on the topics/questions mentioned.

  1.  Can you still be friends with the Opposite Sex?

R: I believe that it shouldn’t matter whether you’re in a relationship or not to be friends with the opposite sex. As adults, we have friendships partnerships and business partners that are of the opposite sex. From experience it’s based off who is insecure about having friends due to how the friends are and what they do for fun.

E: I think you can, I always used to be that type of girl to have more male friends then female friends because I was just able to connect with them more. HOWEVER, I used  to have issues with my partner (not my current one, in general) being able to have friends with the opposite sex because of how I’ve been burned in the past with things like that, so it definitely hindered my trust with things like that, but I think I’ve gotten a lot better with it recently, so overall I’m fine with it so long as they know their boundaries and what’s appropriate and what’s not.

2.  Are conversations with exes okay?

R: Some relationships end off on good standing, so it varies from person to person and the bonds they’ve built together. Sometimes relationships don’t work and it’s okay to be friends, but a lot of people don’t tend to understand how that works because they’ve never had that. In other cases, if it was a toxic relationship and they came to a mutual understanding that it wasn’t meant to work, than that’s it and they let it go and don’t ever speak again.

E: I agree. I really think it comes down to how things were left off and how mature the two people are, whether it was left on a good or bad note and whether you guys feel comfortable with still being able to speak to each other or not.  I’m that type that I don’t necessarily mind being able to speak to an ex once in a blue moon because whatever happened, happened. I don’t hold grudges, and I know that I’m happier now in my current relationship than I’ve ever been, but I’ve never had that kind of experience (being able to stay in contact with an ex), because some people don’t know boundaries and how to respect you or your other relationships after things have ended with them so it’s never really been able to work.

3. Should you give your significant other access to all your social media accounts and passwords to your phone?

R: I believe that a relationship should not eliminate the level of privacy that one should have. There has to be a level of trust when it comes to these social media outlets nowadays.

E: I don’t think it’s ‘necessary’ the way some people make it seem sometimes, but I also don’t mind giving it to my significant other if they asked. I have nothing to hide, so why not? But it also shouldn’t be something that the other person obsessives over all of the time. If it gets to that point that you’re obsessing over your significant others social media accounts/passwords, then maybe you just shouldn’t be with the person.

4. What time do you consider as being “disrespectful” to come back home if you’re in a relationship (like how late or not)?

R: I believe that if a couple has trust without each other and communication is good, then there shouldn’t be any issues of how late or not one should come home.

E: For me it would be anything after like midnight or 1am. Not because I don’t trust Diego or I think it’s disrespectful, but mainly because I worry about things like that a lot (worry as in for his safety and well-being, not if he’s doing anything behind my back) and I won’t be able to sleep if I don’t know that he’s at home safe or not, but he is really good with constantly texting me, keeping me updated and stuff, so that does tend to ease my mind a bit.

5. If you’re in a relationship, do you think its okay to go out of town without your spouse?

R: Yes, going back to trust, if you have a certain level of trust in your partner then that’s all that should really matter. That, and communicating whenever possible as well.

E: Diego and I were just recently talking about this to each other lol. We both agreed that it might be a little weird with not having the other around, but if it’s like a girls or guys trip then why not? We know our boundaries and if at any time we feel uncomfortable about something we’ll voice that to the other and talk it out. Communication is definitely key in a situation like that.

6. How much of your relationship issues or business you may have do you think is okay to share with family or friends? (like how much would be too much, and how much would be acceptable)

R: The amount of information you share with your family or friends is based off how close you are with them. For me, I share nothing with my family because I don’t feel like it’s important for them to know a lot about my life. Some of my close friends, like some I’ve had for 18+ years, I’ll tell them the important things even if we don’t speak every day.

E: When it comes to family I’ve learned the hard way not to say too much, because I’ve come to the harsh realization that at times they can be worse gossipers than your friends and could possibly use whatever you tell them against you later on. Some, not all, but because of those select few, I’ve learned to not say much to most family members unless I’m THAT close to you. Similar with friends, I have a really small group of friends that I consider close enough to tell things like that to, I could probably count them on both my hands.

