RANT: Catcalling

Let’s start with the obvious which is, “what exactly is catcalling?”

For those of you that don’t know and/or maybe have just not heard the term, catcalling is making a whistle sound, shouting or generally making a comment of a sexual nature to a woman passing  by. So ultimately, when you’re being harassed in the street by a guy or group of guys….

You may be thinking, why are you writing an entire blog post on something like this? And the answer is pretty simple actually, it’s because in the day and age that we live in, it’s something that needs to be brought to light and spoken about more then what it actually is.

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For those of you that don’t know, I’m from the South Bronx, born and raised, where things like catcalling occur on a regular day to day basis. Obviously I know that this is something that happens universally, but I can and will only speak based off of my own personal experiences, which is what I’m doing right now.

This is a topic I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. It’s one that I’ve gone back and forth about writing for a while because it’s another one of those controversial topics. The only difference is, I’ve actually been a victim of this myself, for many, many years…since I was about 13-14 years old….I’m 23 about to be 24 in a few months….

How crazy is that to think about?

Granted, it’s not something that I’ve had to deal with every single day of my life, and obviously there are some girls/women that probably have it MUCH worse then me and others, but nonetheless I think it’s something that needs to get addressed more.

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Now to some, it may just look or seem as if a girl is ONLY getting complimented by a guy, right? And for some guys/men that IS actually all that is, but for others, it’s so much more…For others, it’s more along the lines of sexual harassment then anything else.

I can remember being MUCH younger, maybe early teens, having grown ass men whistle at me, etc. and my mom simply telling me to ignore it and brush it off. Now, I’m not at all blaming her for anything, because in hindsight, I can understand why she told me to do that, but to the same extent, I could never understand how grown ass men like that, who were old enough to be an uncle of mine, or even my FATHER, was trying to hit on me like that??? I mean I was ultimately a little girl compared to them.

And Lord knows things like that have really only gotten worse with time unfortunately. Some girls (including myself) can’t even walk down certain streets without having to worry about whether or not that’s going to happen and whether or not it’s even going to be one or several guys. ON TOP of worrying about to what extent exactly they’ll take it to.

This kind of harassment has gotten to a certain point for some girls/women that not only will the guys curse them out for getting ignored or rejected, but some of them actually take it to the extreme of actually getting violent with these poor girls, and either  beating, or even worse, killing them.

Thank God it has never gotten to that extent for me or anyone that I know, but it does STILL happen and it’s DISGUSTING. It’s ridiculous that girls/women have to not only watch their backs in the streets nowadays, but also have to be ‘extra’ careful in the things they wear for fear that it may draw too much attention to them??? And not even really watch what they wear because it’s to the point that girls can look bummy as hell and it still happens to them.

Women should be able to wear (to some extent) whatever the hell they want that makes them feel pretty, sexy and/or confident without having to worry about whether or not they’re going to get harassed because of it. It’s honestly disgusting and sad that that’s the kind of would we’re living in at this point.

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I’ve realized that I’ve become such an aggressive person because of things like that now, which isn’t necessarily good, but it is what it is I guess at this point.

Like, instead of simply ignoring it the way that a lot of people suggest for me to do, I end up feeding into it and them in a sense, by flipping them off in the streets when they try to talk to me, or cursing them out for staring so hard and/or trying anything, etc.

And I’m not at all suggesting for anyone reading this to do that, but that’s just where I’m at with this kind of situation, personally, from how “normal”, annoying and frustrating it’s become….

I suppose there’s no one real ‘purpose’ for this post other than me wanting to be able to rant about this thing weighing on my mind heavy lately, and the final 2 thoughts that pop into my head:

  1. Ladies…be careful out there. You’re all beautiful, and as much as we want to be treated as equals and be as free as possible, unfortunately in the day and age that we live in, we’ve got to be extra careful and safe out there in the world. So, stay pretty and please stay safe.
  2. Men….ya’ll gotta do better (not all men, but the dirtbags out there preying on little girls and grown women). Learn how to treat a woman, and learn how to respect them and their decisions if they’re not interested and/or decide to ignore you.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I haven’t done a rant/random rambles sort of post in SUCH a long time, so it felt pretty good to finally get one out there again haha.

Let me know in the comments below and/or through social media your guys’ thoughts on cat-calling. Have you experienced it before? How did you deal with it? etc. I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on it.

As always, thank you guys so much for reading. Please like, follow, share and comment and I’ll see you guys in my next post!

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PS: I really am sorry about being so M.I.A. lately on the blog. Although it’s happened a few times in recent months, you guys have no idea how much I hate doing that and making (what feels like) excuses to you guys about why I’m not posting. There’s just been a lot going on, and that’s no excuse, but I’m doing my best to get back on track and keep pushing through to continue to be as consistent as possible with you guys.

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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The Road To Success

In light of the new year just (for the most part) beginning and everyone creating vision boards for their goals, making new resolutions for the year, etc., I’ve been thinking a lot about the road to success.

What exactly is the Road to Success and how do you get to it? Does it always work? Is it the same for everybody? Will what works for me, work for you as well? What exactly is the key to success and achieving all of these goals for the year that you’re setting for yourself?

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Robert Frost once said, ” Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” In other words, do what you don’t see others doing. Be different. Be bold. Be unique. Do what feels best for yourself.

So, to answer my earlier questions, I think the way that you get it and/or find it is completely up to you. I think if something works for you, then you should continue to do that thing until you are shown otherwise. And I do not think the same tactics you use for yourself to succeed will work on everyone else.