7. Do you think a couple’s finances should be together (to some extent) or completely separated when just dating?

R: I believe that finances should vary from experience to experience because it depends on the morals of the person. There are males that wouldn’t let a woman pay for anything any time they go out, and sometimes depending on the financial circumstances, there are couples that always do it 50/50.

E: I think if you believe you’re going to be with your significant other for life, then why not? Maybe not as SOON as you guys start dating, but over time for sure. In the beginning, Diego would not let me pay for ANYTHING, literally, for like the first year of our relationship. But as time went on and I ended up getting a better paying job, I wanted to be able to treat him the way that he treated me so I would treat him, then there would be times that we would just pay for ourselves. So it’s definitely somewhere in between now, but we also tend to talk to each other about what we can and can’t do financially and ask each other’s opinions on whether or not we should spend certain amounts of money on certain things, so it works out I think.

8.  How important is physical chemistry to you?

R: Physical chemistry to me, plays a pivotal role. I believe that despite the good communication and good vibes, a balanced, good sex life is needed as well. I’m not perfect, I’m chubby but if the person is willing to accept that than I’m good with that, and vice versa.

E: I agree. I’m not going to sit here and say what a lot of people tend to say which is that ‘looks shouldn’t matter,’ because looks aren’t EVERYTHING, but they definitely do matter to some extent. As well as sexual physical chemistry, I think both types of physical chemistry are extremely important in a healthy relationship, especially more so when you’re an adult and looking to settle down. I feel like it should be the best of both worlds when you’re in a relationship, not great in one way and blah in the other.

9. If your partner had close friends with the opposite sex, how would you feel?

R: I would have to meet them all is all. I personally have 3 female best friends and that throws off a lot of females, like why do you have so many best friends? But for me, it’s important to cherish those kinds of relationships.

E: You know a few years ago, had someone asked me this question, I would’ve said I have absolutely no problem with it. But, in recent years, girls have shown me that they really cannot be trusted. The same girls that get close to your boyfriend, and try to be “cool” with you, are the exact same girls that behind your back, talk the most shit to him about you (or try to) to make you look bad. So I’m pretty iffy when it comes to things like this, and Diego knows that, but I also am not opposed to meeting them and getting a feel for them before full-on judging the friendship or whatever it is.

10. How do you think you handle fights when you’re in a relationship?

R: If you were asking the old me how I handle fights, the answer would’ve been really bad. You learn through experience how to handle arguments and what not, but if you’re asking the current me, now it’s all about talking it out and giving each other space.

E: I think it depends on the kind of fights, or like the reasoning for them. If it’s a stupid little fight, I think both Diego and I can agree that yeah we’ll both get annoyed, but we’ll be fine 5-10 minutes later. But if it’s a full-blown fight about I don’t even know what, we can both be hot heads. We’re also both really hard-headed and stubborn at times, so it might take us a bit to cool down and finally think rationally, then be able to talk whatever out sensibly and come to a common understanding, which is what usually ends up happening.

11. How do you respond when your partner is really late to meet you?

R: I would respond in the fashion of questioning whether or not they’re okay and finding out why exactly they were late; anything past that would be unreasonable.

E: It depends what he’s late for. Like if we have something planned that I’m really excited about and we have to be there (wherever) at a certain time, I’ll get SO annoyed because I’m so anxious and just want to get there already, plus don’t want to miss out on our specific reservation or time slot or whatever it is. But if it’s just that we’re going to hang out somewhere or go out to eat and we said 1pm let’s say, and end up leaving at like 2pm, it’s whatever, who cares lol. Diego on the other hand gets so annoyed with me because I take forever to do my hair and makeup even though I swear that I don’t lol.

12. Do you care to know about your partner’s past? (whether relationships, sexual or not, etc.)

R: I see it this way, a person’s past doesn’t involve you because you’re not around, which means it is none of your business unless they are willing to tell you. The only thing is that if course we should be curious to see what mistakes we shouldn’t make or do like the last person.

E: If it was before me and/or has nothing to do with me, then I don’t care. Unless it’s a bad habit you have or something that may get brought on to our relationship. But with me and Diego, that was just something we spoke about in the beginning because we were both curious about it with the other. It almost gave us a better understanding of each other in a way.