With that being said, everybody works differently, does things differently in general, etc., so what works for me, MAY work for you, but there’s also a big chance that it may not, and that goes for everything. And even if it DOES work for you, chances are, somehow or another, you tweaked it in some way, shape or form to your own liking (which is okay!).

I could very easily tell you what I consider to be the Road to Success, or what I think it is anyway, but it would just solely be based off of my own personal experiences, preferences, etc. so there’s really no right or wrong answer for what it actually is.

I do, however, WANT to tell you guys what I think are steps to getting to the Road to Success because it may inspire you to follow those steps but have a different and even better outcome then my own, or even just create your own steps for how to get there.

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Ultimately, I think the Road to Success is what you make of it for yourself. It’s whatever makes you feel right inside and happy.

So, personally, these are a few of the things I’ve done to make sure that within myself, I’ve succeeded at what I’m doing, or at the very least, am on my way to reaching success…

  1. Find what it is that you’re most passionate about.
  2. Once you’ve found that thing, just do it….A LOT.
  3. Read about it, learn about it in different aspects, and learn ways to perfect it.
  4. Actually try to perfect it.
  5. Do not let the thoughts or opinions of others bring you down for what you’re trying to do (it’s easy to be intimated by people’s opinions, but it’s always going to be a learning process, and no one can judge you for that and/or take that away from you).
  6. Take criticism with a grain of salt. Constructive criticism is always welcomed (or should be), but some people like to criticize without actually having any real insight on what it is you’re saying/doing. So, hear them out, take what they’re saying and try to use it in a positive way to better yourself.
  7. Always focus on the goal(s), that which ultimately is to succeed in whatever it is that you want to do, and don’t let anything get in the way of that.

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Those are a few of my steps to finding and achieving the Road to Success, to some degree. I’m sure there are PLENTY of others, but at the moment, those are the only ones that I can think of.

But, one of the most important things I think that there is to truly keep in mind about the Road to Success, is that it’s always under construction and will be a work in progress.

There’s always going to be something you can do to make what you’re passionate about, better. It also doesn’t happen overnight, and does NOT come easily. But that’s okay, because nothing worth having comes easy.

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Just something to keep in mind/think about amid the start of the new year.

I hope that this post inspired you in some way, shape or form and motivated you to want to start your journey of seeking the Road to Success. I also hope that one day, whether soon or in the future, you actually make it there and that I have the pleasure of being able to read about it.

Leave a comment down below what you guys think the Road to Success is and/or your steps for getting there. I always love hearing from you guys.

Please follow, like, share and comment and I’ll see you guys in the next one. ❤

-Xoxo, Leo Girl ❤

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2019 Goals

Happy Sunday [night] everyone!

I hope that the first weekend of 2019 was fun, relaxing and rejuvenating for you all! 🙂

For today’s post, I thought it would be nice to share with you guys some of my goals, but not necessarily by doing it the old fashion way of just mapping them all out for you guys.

This year, Diego and I thought it would be fun to create vision boards for goals of 2019. Neither of us had done one before, and we both have SO many things that we want to do/accomplish together and individually that we figure, why not?! It’s a great way to have fun and be creative while also doing serious thinking about the major things we want and hope to get done this year.

So that’s what I’m going to be talking about and showing you guys today!

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What’s a Vision Board?

Even though I just briefly discussed it, for those of you that don’t know, a vision board is ultimately a fun and creative project that people do to map out their goals/plans.

Personally, I’ve only ever REALLY heard of people doing this for the new year, but I’m sure people do it for other times as well.

It’s completely up to you, the person making it, to determine how creative or simple it is that you want to have it, but based on THAT will determine whether or not you have printed pictures, cut-outs from magazines, stickers, etc. and how MUCH of those things you end up including as well.

You use all of these things to basically either back-up the goal your mentioning (as a visual for it) or substitute what you’re actually trying to say with an image instead. As long as you understand what it means, that’s all that really matters.

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My Vision Board!

When it comes to doing little art projects like this, I LOVE getting as creative as possible, even if it means going all out in buying little art supplies and what not.

I take my time, I’m extra as hell, and end up being a perfectionist about it! haha.

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For this in particular however, it was creative and cute yet pretty simple. I’m super happy and proud of it.

Most of the supplies we bought were actually from Dollar Tree; the poster board, stickers, speech/dialogue bubbles, glue stick and markers (reason #12281057047 why Dollar Tree is the bomb.com especially if you’re on a budget like me).

My Vision Board is pretty self-explanatory, especially since everything is pretty much written on it exactly how I want it, but ultimately for this year, I just want to be happy. I want to be happy and doing anything and everything that I love and am passionate about it.

I want good health, happiness and prosperity, doesn’t everybody? But it goes more in depth when you see the final product of my board.

So, scroll down to see the (semi) final product of my Vision Board!

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I say that it’s semi-done because I still want and need to add a few more little pictures to it before I can officially say its complete, but the majority of it IS done.

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I really hope that you guys not only enjoyed this post, but also felt inspired to want to go out and create your own vision board!

And whether you already have created one, or are going to do it in the coming days, I hope that 2019 is an amazing and productive year for you all and that you get to accomplish every single thing on your board/list.

Let me know in the comments below if you guys have ever created a vision board and if so, what are some of the goals on them for this year?!

Please like, share, follow and comment and I’ll see you guys in my next post! 😉

*Also, special shoutout to my mama, who’s birthday is today!! Happy Birthday mama, i love you! ❤ *

-Xoxo, LeoGirl ❤

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