13. When do you think it’s the right time for people to meet each other’s parents/families?

R: I believe that when the relationship is serious and you both agree that this is something you want, that the parents should be met.

E: This is hard. I have absolutely no idea, and can’t even base this off of previous relationships, because my last relationship I didn’t tell them about it since I didn’t get a chance to, they kind of just saw us together and introduced themselves. And my current relationship, my parents already knew of Diego since we had went to elementary school together, and we tried to hide it for a bit just to enjoy it amongst ourselves for a while, and they ended up knowing the entire time lol and approaching us about it. So I wouldn’t be able to answer that tbh, I have no idea, I guess whenever you both feel comfortable about it.

14. Would you relocate for love?

R: It would depend on what my financial situation would look like at the time.

E: Off the top of my head, if I were to be basing it off of just love, I would say yes. But being REALISTIC about the entire thing, I would agree with Ralph, but also it would depend on a few other things with that obviously being one of the most important ones. I would also say that it would depend on where exactly they would be going? Would it be better for you/us financially and the opportunity in general? Would I be able to find work wherever it is we end up? There would be a lot to consider for it, but those would be some of the main things I think.

15. What’s the single most important thing for a relationship to be successful? (in your mind)

R: I have learned that the most important thing in a relationship that’s needed is communication. A person isn’t a mind-reader to be able to fully understand another human being. Often times things get misconstrued due to lack of communication. If one would simply verbalize their feelings in the moment instead of building it up, it would be a better environment for the relationship in general.

E: I agree. I feel like when you’re younger, you hear all of the time that communication is key in a relationship, a little too often even to the point where you almost don’t believe it. But when you grow up and start to actually have serious relationships, you see that ‘communication is key’ is 100% true. It’s the only COMPLETE way to truly understand where a person is coming from, or why they’re acting the way they do, etc. I almost feel like you can’t have a relationship WITHOUT communication realistically.

16. What would you define cheating?

R: I believed that cheating can be considered a number of things. Emotional as well as physical, also verbally based off intentions. For example, if you have any physical sexual contact with another person, that’s cheating; kissing, holding hands, etc. Verbal intent would be planning on it. Another example would be “I can’t wait to be with you later or can’t wait to fuck you”, etc. Emotional would be confiding in another male or female outside of your relationship on your relationship issues with the intention of finding solace in that person which leads to other forms of cheating.

E: Cheating is pretty much anything that you’re doing with someone else (of the opposite sex or just generally out of your relationship) that you feel like you have to lie about or hide from your significant other. If you’re meeting up with someone that you know you’re boyfriend/girlfriend would not like, it can be considered a form of cheating. If you’re texting or calling someone that you know they don’t like or wouldn’t want you to be doing that with but you’re doing it behind their back, that can be considered it too. Some may argue that this isn’t true, but to me, that’s what I would categorize cheating.

17. Do you think you’re typically likeable by your significant others’ family and friends?

R: I believe so, I often get along well and am very sociable with families and friends.

E: I’m pretty likeable when it comes to my significant others’ parents. They typically like the way I am and carry myself. Friends tend to be hit or miss, male friends I get along with quick because we joke around a lot and be dumb with each other and it’s a good time. The female friends as I mentioned earlier, are more hit or miss than anything because of their own intentions.

18. After a break-up, would you ask for your gifts back/would you give back all the gifts given?

R: They can keep them or do whatever they want with them. I bought it for them for a special reason, so it’s theirs to do what they want with it.

E: Same. The only gifts I would REALLY want back are the ones that I like made myself. Which I’ve done before, nothing crazy, but like scrapbooks and stuff because there’s been a few that i put WORK into, and they came out looking beautiful, and for one reason or another we broke up, but lowkey I wanted it back, not because of the person at all, but because of how much effort I put into it and liked how it came out SO much lol.

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So what did you guys think about this one?! Let me know in the comments down below or let us know on social media. Also, if you guys have any suggestions of topics that should or that you would want to see be covered on this segment in the future, please feel free to let me know! 🙂

-Xoxo, Leo Girl! ❤

“Love Is Patient, Love Is Kind…,” You Know The Rest, Right?

Hi Guys! It’s been kind of a long time since the last time I posted anything, since last year actually, and I’m sorry about that, but there’s just been a lot going on lately. Between work, the gym, and other things going on on the side, it’s been a lot and I’ve been exhausted. But I’m back to posting (hopefully) regularly again and I can’t wait for you guys to see my next couple of posts! So let’s get started! 🙂

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Being in a relationship with someone you actually love and care about can be such a beautiful thing. You have someone that’s always going to be there for you, someone you can always talk to, someone you can laugh and be silly with all the time, and someone you can just be your full and complete self with. That’s always the hope anyway. But it’s no secret that in this day and age it’s almost ten times more difficult to find and/or be in a relationship with someone who completely and honestly reciprocates their feelings for you as you do for them. It’s a shame that that’s how things are, but it is what it is I guess.

That being said, I came with these sort of “tips” so to speak, that I think work really well when it comes to being in a relationship. And by no means am I in any way, shape, or form a relationship expert or trying to be one, so as always, when it comes to my posts I can and will only be going off of my personal experiences. And these are definitely things that I think I can say my boyfriend and I follow and are things that have worked really well for us throughout our relationship. And hey, we’ve been together almost 4 years now so I’m thinking it’s working well for us, and could possible work for you too.

(And no, I’m not trying to say or make it seem like we have “the perfect relationship” because we most definitely do not, but we’re happy and always manage to make things work by doing a lot of these things.)

Also, I am fully aware that everyone does things differently and/or in their own way, so the things I’m going to mention are not in any way groundbreaking or that 100% work for everyone. But they are suggestions and things that I have found work really well for us so I figure why not share them?

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I feel like something that is EXTREMELY important in a relationship and anything really is putting yourself first. That’s the key to happiness. And not in a an unhealthy and selfish type of way where all you think about is yourself and you don’t care about anyone’s feelings but your own. In a healthy, selfish way where you love yourself, know your own worth, not losing who you are just because you’re in a relationship and making sure that you are genuinely happy with yourself and that person; which brings me to my first point:

  1. Love yourself before loving someone else. I don’t fully agree with the saying “you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself,” because I think it’s fully possible for it to happen, hell it’s happened to me, but I don’t recommend it. I know that sometimes you can’t control it, but you shouldn’t put yourself in the situation where you love someone else and don’t even actually love yourself because that means you’re always going to put their needs before your own, and sometimes that’s okay, but definitely not always and should not become a habit. Make sure you’re in the right mental and emotional state for yourself before you decide to take on someone else’s feelings as well.
  2. Don’t rush into anything with anyone. I feel like it’s extreme rare to see or hear that people go out on dates anymore. Date! Go out with the person a few times whether they’re full-on expensive dates or chill, simple ones to the park, because the whole point of dating isn’t where you go for the date. The point of dating is spending time with one another and actually getting to know who they are, how they are, and if this is someone you can see yourself being with for however long.
  3. Give each other space. As much as it may be great at first to see that person everyday, you need to give yourselves a little time and space away from each other to be able to miss one another a bit, especially if you guys are just dating at the moment. Obviously it would be different when you guys move in together and/or get married, but for the time being give yourselves a chance to miss each other. I know a few couples that were together for a number of years and saw each other literally EVERY SINGLE DAY for several hours a day, and it was great at first, but it just got to a point where they broke up because they got tired of each other since they were always together and never did anything apart. A little bit of space is always okay.
  4. A relationship consists of TWO people, not just one person or the other. It’s a two-way street as cliche as it may sound. Losing yourself/changing yourself just to make the other person happy because they may not like certain qualities about you is a no-no. It’s one thing to compromise with each other and help change certain bad habits about yourself and/or the other person, but it’s another thing when they may be knit-picking the smallest things to get on you about that they may dislike, because ultimately, they can’t force you to change yourself. Just as you can’t force them to change themselves. If it’s one thing that I’ve learned from previous relationships, it’s that you can’t force someone to change, no matter how bad they’re habits are or how badly you want them to. A person has got to want to change in order for it to happen. And if they really love/care about you, they will, otherwise you might just be wasting your time and energy.
  5. DO NOT publicize your business to the whole world about every little thing you go through on social media. This is pretty self-explanatory. This generation has gotten WAAAAAY too used to publicizing any little thing they go through in a relationship; if you guys break-up, if you got into an argument, if the person cheated, etc. And to an extent, I get it because you’re so upset and it’s in a really weird way like a coping and/or venting method. But it’s just not okay because 1. what happened between you two is your business, no matter how terrible it was and not everybody needs to know about it. And 2. if we’re being really real, a lot of you make yourselves look real stupid doing that because y’all end up getting back with them a few days or weeks later. And I think y’all think everyone forgets about when you completely posted about he/she cheating on you, when in actuality SO many people do not lol. Call it nosy, or whatever you want to consider it but it is what it is. A lot of people don’t forget, and then at that point you can’t tell people to mind their business or that everyone be in your business and putting they’re two sense in because you really did it to yourself from the beginning.
  6. Don’t believe everything you may hear about a person when starting a new relationship. If they’re instagram famous and you hear all these crazy things about them when they’re in a relationship, or just rumors in general about “regular” people, don’t believe it all. But also, don’t be naive and turn a blind eye to it. Just listen, take it into account and be mindful of it until you see (or don’t see these things) for yourself. Come to your own conclusions about the person, because people can be really envious and for all you know their just saying a lot of those things so that you won’t go for them and they will (that’s happened to me quiet a few times).
  7. Communication. Communication. C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-I-O-N!! You CANNOT have or be in a relationship without it. Talk it out, talk EVERYTHING out even if it takes hours. And if they find that annoying, boring or repetitive, well than maybe they’re not the right person for you. Communication really is key, from the biggest things to the most silly things.
  8. Support one another. Again, from the silliest things to all their hopes and dreams. If you can’t count on your significant other to love and support your aspirations, then what’s even the point of being in a relationship with them?
  9. The “Spark”- Don’t be with someone just to be with them and be able to say that you’re you in a relationship. Make sure there’s a real connection there between you two. Going for the looks will only take you so far in a relationship. If you don’t feel any real spark, then just let them go. Of course dating around and having fun is extremely important, especially when you’re young, but you also shouldn’t be wasting yours or the other person’s time.
  10. DON’T LET SOCIAL MEDIA DETERMINE HOW YOU OR YOUR RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE!! Relationship goals are what YOU make them. Yes, those couples you see on social media doing outrageous things for one another are unbelievably cute sometimes, but you’re not them, and every couple is different in how they do things. Maybe you can’t afford to do things like that and vice versa with them. Maybe you guys just never thought to do certain things like that for one another, but that’s okay. It doesn’t make you guys any better or worse of a couple for not being able to. Do things that make you guys happy and always have.
  11. And finally, If you’re not meant to be in a relationship or ready for it, don’t be in one. I  know i briefly touched upon this before, but it really is true and so important. It’s not fair to the other person, and especially don’t do it just because you may feel bad for them. Just be open and honest with the person about how you feel and they should understand instead of being led on. And if they don’t, well you can’t be mad at them for that, it’s just how they feel and maybe it wasn’t meant to be.

This generation has gotten way too used to getting into a disagreement of some sort with their significant other and immediately turning to what they think is the best and/or easiest alternative which is either just breaking up, or worse, cheating. Like cut the crap, grow up, and actually talk shit out and/or work it out. That is, if you ACTUALLY  love and care about the person, otherwise don’t even bother to be honest.

A relationship takes time and effort. There’s going to be highs and lows, that’s inevitable, but how you choose to deal with those highs and lows will determine whether or not your relationship will make it. But it also shouldn’t feel like work. It shouldn’t be or feel like you’re killing yourself just to ensure that the relationship stays together. At the end of the day, although there will be lows, you should be happy and having fun with the person that you’re with, especially if you’re trying to have a real future with that person.

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That’s all I’ve got for you guys and this post today. Let me know in the comments below what you guys think about the things I mentioned and if you think I missed or left anything out.

Also let me know if there are any particular things you guys would want to see me post about in the future. Remember any and all feedback from you guys is always welcome!

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